Question QUESTION: I am 16 years old (a Female) I would like to Know if it is incest to sleep with a STEP brother? If you could help me with that i have some other questions on the same topic if you dont mind! thank you!
ANSWER: Dear Amanda
When you say "sleeping" do you mean intercourse?
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QUESTION: yes that is what i am mostly referring too, there has been time though when its just making out and touching......
ANSWER: Dear Amanda
Yes
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QUESTION: What if i feel traped in it?
ANSWER: Dear Amanda
Tell your parents, your school counselor, your pastor, or any grown up, this is way not cool.
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QUESTION: but i dont wanna hurt him......
ANSWER: Dear Amanda
What he is doing is wrong and against the law. It is and will causing emotional damage to you that you will end up spending a lot of money on therapists when you are older. You can either stop it now or pay for it later. You choose.
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QUESTION: Your right it is already causing me emotional damage......He and i used to be best friends, and it hurts me so much that we can even just talk now......I have so many mixed feelings about it all; I dont wanna hurt him but he hurts me everytime it happens......i catch myself haveing actual feeling for him sometimes, till i remember i am just his toy.......and yet still I want to have sex with him......why is that when I know how much he hurts me?
Answer I believe that there are several factors at play here. First, at some level, even though it may be painful, if you have orgasms at all, sex basically feels really really good. There is a confusion amongst a lot of people about sex and love, and confusing one for the other. They are not the same thing. He does not love you, he just wants you to have sex with. You are just a substitute for his hand. As you say, you are his toy. When you have sex with people, there can be a perverted sense of belonging and connection, which we all want on some level. So that is why it is so damaging, especially when you are not old enough to tell the difference between real love and the perverted stuff he is subjecting you to. Please get help before you are totally screwed up.
