Abusive Relationships/should i dump him?

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Expert: - 6/10/2010


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Hi,

I met this guy, really nice, sweet and handsome. Dressed well, in graduate school, has a good job and good manners.

So I Googled him and his myspace came up. On it he has a blog.

It is from 2004, and the blog is about all the girls he had sex with that he met at the bars, one night stands and wild escapades.

In it, he wrote how he met one girl, she was fat and ugly and he called her "pig girl" He took her home to fuck her but in the middle of kissing, she fell asleep and refused him sex. He woke her up and yanked her panties down, and said you can either sleep in my bed and have sex with me, or you can go home. She said no, rolled over and went to sleep again.

He was enraged with anger for tricking him into going home with her and then not giving her anything. He waited until she was asleep, and he rubbed his penis, and blew a load of semen all over her face, and left. All his myspace friends were posting saying how funny that was.

There was another posting, he worked at a gym as a personal trainer, and there was another personal trainer who was a woman, who yelled at him all the time. She was really mean and bitchy. So he went into her locker (she didn't lock it) found her shampoo bottle and shower gel/body wash, and he ejaculated into both of them, and came back to work. Other Myspace posters wrote under it saying how funny that was.

That was all in 2004, this is 2010 now.

My friends asked him about all this and he said, yes, it was all true.

Hmmm...it's been 6 years...I am SHOCKED reading this, that's all I can say.

Do you think he has changed by now? Should I quit dating him?

tina

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Dear Tina,

Peace

" A TREE IS KNOWN BY ITS  FRUITS' said Jesus

I suggest you  to quit dating him  by all means. If you continue there is  a  awaiting tragedy. This is   my  humble suggestion  as  a psychologist  committed to  Jesus and  spiritual realities.
Wait for  the man  that God will bring  you in  life. Pray to Him for direction everyday diligently

I wish you all the best in the future.

-Sunu

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Dr.Sunu Sundar

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I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.I can answer questions related to sexually abusive relationships in families. I can effectively deal with victims of abusive relationship. I am also efficient in dealing with child abuse and incest. I am here to help others who have questions related to above said issues. You may visit www.mindpanchakarma.org to know more about my mission

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I have been a dealing with victims of sexual abuse since 2000.I have dealt with many teenagers who suffered abusive relationships. Listening to victims of incest and child sexual abuse has made me a better counselor in dealing with these issues.

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Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram(MDT) In Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram we treat people focusing on holistic healing. Various types of therapies offered here for detoxifiying the mind and body are derived from the wisdom of traditional Indian medical system and medicines. Victims of abusive relationship are offered special One to One residential therapy for complete healing of mind. Special packages for healthy life are available for couples and students. Treatments offered her are based on alternative medical system derived from the wisdom of saints on ancient times. Treatments are harmless with no side effects. A team of doctors headed by Dr.Sunu,committed towards the welfare of the patients are on duty in the MDT clinic

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I have been writing on psychological issues in a Tamil monthly magazine called 'KULANTHAIGAL PARALUMANTAM'. I also write in a health magazine Makkal Maruthuvam.

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I have a Master degree in Psychology. I also have another Master degree in Sociology. I have taken intense training from the Jesuits for seven years in the field of Personality, Self, Discipline and Morality. I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.

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