Question I just got out of a really abusive relationship I don't know how to deal with it now how do I completely get over it with out dwelling on it sometimes my body still hurts from what he did to me I just don't know how to completely get over it or will I ever get over it?
Answer Dear Julie
Of course you will get over it. Time heals all wounds. If it was really traumatic you should consider talking with a counselor to help heal the emotional wounds. The hardest thing in healing emotional wounds is not to blame yourself for letting this happen. Forgiveness can heal anything, especially yourself. Sometimes we have to experience something to understand how unhealthy it is. Sometimes we experience something so we can help others from doing the same thing. There are many lessons to be learned from abusive people, including how to spot them and stay away from them. Be grateful you are no longer with them. You would be amazed how many people stay in abusive relationships. You are one of the smart ones that got out. That is something to be happy about.
