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Question I'm only 17 years old and my boyfriend is 18 we just recently moved in with his mom about 6 months ago. everything was fine between us until we moved here. He started to tell me that i wasn't allowed to see my mom or talk to anyone. he also started to tell me how to dress and what i could and couldn't do. i started to lie about going to see my mom because i missed here and hadn't seen her in a while. when he found out he got so mad and that was when he started to call me names like: stupid bitch, slut, stupid dirty *unt and many other horrible name. After a few weeks i went home because i couldn't take it anymore and then he called me telling me that he would never be mean to me again and would allow me to do whatever i want, and see my mom whenever i want. so i came back because i wanted to believe him but things only got worse. he gave me a cell phone so that he would be able to call me whenever he wanted and make me talk to him on my breaks at work so that he knew that i wasn't talking to anyone else on my break, he would also make me call him from work so that he would know that i was there. things started to get worse and worse everyday so about a week ago i told him that i wanted to go home and still see him for a while until we both can figure out what we want. he said that that was fine and then he started to make rules for me being at home.. he said that i would have to come back to his moms place every Thursday night and then leave Sunday night. i wasn't allowed to leave my house and i had to call him every hour from my home phone so that he would know that i was at home all the time and not out anywhere, not even with my mom. so i agreed because i didn't know what else to do.. its to hard for me to leave him and never see him again so i thought that i would do that so that i could gradually stop seeing him. then the day before i was supposed to go back home i found out that i was pregnant with his baby when i found out i started to cry because I'm to young to have a baby and i especially don't want to have his because then ill be stuck with him forever. when i started to cry he started to freak out at me because i wanted to have an abortion (i know that that's horrible and i feel so bad but if i didn't i wouldn't know what to do) because he thought that if i really loved him i would want to have his baby. after that i told him that i still wanted to go home and be with my mom cause i was scared and didn't know what to do. he told me to wait a week until i did get the abortion done and go home next monday so i agreed to that. all night i was so upset became of what i found out. he got so mad at me that he started to beat me. he would punch my legs over and over again until i could barely walk, and every time that i would go to get up and go to the door he would throw me back down on the bed so that i couldn't go anywhere. he started to hit my face and threw a lighted at my eye. when he did that i bite his arm. then he bit me back. any time that i would scream or start to cry he would cover my mouth and tell me to shut up or else he was going to kill me. at one point he would put a pillow over my face so that i couldn't breathe and he would hold my mouth with his hand or try to choke me. when i wouldn't stop crying and screaming for him not to hurt me he picked up a 2L pop bottle and told me that he was going to kill me, ive never been more scared in my life. i got out of the room and ran to the bathroom and locked my self in there for a while, until he would calm down. after he did he would start to cry and then i would feel bad. and he would tell me that hes sorry and everything. and then hes so nice to me. and then when we go to bad hell get mad at me if i don't want to do it with him. he'll be all pissed of at me and tell me that i don't love him and don't care about him. so he'll go get high every night before he goes to bad. then when he wakes up in the morning he expects me to wake up with him and have sex with him or give him oral sex and when i wont do it hell sit there all mad and jerk off ( which is so disgusting) im going to get my abortion tomorrow and am going home on monday. anytime that we talk about me going home hell tell me that im abandoning him and how could i leave him for 3 days of the week and just leave him all by himself. and hell tell me that he's going to see his ex-girlfriend when im gone (which i don't really care about). i don" know what to do and i thought that you could help
Answer please listen--this jerk should be in prison for assault; he is both physically/emotionally abusive; you need to stop seeing him, stop communicating with him, telling him if he attempts to see/call you, you will call the police and have him arrested for harassment and the prior assaults; if you continue to see him you will at best regret it, at worst, be risking your life--this jerk needs inpatient therapy--if you need help doing this, ask your family or call the social services dept in your town...DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM...
