Expert: james52144@earthlink.net - 9/25/2006

Question
My relationship just ended, i was with that guy for almost a year and a half. During that time, he was very controlling & wouldn't want me to hang out with other people, he would'nt like to share. Through out  our relationship would we most of the time argue, but like most couples argue most of the time, he claimed that couples shouldn't argue at all. Also during our relationship he left me & went back to his ex way before me. They had dated for about 2 weeks & came back to me, saying how he missed me & missed saying "I Love You" too. Being stupid as i am, i took him back. We were together for about 8 months & now he just left me saying that he wants to have fun & be single during his last year of highschool & be able to go to parties & all this. & he also claimed that we could never be together ever again because i was too like my mother. First it started out as i was acting to much like his older brothers girl friend, but now he claims he never said that. Now that we arent togther, he got back together with his ex & started doing all this stuff with her. & now he claims he wants absolutely nothing to do with me.   During our whole relationship i only had him, i couldnt ever go anywhere by myself or he would get  very mad. He also accused me of cheating on him, but he got to go run to a bunch of places by him self, but i cant? that doesnt make much sence to me.  He is very jealous, but only with me. I am not quite sure what happened, that happend soo quickly just a day before he broke up with me, it didnt seem like anything was wrong.  This is my second time dealing with verbal abuse, my father does the same thing. So what went wrong? Am i to blame for all this?

Thanks,
Brittany

Answer
Dear Brittany

You are not responsible for his behavior, he is acting like a six year old. You are responsible for going out with him for so long while he was acting like that. You should be looking for young men that act their age, not their IQ.

Good luck.