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my bf hit me once drunk...because i went out with a "slut" for a party..he was scared i'll turn into her pretty insecure bf there..but the fact that he hit me wasnt good.i stopped talking for a week and he came back begging for me..so i got back with him..he said he would never do that to me again.
so i got back to him only after a week.so now day before theres this guy in our class (me and my bf are classmates) who likes me..and hes my bfs friend..he actually dosent like him much just because that friend flirts with me..so all three of us were going on a car ride..and i didnt know my bf was drunk..when i asked his friend for a cigarette..(actually was kidding and i dont smoke) my bf got angry and he started hitting me..and i cried ..i went back home and stopped talking to him again ..its been three days..but the problem is i really love him..but hate him for hitting me for no reason..he just went on hitting me again and again until we reached..his friend was scared ..he just drove fast so that i can escape..now i just want to know how long should i ignore him for what he did..i dont want to break up.. because i really love him and hes my first bf..i feel pathetic plz help..weve bin together for two years and this is the second tym he repeated the same mistake..
Dear Varsha,
I appreciate your love for him.However,as a psychologist who is committed to God's ways, I wish to present facts to you.
I have seen several cases that are similar to you,who made wrong decisions because of emotions and ended up in tragic life situations.
In my analysis I see that there are umpteen chances of your BF becoming highly abusive in the future.
I suggest saying 'good bye' to him.
Wrong decisions made will put you to suffering till the end of life.
Have a nice day
-Dr.Sunu
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Dr.Sunu Sundar
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I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.I can answer questions related to sexually abusive relationships in families. I can effectively deal with victims of abusive relationship. I am also efficient in dealing with child abuse and incest. I am here to help others who have questions related to above said issues. You may visit www.mindpanchakarma.org to know more about my mission
Experience
I have been a dealing with victims of sexual abuse since 2000.I have dealt with many teenagers who suffered abusive relationships. Listening to victims of incest and child sexual abuse has made me a better counselor in dealing with these issues.
Organizations
Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram(MDT)
In Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram we treat people focusing on holistic healing. Various types of therapies offered here for detoxifiying the mind and body are derived from the wisdom of traditional Indian medical system and medicines.
Victims of abusive relationship are offered special One to One residential therapy for complete healing of mind.
Special packages for healthy life are available for couples and students.
Treatments offered her are based on alternative medical system derived from the wisdom of saints on ancient times. Treatments are harmless with no side effects.
A team of doctors headed by Dr.Sunu,committed towards the welfare of the patients are on duty in the MDT clinic
Publications
I have been writing on psychological issues in a Tamil monthly magazine called 'KULANTHAIGAL PARALUMANTAM'. I also write in a health magazine Makkal Maruthuvam.
Education/Credentials
I have a Master degree in Psychology. I also have another Master degree in Sociology. I have taken intense training from the Jesuits for seven years in the field of Personality, Self, Discipline and Morality.
I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.
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