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ok, i will go straight to the point, ive been in a relationship nearly a year with this guy, at first it was nice, but then he showed his true colours, he scolded me, he had a very bad temper, using harsh words with me, that time i rlly do love him, so i try my best to give whatever that he wants, he even take photos of mine wearing underwear, after few months, this relationship is off, n within a week he came back n begging me to accept him back, he forced me to say 'i love you' or else he will spread my pictures, he even control my life, he didnt let me to see my friends coz he just want to spend 24/7 with me, he even asked me to skip classes, he even break into my hostel, and i live with scared, angry, and i hate my life :( im stuck with him, i really dont love him anymore, but all he wants is my love love and the old me, how can i live with him while i dont have any feelings for him anymore, please help me, what should i do,? i just say i love him, just to save my dignity n my family good name, from the girl that want to be free and realizing her biggest mistake, n want to start a new life-

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Dear Cloe,


Indeed it is a critical situation.

I need to  know more about you for  in-depth  guidance.However from the hints I have I strongly recommend you to leave this  boy   at all cost. I suggest you to talk to your parents about this(about the pictures) and can even seek legal help.There is no guarantee that  this boy will not  spread your  picture  even if you  surrender  to him  unconditionally. You will have to face the risk and  move boldly to  do away  with this boy.

If you write to me about your  age, religion, spiritual basics I  shall guide you more

Have  a nice  day

Dr.Sunu
www.mindpanchakarma.org

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Dr.Sunu Sundar

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I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.I can answer questions related to sexually abusive relationships in families. I can effectively deal with victims of abusive relationship. I am also efficient in dealing with child abuse and incest. I am here to help others who have questions related to above said issues. You may visit www.mindpanchakarma.org to know more about my mission

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I have been a dealing with victims of sexual abuse since 2000.I have dealt with many teenagers who suffered abusive relationships. Listening to victims of incest and child sexual abuse has made me a better counselor in dealing with these issues.

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Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram(MDT) In Mind Detoxification Therapy Home Ashram we treat people focusing on holistic healing. Various types of therapies offered here for detoxifiying the mind and body are derived from the wisdom of traditional Indian medical system and medicines. Victims of abusive relationship are offered special One to One residential therapy for complete healing of mind. Special packages for healthy life are available for couples and students. Treatments offered her are based on alternative medical system derived from the wisdom of saints on ancient times. Treatments are harmless with no side effects. A team of doctors headed by Dr.Sunu,committed towards the welfare of the patients are on duty in the MDT clinic

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I have been writing on psychological issues in a Tamil monthly magazine called 'KULANTHAIGAL PARALUMANTAM'. I also write in a health magazine Makkal Maruthuvam.

Education/Credentials
I have a Master degree in Psychology. I also have another Master degree in Sociology. I have taken intense training from the Jesuits for seven years in the field of Personality, Self, Discipline and Morality. I am a psychologist committed to Christ and enjoy relationship in His company.

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