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Question My daughter, 24, has been living with her boyfriend, also 24, for three years. When they met, they had both dropped out of college. Over the past three years, my daughter has pulled herself together and completed two years of college courses. Her boyfriend has only a few college credits and no job. He is depressed and totally dependent on her. He is not supportive of her going to school. She is now ready to complete her college education in another city. I have told her that I will support her if she goes to college full time. She has told her boyfriend that she wants to move without him. He cries and tells her that she is ruining his life, and that he wants to come with her. In the past, he has been verbally and physically abusive. He has no self-esteem and no resources. When she leaves, he will not be able to pay rent and will be evicted. I am very worried that when she tries to move out, he (1) will harm her (2) will harm himself, or (3) will stalk her. Is there a way for her to leave that will minimize the chance that he will do something to harm her or himself? Should she have friends with her when she moves? Any other ideas?
Answer other than staying away from him, there's not any real protection until he breaks some law; the more visible support she can get, the better; if he has any family/friends, suggest to them that they find him counseling..if he in any way harasses her, call the police, and tell them about prior abuse as well..
