Expert: james52144@earthlink.net - 1/7/2007

Question
My daughter is in an abusive relationship and denies everything, even though she came over the other night to get away from him.  They are getting married next month and I told them we would not be a part of it in any way, financially and or spirtitually.  Is this a correct decision or should we still go through with the wedding? I just cant bring myself to attend something that I know is wrong

Answer
Dear E. Willis

I think that I would show up and keep quiet. She knows what she is getting into and how you feel. You need to let her feel supported even though she knows you don't want her to marry the fellow. I would write her a letter and let her know how you feel and that you will be at the wedding.