Expert: Azure - 6/5/2006

Question
hello im writting for some advice on the painful transition of my relationship. i am 27 she is 42, and she left me without warning last weekened, police came her family, and moved her out. her daughter was supposed to be moving with her ex. its been 3 days now no contact. the problem was me i really escallated things, with my name calling, unacceptance of her kids, and i pushed her and she fell in the closet door and got hurt. i dont know what to do or say, i do love this woman with all my heart, we were planning to move to a smaller place and focus on us. she has no number, i tried an e-mail, but who knows if shes read it. im just so heartbroken, i dont know why she just wont talk to me. i love her to death but the things i said and have done really hurt her. and i have not showed her how much she really does mean to me, im just so hurt i never could tell her everything she was to me. there are serious issues weve had to go about recently, this is just so hard and so quick. i know it takes 2 to tango but i want her back in my life, so much, i know she loved me. any advice on what i should do from here other than move on with myself, i want her back, i love her with all my heart, the only woman ive truly loved, please help me.

Answer
in order for them to basically take her out of there, i'd guess a PATTERN of abusiveness, historically, was evidenced; chances are it's over; all you can hope to do is begin counseling ASAP,  tell her you'll be getting whatever help you need, and would like another chance, if not now, perhaps when you've "shaped up", but you'll understand if she's not interested..