Question I am 22 I have been with my fiancee for 5 and a half years now. We have a 3 year old daughter together. He is very controlling in what I do and who I talk to and where I go. He is a very jealous person, But I used to be jealous when we first got together so I know how he feels. But I was no where near as jealous as he is, And I was only 17. I know now how wrong and exhausting being jealous can be. My problem is I have always wanted to stay together with him so my daughter can grow up with a mom and a dad together. I don't want her to have to be split between both of us. But I am at my wits end I feel suffocated. I never get to do anything and if I do I get lectured and questioned about it for days after. I want to be happy but I would sacrifice my happiness for my daughters anyday.He tells me I don't spend enough time with him and me not going to bars and hanging out or talking to other male friends is a respect thing. I don't know if I'm being manipulated or if it is a respect issue. He yells at me for being on the phone because I should be spending time with him....or if I'm on the computer. He makes me give him all my passwords to my e-mail so he can check them if he feels suspicious. Is that wrong? should I not have to give him my passwords? I don't know what to do. When do I say enough is enough???
Answer Dear Jessica
I think now is the time to say "enough". You need to set boundaries with him, he is treating you like a 6 year old. This is not how adult treat each other. If you want a relationship with someone that treats you like a child, this seems to be a great one. Otherwise, go your merry way and find someone that will treat you as an adult.
