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he gets mad all the time ! over the most smallest things. he gets mad at me and switches his phone off for ages ! itl b because of something small like .. making a bad joke or forgeting to do something.. he gets really angrey an starts giving me the silent treatment

how do i get him to stop? how do you get anyone to stop giving you the silent treatment?

hes always been like this .. geting mad over tiny stuff and gives me the silent treatment. so its not because of something thats happening to him right now or family issues.

so in general how do you get someone esp bf frm givn u the silent treatment
an yes i have talkd about this with him an he knows it annoys me .. thats y he does it .. to teach me a lesson gsh !

an no, im not going to dump him.. i still love him

he is controling the relationship .. what do i do so we are equal?

he is very kind and caring and sweet sometimes but it is sooo easy to get him mad !

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Dear Betsie,

I understand the  scenario.You need not leave him.Try  your best to  not  'hurt' him any way.In case you do  say   sorry to him.If he really ignores  and  take you for granted, give him  some time to be silent ;psychologically speaking the very  silent treatment he gives you  itself  acts on his mind and pains him and  eventually he will 'turn' towards you

-Dr.Sunu

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Dr.Sunu Sundar

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I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.I can answer questions related to sexually abusive relationships in families. I can effectively deal with victims of abusive relationship. I am also efficient in dealing with child abuse and incest. I am here to help others who have questions related to above said issues. You may visit www.mindpanchakarma.org to know more about my mission

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I have been a dealing with victims of sexual abuse since 2000.I have dealt with many teenagers who suffered abusive relationships. Listening to victims of incest and child sexual abuse has made me a better counselor in dealing with these issues.

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Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram(MDT) In Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram we treat people focusing on holistic healing. Various types of therapies offered here for detoxifiying the mind and body are derived from the wisdom of traditional Indian medical system and medicines. Victims of abusive relationship are offered special One to One residential therapy for complete healing of mind. Special packages for healthy life are available for couples and students. Treatments offered her are based on alternative medical system derived from the wisdom of saints on ancient times. Treatments are harmless with no side effects. A team of doctors headed by Dr.Sunu,committed towards the welfare of the patients are on duty in the MDT clinic

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I have been writing on psychological issues in a Tamil monthly magazine called 'KULANTHAIGAL PARALUMANTAM'. I also write in a health magazine Makkal Maruthuvam.

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I have a Master degree in Psychology. I also have another Master degree in Sociology. I have taken intense training from the Jesuits for seven years in the field of Personality, Self, Discipline and Morality. I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.

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