Expert: james52144@earthlink.net - 6/26/2007

Question
My friend has a domineering and controlling husband.  He even follows her to the bathroom.  That is how extreme he is towards her yet brags about her faithfulness.  She has carried on affairs behind his back probably because of his controlling and domineering.  I also suspect that there is some emotional or psychological abuse going on in the relationship and that is why she has affairs.  I am not excusing her behavior but what advice should I be giving my friend?

Answer
Dear GN

This appears to be your friend's passive agressive way of dealing with her husband. I assume she is sane and capable of making her own decisions. This is her path, and you should not give her advice on how to live her life unless she asks for it. If she asks for it, she needs to get out of the marriage.