Question "First, my gf and I have been with each other for two years now...we just broke up. The reason was that I hit her three times in the past years. I have a high temper and been changing myself to low it down and change myself to a new person. But she still afraid of me and thinking that I am not the one for her. I felt so hurt and I feel that I can't let her go. I blame everything on me and I did still talk to her and telling her that I respect all of her decision. But it hurt so much to said that because I am in pain of letting her go. it hurt a lot, I was hoping to hear from you that, what can I do to make her trust me again? what can I do to get her back by myside? I really really love her! I do anything for her. When we were with each other I spoil her a lot and the past was great. The time that we have with each other make me feel that its impossible to give it up. I was even planning to ask her to marry me, I have the ring all plan out and everything. Could you please help me and advice me wat to do.."
Answer Dear SOn
The first thing you need to do is get counseling about your violent and abusive nature. That is going to take a lot of work, my friend. The only way you can get her back is to give her space and leave her alone. She has every reason not to trust you.
