Expert: David Simonsen - 11/14/2007

Question
Hello, I have been dating a guy that I met on the Internet for about a year now. I live and work with him. I have four children and he has one that he spends very little time with. When she is with us he practically forces her on me. Please don't get me wrong I love kids...I just don't like being made to do something. My four children are not little angels in fact their teenagers with very different personalities...Every single day there are new rules to live by...because that was the way he was raised...he doesn't like my 18 year old daughters boyfriend...to the point of being mean to him...has threatened to shoot the cat...and drinks way to much crown ...I have asked repeatedly for him to stop drinking...he just changes flavors...at one point in time he wanted to have sex with me while he was extremely drunk and I couldn't stop him...now I really have no desire to even have sex...Am I ruined for life...I used to think that he was a really easy going guy...he has joined me at church a couple of times but I don't think he understands what it is even about. Any advice would be appreciated...I don't think I can financially make it without my job...

Answer
Ruby,
Finances shouldn't matter. This is behavior that your children are seeing you put up with. If you need to move back with your parents or stop spending money on things you don't need then do it so you can get out of this relationship. You children are suffering because of it. You can't change this guy he sounds like a drunk. He will only change if HE makes the effort to do so.
David
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