Expert: Azure - 6/15/2006

Question
ok so this is the story
i am in love with this girl that i had been seeing for 10 months and it seemed that she was in love with me.  i have 2 questions
#1
sometimes i would get angry or frustrated with her when she did not want to have sex with me.  i expected it, felt like i tried to be charming and put the time and effort into loving her, making her feel special, putting her in the mood but it just did not work sometimes.    she never allowed me to initiate anything and she felt that my unsatisfaction was not her problem. she refused to at least try to work with me.  i told her she was dominant and i was very frustrated in the way things were.  i voiced my opinions, things that were important to me, while always listening to her needs and trying to work with her to the best of my ability.  i wasn't hard to please in any other way and was very happy with the relationship other than that.  is it wrong to voice my opinion as to the dissatisfaction that i had with our sex life and to expect a satisfying one?
#2
she says now that i was too into her and has broken it off.  i moved to be near her, i said that i loved her everyday, after 10 months, after spending almost every day together, holidays, brithdays, how can this be the reason that she doesn't want to see me anymore?


Answer
1. depends if your expectations were reasonable or not; if you wanted it every day or almost every day, she might have had a point; also, to get angry about it is an emotional turn-off since it gives the impression it was something you were OWED; would have been better to see if a compromise could have been reached, as people have different sexual appetites; 2. you probably came across as too needy, dependent, insecure, all valid reasons for splitting..