Expert: David Simonsen - 10/16/2007

Question
My girlfriend and I are moving in together in a few weeks but I have a problem. In her past relationships all of her boyfriends have beatin and raped her, but im not like that. And she has told me that because of them every time a guy raises his arm of hand she will cover herself to protect herself and scream. I have told her that i would never hurt her anyway wat so ever but she says that its doesnt matter she will still do it because of the emotional scares that in which they left on her. I love her with all of my heart but I dont know if i can handle that every time i raise my hand or arm. Im scared and dont know wat to do can u help me wat do u think?

Answer
Ethan,
There is no way you should be moving in with someone as hurt as this. She needs to get some serious psychological help before you should even have a relationship with her. Then you should decide to marry her instead of pretending to be committed to her. Your relationship will not be successful until she gets some serious help for this past abuse. Do you have proof that all this abuse is true? It seems that if it is then the police should be involved.
David
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