Expert: Azure - 1/20/2010

Question
Not a relationship question in the romantic sense, but a relationship question nonetheless. So I had lived all through college with various roommates, and last semester I lived with two roommates in a 3 bedroom house. They were serious trailer trash and acted like complete savages, screaming at me and calling me all kinds of names, and telling me to 'move the fuck out and go live with your own pals' i mean, i seriously dont know what their problem was. they're nuts! it was horrible living with them and i put up with a lot of abuse. i tried to be friendly and get to know them, but it was almost impossible becasue they took an instant dislike to me. who knows why.

i always stood up for myself. and im proud i did. i dont take shit from no one. but...with these people being irrational, there was no point arguing, becuase they were seriously demented. so eventually i just ignored them.

anyway so the day i moved out, when i was about to board the airplane home, they came with me to the airport and sat until my flight came. we finally had a normal conversation, and they asked me why i was afraid of flying, and i said 'because my husband had been killed in a plane crash' and their faces went as white as a sheet. OBVIOUSLY they didnt know me very well. then i boarded the plane and left.

now i live somewhere else adn months later im getting all these facebook messages from them asking how i am all of a sudden.

lmao...

do you think they are feeling guilty now? after i told them how my hubby had died? feeling bad because they were harassing me when i had gone through such a horrific death.

WEIRDEST thing - I MISS THEM!!!!

and can you tell me why this is happening to. why if these people treated me so badly, why do i miss them now. is it because we lived together for a while, so i got used to having their energy around me?

im sure this situation is quite common. at some point in everyones life we date/live with/become friends with someone who is a wack job and sucks the life out of you. "TOXIC PEOPLE" is what i call them.

i guess 'toxic' people are my entertainment... just focus on the ones u love... cant let the haters get u down i guess... hmm.

any thoughts...its weird i miss them! lmao theyre probably missing me due to those emails HAHA.

perhaps the email was an odd way of apologizing, who knows?

Answer
as you said, who knows--neither of us can read their minds--your theory as to some guilt on their part is as reasonable as any...not quite sure you miss their bad behavior (which unfortunately defines a good chunk of who they are)..now that they've showed a more "real" side, could be that what you call "missing" is a touch of disappointment that because of their antics, an opportunity was MISSED to relate to one another as compassionate beings--still, better late than never..