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I know much about abusive relationships as I have some with members of my family. Come to me if you need assistance with your relationship problems.

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Abusive Relationships - Lack of Trust


Expert: Dwayne Anderson - 1/2/2007

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I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half.  He is 29 and I am 21.  We have been living together for almost a year.  After over a year of dating, when he finally allowed me to meet his parents, I coincidentally found out he was married for the first year of our relationship.  I am not completely blind.  He is just that good at lying.  I love him to death and I want to marry him.  He is very good to me, takes care of me, looks out for me in every way, but just one problem...trust.  While I am trying to regain some trust in him, he is constantly doubting me.  He is great with computers and has figured out a way to get every website I go to emailed to him.  It's not like I ever do anything dishonest, but this is not fair to me.  At the same time, he is going behind my back and talking to his ex wife.  I am not looking for someone to tell me to dump him.  I want advice on how to make this behavior stop.  He gets incredibly defensive if I ever bring it up.  

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you have every right to surf the internet and he shouldn't invade your privacy by having every site you visit emailed to him. After all, you have rights, priviledges, and freedoms. Through his actions on the internet, he's trying to dominate and control you. Trust is the foundation to every healthy relationship. Without trust, there is no relationship.

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