Expert: Azure - 5/5/2005

Question
I've been living with a 45 year old 'man' for 2 years off and on. He's been kicked out a few times for cheating on me. I actually moved him to another state to get him away from 'her' and he still contacted her by phone, lied about it and broke my heart. He had a good job, making good money, then he seemed to lose interest in all of us(I have 2 teen age daughters), his job and everything. Seemed like he enjoyed living off of my food stamps and my child support. He would give me his whole paycheck to pay for bills.Then he quit his job, stayed home for a month, had me drive him all over looking for work (his license is suspended, no car), finally gets a job part time in Mc Donalds. He barely makes enough..$275.00 every 2 weeks for himself to survive, let alone support a 'family'. He's turning into a child man who loses himself in video games for 11 hrs straight.What do I do? I'm so messed up..I love him, but he's turning more every day into a child.I'm leaving and going back to my abusive husband because even that was easier than this.At least he acts like a man and has money to support us. He knows I'm leaving, just says'call me when  you get there' and I'll come to you! Yea, just so he can live off of us again. WHAT'S WRONG WITH HIM? I THINK IT"S BEYOND MY HELP>

Answer
stop worrying about what's wrong with HIM, and get YOUR life together so you stop making bad choices, and become independent of these jerks; if you have to always rely on a man's support, you will continue to find yourself in these abusive arrangements; start today by taking stock of what you need to do to regain control of your life..