Expert: David Simonsen - 11/26/2010

Question
Ok this guy and i have been dating for 7 months now and it started off great i had a lot of fun with him and my friends. After the summer he cut off from all his friends and wants to spend ALL his time with me. Its really annoying actually. As a result of that I lost a lot of my friends. It happened so quickly i didnt even reliese it. The I remeber one night we were laying down and he asked if i would do a favor for him and give him sex. I was too tired that night from sports so i told him no. he begged for ten minutes and then he turned away from me threatning to leave. I didn't care because I thought that was crazy but when he walked out the door i yelled ok i will because he was being serious. Then he apologized for acting that way. He constantly has me doing stuff when im too tired. When he was about to leave for his families house for two weeks he knows i hate hickeys and he tried giving me one. I asked him what he thought he was doing and he said marking my territory. I was like are your really serious? He told me he was joking 10 minutes later but those words just stuck with me. So do you think its abusive or am I just too thinkative?

Answer
Cindy,
I wouldn't really say this was an abusive relationship but a very immature one. Why are you even with him still? He seems like a little child that you have to tolerate. I think you should move on to a relationship where the other person actually respects what you request of them. This guy seems to be more focused on himself and then when you call him on it he says he is joking. If you want to continue with that craziness stay with him. If not then move on.
David
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