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QUESTION: I was violently bullied at the workplace by another coworker. I reported her anonymously and she got fired from the job.

We have a lot of different companies that do business for us that she is contracted with, to work for each of them for 3 months, and they all also terminated her instantly from their contract after they read the report I made. So for the next 2 years, she has no chance of a job anywhere in the field.

At the time I made the report, she was 2 months into a 3 month internship across the country. They fired her on the spot, told her she had to leave the campus that day, the housing director for the interns threw her out of the apartment that same day, made her pack up all her bags, and she had to fly home the next day. OUCH.

When this happened, she was LAUGHING! I couldn't believe it.

Well, it was pretty obvious it was me who reported her (I'm the only person she bullied, plus I had described specific instances, so no one else could have written it)

She was fired from every single one of those places, they all sent her termination letters on the same day, and she was STILL laughing when she was let go. LAUGHING!

She has a personal connection to the CEO of the company, so that's probably why she just laughs. She knows she can just get back in eventually. And actually she did, she got her job back, but in a different department.

That explains why she was a bully - she KNEW she could get away with it.

However those 3-month-internships that she had lined up for the next 2 years, those are all destroyed. They permanently banned her for life.

I left the company since every single person who works there is her friend and the entire workplace hates my guts with a passion. They are all kind of mean, nasty people.

I have now been given 3 new job offers and am deciding which one to take.

What is your impression of this situation? Why was she laughing so much? sure she got her job back but those internships throwing her out and all firing her must have been a huge blow.

I didn't even mean for all that to happen. I didn't wanna screw up her life or career. I wanted to just report bad behavior...

ANSWER: Dear Tina,

I understand  your  scenario.I  won't blame you for what  you  did.Don't feel guilty.
ALL YOU MUST DO IS TO PRAY FOR THE  CONCERNED LADY EVERY DAY AND ASK GOD TO HELP HER.I BET GOD WILL CHANGE HER LIFE  IF YOU  OFFER SERIOUS SUPPLICATIONS TO HIM REGULARLY

Dr.Sunu
www.mindpanchakarma.org

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QUESTION: Actually I didn't leave. I was FIRED. the company took her side, and claimed that I made false allegations of bullying, and fired ME and kept HER at the job!

omg this is crazy!

the company knows that the bullying happened, because I had constantly reported it, and they ignored it. so they know they are lying.

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IF YOU  WISH THAT YOU WANT REAL  JUSTICE, THEN YOU MUST  KNOCK THE DOORS OF GOD THE ETERNAL  JUDGE.

I  SUGGEST YOU PRAY EVERY DAY  EARLY MORNING  TWO HOURS   IN YOUR CLOSED  ROOM.OBSERVE  24 HOURS OF  FASTING, PRAYERS(LOUD) EVERY WEEK.WALK IN HOLY WAYS.REPENT FOR ALL YOUR SINS.PRAY FOR ALL THE   SUFFERING POPULATION EVERYDAY

I BET THINGS WILL CHANGE

-Dr.Sunu  

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I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.I can answer questions related to sexually abusive relationships in families. I can effectively deal with victims of abusive relationship. I am also efficient in dealing with child abuse and incest. I am here to help others who have questions related to above said issues. You may visit www.mindpanchakarma.org to know more about my mission

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I have been a dealing with victims of sexual abuse since 2000.I have dealt with many teenagers who suffered abusive relationships. Listening to victims of incest and child sexual abuse has made me a better counselor in dealing with these issues.

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Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram(MDT) In Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram we treat people focusing on holistic healing. Various types of therapies offered here for detoxifiying the mind and body are derived from the wisdom of traditional Indian medical system and medicines. Victims of abusive relationship are offered special One to One residential therapy for complete healing of mind. Special packages for healthy life are available for couples and students. Treatments offered her are based on alternative medical system derived from the wisdom of saints on ancient times. Treatments are harmless with no side effects. A team of doctors headed by Dr.Sunu,committed towards the welfare of the patients are on duty in the MDT clinic

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I have been writing on psychological issues in a Tamil monthly magazine called 'KULANTHAIGAL PARALUMANTAM'. I also write in a health magazine Makkal Maruthuvam.

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I have a Master degree in Psychology. I also have another Master degree in Sociology. I have taken intense training from the Jesuits for seven years in the field of Personality, Self, Discipline and Morality. I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.

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