Expert: james52144@earthlink.net - 2/28/2010

Question
Hey there. I am in my first year at university, and I've tried to steer clear of relationships for now because I am trying to focus on my studies, but last semester in my English class, I accidentally met a 25 year old student who seemed to have a lot in common with me.

On the first day we met he asked for my number because we seemed to get along quite well, and I was looking forward to having a new friend However, after a week, things changed. He started becoming quite rude to me, and he kept teasing me in a very childish manner

Odd thing is, the following week after, he went back to his nice old self as he was when I first met him. I didn't think much about it, and let it slide because I thought maybe he was having a rough day.

Unfortunately, it has continued even really recently. He has called me before, and he did a while back, and asked if we could hang out. We did, we went to lunch, and he seemed to be just fine for about 2 hours, however after those 2 hours, he suddenly turned back into Mr. Hyde, so to speak. He went so far as not even helping me up when I nearly slipped on some ice

I thought that was the last straw, and I didn't bother talking to him after that, but sadly, he called me back after a month, and he was all nice again. And just yesterday, he called me and asked if we could hang out again.

Now here is my question. Does this guy enjoying making a fool of me? Is he using me for his own personal game and to get a good laugh whenever he's bored? Or is there something deeper going on?
Thanks.

Answer
Dear Abby

I doubt that he is acting intentionally. It sounds more like a personality disorder or deep seated insecurity. I would recommend that you gently tell him you are not interested and part ways. This could become a real distraction for you at best. Good luck.