Expert: james52144@earthlink.net - 8/4/2006

Question
What are the chances of my relationship working out with my boyfriend of 5 years. Mind you, we been through alot! we both were using Meth for 4 years and he became very abusive towards me, and lied to me alot.
I became depressed and Not trustworthy.
Were clean now..but its still bad.  

Answer
Dear Amber

Addiction not only kills you, it kills relationships. Until you both change your behavior, your relationship will continue to be abusive. If he is being abusive to you, you need to get to a safe place. It takes a long time to recover from an addiction, so do not expect changes to happen quickly. As you change, either he will or won't change too. The most important thing right now is for you to be safe, and the relationship will have to end if he is not safe for you.

Good luck