About Dwayne Anderson Expertise I know much about abusive relationships as I have some with members of my family. Come to me if you need assistance with your relationship problems.
Experience Experiencing abusive relationships with family.
Question I feel deep down inside that I was involved in a controlling relationship with my boyfriend of 3 years. Unfortunatly, I am unsure of whether or not it was controlling because I was so use to it. For instance, he told me that if I talked to one of my old friends again (who he didn't like) he would break up with me. He also said that if I went to my cousin's bridal shower and not his grad school graduation, he would see that I didn't put him as #1 and break up with me. He also would blame every single argument on me and say I was crazy and that I needed to go on medication because all I would do was cry and get so frustrated when we would argue. About a year and a half ago, I started getting so frustrated and snapping at him because I felt so isolated from everyone else except for him. I felt so empty inside. He told me I was crazy and needed medication. He also would shower me with extravegant gifts and told me he loved me within 2 weeks of us dating. He always told me that I never did anything for him and that I was always causing all the arguments which would make me feel guilty. I saw how he treated his sister by putting her down all the time and yelling at her whenever they saw each other. The reason I broke up with him is because he received a job 8 hours away and wanted me to move once I graduated. I told him I was not ready and needed more time and he told me that I was chicken and that anyone would be able to do it, and if I waited, he wouldn't wait for me. But then 2 days later he changed his story. Also when my friend called me that he doesn't like and didn't want me to talk to, he deleted her number out of my phone, which I saw him do, and he totally denied it. I am having a really hard time distinguishing whether or not this is controlling. Please let me know. Thank you.
Answer you have every right to see your friends and do other things besides being in this relationship. After all, you are independent and have priviledges and rights and freedoms. He has no right to take them away from you. If he tries to limit them, then this is a controlling relationship.
