Expert: Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP - 8/27/2010

Question
Hi, I have since divorced my ex after 20 years of marriage due to physical,mental,conrol,etc, abuse. At one time we had a couple staying with us for short time. During this I remember waking up one day and had signs of sex, here is the thing, I did not nor do I drink, I did not nor do I do drugs, I was always very tired because I was raising 4 kids..Now, here is my question, can someone be sooo tired that they do not remember a single thing of sex??? I think my ex may have put something in my tea cause that is what I drunk all the time. Please help out, this has been haunting me for a long time. I did ask him because, remember, I was afraid to, and it surprised me that he did not ask me why I was unattentive to the sex...It makes no sense to me...Help....Thanks...Lupe

Answer
Dear Lupe,
Having something put in a beverage is a very good explanation.  Without testing your blood or the tea at the time, it is possible you will never know unless an eye witness tells you.  However, date rape drugs have that effect on their victims.....severe tiredness, no memory of what happened, perhaps feeling somewhat groggy the next day.  Statistically there may be a very small chance that someone might sleep through sex, however it would depend more on what your sleep patterns are and what is true for you.  Has this ever happened before?  Do you have deep sleep patterns?  Have you ever slept through any other event in your life?  

If the answers to those questions are no, then the likelihood that you were affected by an outside agent goes up significantly.  Drugs and their effects are not my area of expertise, but logic would say that there is a high probability here.

I hope this has helped you.  If I can be of any further assistance, please feel free to contact me again.

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