Expert: David Simonsen - 11/27/2007

Question
Been off and on with this girl for about 5 years.  we were in loove for awhile then things got VERY ugly now we're just very scattered off and on.  She has a b/f and this past week she wanted to meet up for a drink, and we did, low and behold we had sex(which always happens cuz we've always had that spark) and I questioned why she would do it she said she didn't know, but I almost want her back even though I'm on the verge of getting into something myself.  I told her i didn't wanna hear from her until she wanted something more than sex from me but i think me and her both know that whenever one wants it the other kinda does too whether we have other things going on or not.  She told me she's still in love with me, and I have to admit i still love her too.  This isn't the first time this has happened, but I did block her from everything except calling me cuz i can't actually block that.  Do you think she'll ever actually want to be with me again or will this process just keep going on and on.... and what should I do?

Answer
Alex,
This is NOT love. This is craziness being allowed to run rampant. This is no way to start or maintain a healthy stable relationship. You are a booty call as is she. You are half of the problem and despite you not wanting to contact her you will probably connect again because getting the sex is easy. Don't try to make this a long-term relationship. There are too many things wrong with it. Determine what you want in a relationship and then find someone else.
David
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