About Teenie Expertise I would like to help men that have been or are abused by their women. Women are not the only victims. It is not everyday you hear about men getting abused, and I would like to help. I also was abused myself.
I would also like to help men who are ready to enter a new relationship by giving them advice on signs of a potential abuser.
Vincenco wrote at 2006-10-23 07:43:11
Hi Tom,
I agree with previos answer, let her go. My marrige lasted 15 months under almost similar conditions. She will not change, she will drag you down more until you become nobody.
MarriedSince2000 wrote at 2007-07-13 17:08:28
I would question your comment about being, "Mr. Wonderful Forgiving". Marriage is not easy and divorce is not going to repair the things that you have yet to learn by being in a marriage relationship. Unless we mature emotionally - and for the record I am not, I run into the same thing personally all the time - it is human nature, unfortunately, to do the opposite thing we should for the response we want. Have you ever wanted her to give you attention so you withdraw? Shouldn't we draw closer if we want attention? Chances are your wife is not feeling loved by you, and unfortunately her natural way of asking for love is probably being critical. She just wants you to love her.
I highly recommend a book called Love and Respect. Hang in there - it will make you a better person and there are enough marriages falling apart these days.
Married30YearsStillLearning wrote at 2008-10-07 05:24:16
I agree with MarriedSince2000. That wife of yours is not looking for trouble. She's expressing a frustration. Don't ignore it by saying "I don't like to be treated like that" rather acknowledge that she feels that way. "I know I'm far from perfect, but I sure love you and want our marriage to last forever. Thanks for telling me how you feel" is what a REAL Mr. Wonderful Forgiving husband would say. I know. I've been married 30 years and we've taken our turns at being hard to live with. Marriage takes biting your tongue many times a day, but the resulting happiness and growth is worth it!
Brian wrote at 2008-12-08 22:25:29
Agreed.
Sad to say, the odds are that she will not. A period of separation is good and if she is willing to seek help and continue to do so should the two of you get together, then give it a shot. Don't let her con you or figure on her taking a pill to resolve the issue, because it won't. Don't fall for the counseling routine for the two of you, doubly so if it's with another woman because it's you who will be blamed for most everything that is wrong. If you want proof, just look around the web for who is giving advise, their degrees and note how biased it is,...and it is! While some of these people are good, most, in my opinion, exist to make money for themselves and the way to do it is to side with the woman; that way, she'll insist on return trips. Heaven help you, if they side with you, not only will it make her madder still, but you'll not likely ever hear the end of that either.
Usually, they do nothing but get worse and try to drag you down.
Sad to say and even worse to live.
Another Nice guy wrote at 2009-03-01 19:43:03
I agree things will only get worse. I'm in the exact same position only I have waited many more years and now there are two children for me to look after. I have been trapped thinking about how she will be with the children without me.
I'm just getting to you place now. I have forced her into counseling to help. I have felt sorry for her as she is a victim of childhood asexual abuse.
Teennies Opposite wrote at 2009-05-24 20:57:32
Divorce is Never an option. Maybe she just needs some help getting through to her inner struggles. Or a friend(you) to work things out with her. How affectionate are you. Read your bible it tells you all you need to know. Your moving out opens doors to temptations and is nothing more than abandonment. Remamber your vows before God. Your promised to walk with her through it all! This is not abuse. If you Know you are a good person and doing everything you should then her comments should not affect you.
A Man whos been There wrote at 2009-05-27 02:46:36
And What kind of 'Expert' are you again Teenie? To damn a marriage to divorce and you dont even know the whole story. Marriage is Tough and Well Worth It! Only a person who finds True Inner Peace3 could know such a thing.
To all of The Men out There, Stand Up! Make Note to your wife, That you are serious about her behavior and you demand more respect than that. Take her to counceling, find out the troubles and help her!!!!! Because that is what you Promised, No Swore before God that you would do!
God Bless, Tom.
Tennie I will be preying for you.
