Expert: Azure - 5/26/2010

Question
I am unsure if this relationship is abusive or not I just know that I feel that there is something wrong and I need some advice. I have been with my partner for just over a year, after about two months we got engaged and a few months after that we moved into together. I was unsure about moving in but he was insistent and became moody when I said we couldn't afford it so I gave in. Everthing was really great at the start but then he became really clingy. I used to go out with my friends but this made him really upset and I started to feel guilty so now I don't go out unless it's just to there houses for a couple of hours but even that is rare and most of my friends I don't see now. I don't live near my family so rarely get the chance to go and visit them when I say I miss them he gets angry and says he doesn't like me saying that cause it means I care more about them than I do him. I don't go out with people from work cause he doesn't understand why I would want to as they are 'colleagues' and not 'friends'. I have always really wanted to travel but everytime I suggest I could go for just a couple of weeks he says he wouldn't cope without me. When I visit my family for the weekend he stays in and drinks and is always moody and I end up coming back early cause I feel guilty. He checks my emails and got really upset about an email that was sent 4yrs ago to my ex. There are many more things I could add buti'm not sure if I'm just over reacting???

Answer
sounds more like a prisoner than a relationship partner..whether you call it abuse or not it unimportant; the real question is, why have you given up your life, friends, spirit, soul...for this?..your options are more of the same in a life of quiet desperation, or freeing yourself from a unhealthy partner/relationship...take your pick...