Abusive Relationships/go or dont go

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my cousin is engaged to be married, well the bum she is marrying physically abuses her and sadly she had two kids by this bum...well the bridal shower was yesterday and I did go to that and gave a gift, the bum wasn't there, just the family.....and not his family.... I figure id go to something since I do not want to go to the wedding....I can't bear to witness an abuser marrying his foolish abusee ...what would you do? boycott the wedding and don't go.....or just go....

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always be true to self and follow ur  heart;; What would cause you to boycott a wedding?


   
I don't approve of their choice of spouse.I don't think I could stand up in a wedding if I didn't feel comfortable about the rel@tionship.  I'm not talking about a friend who marries a guy who seems boring or even strange.  I'm talking about a rel@tionship that seems dangerous or abusive.  Part of a traditional wedding service includes a charge to the congregation stating to uphold and support the marriage.  If I couldn't make that promise, I don't think I could stand up at the wedding.

I've never had to face this situation, however.   I don't think I could support them.These would all be deal-breakers in my book, and I would not attend.

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