Expert: Azure - 10/22/2007

Question
I'm at the end of my rope with my bf. In the early days  of our relationship things were amazing almost fairytale like. Then a couple of months later I found out that he was seeing another girl. I confronted him about and denied there was anything going on and I believed him. Eventually things between the two of them became serious. I was cast aside completely heartbroken. Then several months later they split and he comes back to me and I took him back.

From that day on he wasn't how he used to be he was short tempered, cold towards me most of the time, and we'd argue all the time. I feel he is always dishonest and hiding things from me. I don't even know when he is telling me the truth. He doesn't even seem bothered when he hurts my feelings.

Beyond this we do have good times still when we are on good terms with each other but I can't continue this cycle of good/bad. What should I do? I love him so much but he treats me and my feelings so harshly.

Answer
"beyond this.."??...that's like saying your car's brakes, wipers, radio, steering, only work some of the time; if you feel you deserve more, INFORM him of the stuff you just wrote about, and that his behavior is no longer acceptable, needs to change in order for you to continue; if he blows you off, or refuses to consider your feelings, i'd say it was time to trade him in for a more user friendly model; sometimes love isn't enough, and even works to keep you in unhealthy relationships;  don't let your insecurities/fear of loss make you put up with uncaring behavior...