Expert: Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP - 11/11/2010

Question
Ok so i have been going out with my boyfriend on and of for
about 4 months now, i am 16 and he is 17, i think we love
each other, In the start of the relationship it was great
and i couldnt bare bein away from him, he lives away from me
so i sometimes go to his home or he comes to visit me.
One night we got really drunk and we where in bed, i
accidently hit him on the head with a wooden kind of thing,
but it was just a light tap, and he started destorying the
room, i couldnt bare to see him angry so i ran down the
stairs, he ran down after me pinned me up against the door,
and looked at me and said "where do you think your going"
then dragged me back up the stairs and through me on the bed
and started shouting and threttorning me, he never hit me
though. I was so shuck up and scared i couldnt stop crying
and shaking.   The other day i wouldnt have sex with him
because i was on my period, he got really angry, and chucked
me out,i am scared of him and i dont no what to do, Please
help          x

Answer
Dear Amber,
What you do is leave him for good and if he comes near you again, report him to the police.  This kind of behavior is absolutely uncalled for and if you stay with him, you can expect more of the same.  Physically abusive men have a very difficult time controlling themselves.  You have no reason to stay with someone like this and it would be better for you to get out of the relationship now and find someone who treats you with respect than invest more time and possibly be hurt in the process.  Someone who treats you this way does not love you.  Love doesn't hurt and love doesn't scare people.

Seriously, this is the best course of action for you at this time.  Aggression and physical violence statistically increase over time.

If I can be of any further assistance, please feel free to contact me again.  

Blessings,  Kriss Mitchell
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