Expert: Johnny St. Tai - 11/3/2011

Question
i was in a relationship with an abuser for past 7 years, left my bf by lying that i am now engaged.i am happy that i left him bt feel guilty because his parents begged my mom for me as they had perception that  i was forcefully engaged. my bf had threatened me that he will kill himself after trying many things to get me back.i am not in contact with him we both live in different cities , with our parents. i have told about his suicidial thought to his fatheralso. my question is that what else can i do because i feel scared about his threat. and i also want to know what most abuser do when their partner leave them?like do they hurt themselves or...

Answer
Abusers abuse either to controll you, or to make themselves feel big. So when you no longer let them abuse you, they feel small, no longer in controll. Will they hurt themselves? Not likely, even if they do, it's not your problem. Move on with your life and just keep ignoring them.