Expert: Azure - 4/24/2010

Question
my boyfriend and i had been together for 16 months. things were really good for a while but then he thought he needed a break because he felt too trapped. so we had a one month break but during the one month i tried to work things out again which made him call me names and say nasty things to me. He said I'm a snobby bitch who only thinks about yourself and i should go have sex with other guys and he threw a pillow at me. and during the one month break he would try to have sex with me. he said we should be friends with benefits where i totally said no. i had a hard time moving on and i decided one day i will be better off without him. so i told him him done begging for you to come back im gonna move on so lets just be friends and he called me the next day saying that he needs to talk to me. I said ok and he said i think i made a mistake i want to get back with you. im sorry for everything i said and did to you. so  i took him back and things were good. but if we get into a little augment he says fuck you. today we got into an arugement and he was just screaming on the phone saying fuck you get the fuck out of my life you bitch. seriously you're a bitch and i fucking hate you. i don't wanna talk to you, text with you, and spend time with you. those words hurt me alot but stupid me still loves him a lot. he said sorry for cursing at me and he said he wants to be wit me but when we fight it drains him out and wants to give up. He said that he doesn't love me as much as he did before but if we continue this relationship and we don't argue he knows that his love will grow back to where he first loved me. But i don't know what to do. should i stay with him and trust him again or just get out of this.

Answer
let's face it, if it wasn't for your insecurities, this jerk would have been gone long ago; who puts up with emotional abuse, insults, disrespect, other unloving behavior that repeats itself?..he'll abuse you, then say what he has to in order to lure you back into bed; so, you can remain addicted to this unhealthy arrangement and give up ALL self-esteem, or never speak to him again, recapture your sanity, and give yourself a REAL chance at happiness--take your pick..