Expert: Azure - 3/13/2010

Question
We've been together for 9 years, and lately the relationship has been in turmoil since getting back togther. He constantly tells me im cheating on him. I choose not to go anywhere, I gave up my family, friends, job just to stay in his room all day and not do anything. WHY? because of the fighting! Even giving all that up it onlee seems to get worst. He expects me to show him affection and support no mater how im being treated by him. Our relationship is about to hit rock bottom again because of his actions towards me, its also causing me to be violent towards him a side i never had before. At times he makes me feel cheap, slutty,trashy, ugly, dirty and then a sec after all the name calling he lays next to me saying he loves me! Thats when i get violent and start hitting him, Trust me he hits back too. I just dont undestand why is it hard for me to leave him. I dont understand any of this. Please can you help me.

Answer
it's an addiction, and like a drug, it's a hard habit to break; insecurity as to being alone is probably also part of it; the choice is simple, a miserable, unhealthy life of quiet desperation, or finding the courage to save yourself by getting out; get counseling to help you make the right decision..