Abusive Relationships/PDD and porn

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You are just what I need right now. I do need a Biblical point of view as well as advice.
Your being Christian is exactly why I am writing to you.

I have a daughter. She is 28 and has PDD. The problem is that she's been going to these porn sites with 'games' that have a lot of language I don't particularly care for. Not to mention masturbation.

My daughter is a kid, essentially. She has a psycologist, but I am also interested in other opinions. She has been diagnosed as having symptoms of Autism, symptoms of Aspergers and symptoms of MR, BUT not enough of them to give her those diagnoses.

My problem is that I don't know quite what to do.
After all, she is an adult. Maybe this is what she needs to learn. I want so much for her to "Grow Up" Sometimes she is such a kid that I want to scream at her! (I don't but that doens't mean I don't want to)

She has never before been intersted in learning anymore than just how babies are made. I've had to tell her about 3 times already as she forgets. Her counselor said she forgets because she just isn't intersted at this stage. (As I'm sure you did in school when a subject didn't interest you) And I also know its natural for all kids to have an interest in sex. And these sites have opened up things to talk about.

She has absolutley no friends to be with and I couldn't have any more kids after her.

On the other hand, I know porn can be quite addictive.
I've offered to go with her to an X-rated movie or buy her a Playgirl magazine. She doens't want that.

My husband and I have discussed giving her one day a week for those sites.
I know most Christians do not like any type of porn. Regardles of its "just looking". Personally I feel like I'm a grown woman and if I want to look I will. I've offered to let her 'look' on line but she doesn't want that either.

So where do I go from here? I will speak with her counselor about it as well. Right now I need lots of opinions.

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Dear Joyce,

I  have  a lot to say  and explain to you  about this problem of your daughter.However the mode of communication  is  a hindrance.

As a psychologist who is passionate about Jesus and His teachings I wish to tell you that porn is   highly  'sponsored' and patronized by satan and his angels. Behind every porn there is a spirit(Ephesians:6-12). I can boldly tell you this because  before  Jesus  intervened in my life I was in to  matters relating to  satan, witchcraft and related(even though psychology is  blind about the strategies of the  evil one). I suggest you to take  all measures  to keep your daughter  uncontaminated.

Having said this  I  must tell you that your daughter  can  be healed completely if she is trained to repeat Luke 4-18 loudly, steadily, slowly  with accurate pronunciation with closed  eyes. She must repeat this verse 6 hours  every day apart from  shifting to a high vegetarian diet.

I sense you are curious about  God's ways

I am willing to guide you  further. You may  contact  me at  outreach.matters@gmail.com

Have  a nice  day

-Dr.Sunu

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I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.I can answer questions related to sexually abusive relationships in families. I can effectively deal with victims of abusive relationship. I am also efficient in dealing with child abuse and incest. I am here to help others who have questions related to above said issues. You may visit www.mindpanchakarma.org to know more about my mission

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I have been a dealing with victims of sexual abuse since 2000.I have dealt with many teenagers who suffered abusive relationships. Listening to victims of incest and child sexual abuse has made me a better counselor in dealing with these issues.

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Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram(MDT) In Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram we treat people focusing on holistic healing. Various types of therapies offered here for detoxifiying the mind and body are derived from the wisdom of traditional Indian medical system and medicines. Victims of abusive relationship are offered special One to One residential therapy for complete healing of mind. Special packages for healthy life are available for couples and students. Treatments offered her are based on alternative medical system derived from the wisdom of saints on ancient times. Treatments are harmless with no side effects. A team of doctors headed by Dr.Sunu,committed towards the welfare of the patients are on duty in the MDT clinic

Publications
I have been writing on psychological issues in a Tamil monthly magazine called 'KULANTHAIGAL PARALUMANTAM'. I also write in a health magazine Makkal Maruthuvam.

Education/Credentials
I have a Master degree in Psychology. I also have another Master degree in Sociology. I have taken intense training from the Jesuits for seven years in the field of Personality, Self, Discipline and Morality. I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.

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