Expert: David Simonsen - 3/6/2010

Question
My boyfriend and I get along for the most part, but sometimes when we have arguments things get physical. Some of the things that he will say to me make me so angry that I show my anger through physical contact. I will hit him mostly and sometimes slap. At times its hard to control myself because he makes me so angry and hurt. But when he gets too angry he will choke me. He will cover my mouth and nose with his hand and try to smother me and his other hand will be on my throat. He then stops after a few seconds and hates himself for doing it. I feel like its a way for him to make me stop hitting him and to stop the fight but the last time he did this he said something like i could just kill you. I know I myself shouldn't be hitting him but I don't take it to the extreme like I feel he does. I don't know what I should do.

Answer
Lexi,
Are you kidding me? You seriously don't know what to do? You should get out while you are still alive. At a minimum call the police. You both have anger issues that need to get resolved before you even think about being in a relationship.
David