AboutDavid Simonsen Expertise I can answer questions directly related to your challenging relationships. I will give you a straight forward answer to what I think the problem is.
Experience I have the experience needed to help you sort out how to work through your relationship. I meet weekly with people who have challenging relationships so let me help you!
Organizations AAMFT;AACC
Education/Credentials B.A. M.S. Marriage & Family Therapy
Question I've been with my husband for 5 years. I knew he/we had issues from the beginning, but he has always been the provider...I came from a background of struggling. He is verbally and emotionally abusive and was diagnosed with a Personality disorder with BPD traits. It has been hell on earth. I have a son from my first marriage and he cries when he has to be left with my husband..and often says "he's mean to me mom"....for the last year I started drinking to cope..bad idea...but now I feel like I'm scared to move and scared to stay...it seems miserable either way. I tried to leave before and it was like hell came up to meet me. He closed bank accounts, stole my kids, and had my car repossed. I just got papers to file and of course he wants to work things out...acts super nice...etc..then I feel badly for wanting to leave....agh!
Answer Lisa,
If he did all the things that you indicated how come you have not involved the police? If you are not going to take charge of your life and protect your children I suggest you let them live somewhere where they will be protected. It is unfair to them that you continue to have them face this abuse. They don't have a choice YOU DO. Find a shelter and get counseling to help you make the decision to leave easier. If not for yourself at least for your children's sake. They only have one mom and YOU need to protect them.
David
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