Expert: David Simonsen - 3/23/2010

Question
Is it abuse when a husband first curses you then tells you how terriable you are then tell you he's done with you and your children then takes off his wedding ring then dosnt talk to you or eat with you or anything for over a week? His reason is the house wasn't cleaned good enough. He's made me feel worthless sad and I feel a sence of loss. I thought he might be bi polar because he's sweet then goes instantly after a few weeks into a totally different person! A cruel mean hurtful person. Can you help me please?

Answer
Lynette,
I don't think it's a healthy way to act. It disrespects you and it also teaches you children a bad way to interact in the future. I would suggest counseling and if he is not willing to attend, you go by yourself to talk to someone about coming up with a strategy. You could also move out and in with friends or family and let you husband know you will come back when he chooses to change his behavior.
David
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