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I have been in a relationship for 10 years of and on with this man who asked me to marry him a few months ago.  I thought that after our intense breakup about 2 years ago that he had changed.  He did complete a anger management course and had yet to be abusive sense we reconnected 8 months ago. To my discovery not only did he change but he has chosen to do things to embarrasses me anywhere.  He is verbally abusive at my job and makes me feel like I am really doing some thing wrong.  I do not know how to talk to him and when I do instead of listening to me he just blows up and becomes more abusive (verbally).  He has done this to me at my place of employment and that makes me uneasy about going home so i don't know what to do about this relationship.  I have said yes to man about marrying him and now I feel as if he is only going to become more abusive if we marry.  The wedding is 45 days away and I don't know what to do.  How do I say its off without being concerned about the outcome.

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Dear  Peaches,

I HIGHLY  EXHORT YOU TO CALL OFF THIS MARRIAGE  SO THAT YOU WILL BE  SAVED FROM A UPCOMING  LIFE TRAGEDY.

DO NOT WORRY ABOUT OTHERS OPINION,BECAUSE YOU  HAVE  EVERY   RIGHT A MAKE  A CORRECT DECISION IRRESPECTIVE OF OTHERS'  COMMENTS AND  OPINIONS. LIFE IS YOUR'S ,NOT  THOSE OF OTHERS WHO  MAY MAKE COMMENTS

MY  WISHES FOR U  

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Dr.Sunu Sundar

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I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.I can answer questions related to sexually abusive relationships in families. I can effectively deal with victims of abusive relationship. I am also efficient in dealing with child abuse and incest. I am here to help others who have questions related to above said issues. You may visit www.mindpanchakarma.org to know more about my mission

Experience

I have been a dealing with victims of sexual abuse since 2000.I have dealt with many teenagers who suffered abusive relationships. Listening to victims of incest and child sexual abuse has made me a better counselor in dealing with these issues.

Organizations
Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram(MDT) In Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram we treat people focusing on holistic healing. Various types of therapies offered here for detoxifiying the mind and body are derived from the wisdom of traditional Indian medical system and medicines. Victims of abusive relationship are offered special One to One residential therapy for complete healing of mind. Special packages for healthy life are available for couples and students. Treatments offered her are based on alternative medical system derived from the wisdom of saints on ancient times. Treatments are harmless with no side effects. A team of doctors headed by Dr.Sunu,committed towards the welfare of the patients are on duty in the MDT clinic

Publications
I have been writing on psychological issues in a Tamil monthly magazine called 'KULANTHAIGAL PARALUMANTAM'. I also write in a health magazine Makkal Maruthuvam.

Education/Credentials
I have a Master degree in Psychology. I also have another Master degree in Sociology. I have taken intense training from the Jesuits for seven years in the field of Personality, Self, Discipline and Morality. I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.

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