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| Subject | Date Asked |
| Got hit by my husband have ear drum perforation | 1/21/2012 |
| Q: I married the person I fell in love with in college. It's going to be a decade that we've Been ... A: It's time to make some key decisions in your life I tell women who are in your situation that you ... | |
| "professional victim" addict/alcoholic wife | 12/26/2011 |
| Q: My wife and i are currently having some issues, mainly due to her severe mental problems and refusal ... A: If your wife has a drinking problem or any kind of substance abuse problem you can get your kids ... | |
| help | 12/17/2011 |
| Q: my husband pushes my buttons to the point i yell. his voice is loud just talking so he easily over ... A: My apologies for the delay I am getting a lot of people writing in to me about various things ... | |
| Nowhere else to go | 11/30/2011 |
| Q: Over a year ago when I was 15 I started dating an older guy, Brent who is 27. When I turned 16 my ... A: Giving that you are from the Netherlands I don't know how they help people in your situation. My ... | |
| help | 11/9/2011 |
| Q: mam earlier i haved asked question also. i was in relationship for past 7 years.first we were very ... A: Here's what I am going to tell you please take this seriously.....people who are abusive tend to be ... | |
| Abusive relationship what to do? | 11/6/2011 |
| Q: I have been with my partner some 5 years now. We don't live together yet but he is asking. He has ... A: The minute a man raises his hand to you and has struck you it's a wrap on the relationship because ... | |
| abuse, slander, everything | 10/8/2011 |
| Q: my name is bintou and i am an african woman now living in africa. You have to excuse me because my ... A: My advice to you is maybe seeking out asylum in the United States, but don't tell your family where ... | |
| I'm stuck with crazy ex-bf | 9/9/2011 |
| Q: ok, i will go straight to the point, ive been in a relationship nearly a year with this guy, at ... A: I apologize for the delay.....I took time to read your question and I have to say you're allowing ... | |
| relationship help | 5/17/2011 |
| Q: To whom it may concern, My name is Christina, I am 21 years old, a college student. Currently I ... A: If your heart and gut is telling you that you don't see him as someone you want to be with long term ... | |
| relationships | 2/7/2011 |
| Q: I write to you because as you are Indian I think. I am Indian but also Thai, as am born in Thailand. ... A: Just to correct you...Im not indian....second your husband should let you choose what you want. What ... | |
| abusive boyfriend | 12/2/2010 |
| Q: I am a very concerned big brother. My sister has been in a rocky relationship with her boyfriend for ... A: As someone who was in an abusive relationships it's hard to get through to someone who's currently ... | |
| emotional abuse | 5/3/2010 |
| Q: Can you help? my partner and I have been dating for 6 years, we have never lived together..he has ... A: If you've been dating for 6 years and your boyfriend has shown NO interest in getting married that's ... | |
| verbally abusive wife... | 4/12/2010 |
| Q: I'm a 37 year old father of 5 and just yesterday decidet to separate from my verbally abusive wife. ... A: You should consider moving on because you don't want your kids seeing their mother behaving like ... | |
| Narcissistic personality? | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: The 24 year relationship with my partner has always had is up and downs and deep down inside I have ... A: People with narcissitic personality disorder are hard to live with and they don't change the fact of ... | |
| Why do I stay | 11/6/2009 |
| Q: After four and a half years, a baby, numerous bruises and countless disrespect, why do I stay in ... A: Battered women tend to stay because they've been broken down to the degree that the abuser has ... | |
| My boyfriend is being abused by his mom | 10/15/2009 |
| Q: So my boyfriend is being verbally/physically/emotionally abused by his mom... once she knocked him ... A: How old is your boyfriend? Never stay quiet about abuse speak up because the worst thing you can do ... | |
| I think my husband is cheating after five years of marrage | 10/13/2009 |
| Q: I have two children with my husband a nine years old girl and seven year old boy , we got married ... A: If his family is accepting of this kind of behavior it's time to move on because why would you want ... | |
| I think my husband is cheating after five years of marrage | 10/8/2009 |
| Q: I have two children with my husband a nine years old girl and seven year old boy , we got married ... A: Don't let this man blame you for his cheating because it's not your fault he's behaving immaturely ... | |
| Abusive Wife ? | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: Help! feel like I'm going crazy... I have been married for ten years, but currently separated, she ... A: One your family and friends are noble to try and help, but this does not involve them and they need ... | |
| Verbally abusive boyfriend | 10/5/2009 |
| Q: I have been living with my boyfriend for over 8 years. Recently, due to terrible gambling habits ... A: If you got family and friends who'll let you come and stay with them go there at least you'll be ... | |
| abusive husband | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: I was married for almost a year to a man who got progressively more and more abusive, ending up in ... A: Don't say eventually.....go and file the paperwork and also file a restraining order against him at ... | |
| please help me | 9/2/2009 |
| Q: I am in a distant relationship with a boy, who proposed me in a very aggressive way say "Say yes ... A: I would not accept a marriage proposal from someone who acted like this guy it's like he's forcing ... | |
| my abusive man | 8/31/2009 |
| Q: me and my boyfriend have been together 7 years. Im 22,hes 21. We have a 2 year old daughter ... A: Don't consider this perfect please get out of this because if you have a daughter together she'll ... | |
| relatioship addvice | 8/31/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for nearly 3yrs been together for nearly 4 yrs, I guess I knew he had a volatile ... A: Jane, Sounds to me like your husband is a micromanager. This is one of the most toxic type of ... | |
| abused, and still confused | 8/31/2009 |
| Q: since i was 21 ive been in a relationship with an older man 36, now we r 27 and 42,everyhting was ... A: As a woman we have a hard time letting men go especially ones who don't treat us right. You have a ... | |
| guilt .... | 8/30/2009 |
| Q: You might not be able to help me, but I don't know who to ask!!! I let my ex move in with me in ... A: Kayla, At 20 years old someone like you should not be responsible for supporting a grown man who's ... | |
| Relationship Abuse, Denial, Guilt and Narcissism | 8/26/2009 |
| Q: This is tough but here I go. Background: Married at 16 divorced at 30 - 2 kids all grown up now. ... A: When you deal with a narcissist you're dealing with one of the most complex and the most abusive ... | |
| When dealing with abuse.. | 8/24/2009 |
| Q: I was just wondering if you have any advice as far as leaving an abusive boyfriend goes. We were ... A: I was disturbed when I saw what you wrote. This guy slapped you and pointed a gun at you. I would ... | |
| Possessive Ex | 8/23/2009 |
| Q: I'm 21. My 22 year old ex boyfriend, who I was dating for about 4 months, is really messing with my ... A: I just answered a question from another girl on here who's boyfriend is abusive too and I told her ... | |
| what should i do??? | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: I am 21 and have been married for 9 months my husband is very sweet in public, and everyone loves ... A: You're 21 years old you don't seem like you were prepared for marriage. I got engaged at 20 and ... | |
| i want to know | 8/21/2009 |
| Q: i want to know when i will get married. A: I can't tell you when you'll get married that all depends on where you meet the right woman. ... | |
| What to do? What to do? | 8/5/2009 |
| Q: Me and my partner have been together for nine years now and have 3 children ages 4,3 and 11mo. ... A: I want to talk to you woman to woman about this because this concerns me because you got 3 babies ... | |
| Life Long Sentence | 8/3/2009 |
| Q: My wife has given me a life long sentence for something I am totally innocent of doing. In 1989 she ... A: Not only does this seem like there's long standing and possibly undiagnosed mental issues, but she's ... | |
| truble in marrige | 7/31/2009 |
| Q: first of all thanks for taking the time to read this. I really need some help to get us through ... A: Phil, I am going to say this, but your wife has no idea how good she has it. How many good men like ... | |
| One bad relationship after another | 7/29/2009 |
| Q: I have been having horrible luck breaking free from abusive relationships. At the Age of 10, my ... A: This is the time to seek out counseling to begin working through some of your issues because it ... | |
| abuse | 7/15/2009 |
| Q: i have been in an abusive relationship for many years. i have been with this man for 13 years, it is ... A: Please take the next step as a woman and get out of this marriage because you don't need to be with ... | |
| vulnerable in relationship | 7/13/2009 |
| Q: I am fed up with being punished and ignored by my husband when we have a problem between us he is ... A: If this has gotten out of hand during the 10 years you've been together you need to make some ... | |
| clashes | 7/1/2009 |
| Q: What do you do when people pick stupid clashes with you like this? ... A: I would start with telling them to stop and if it continues take the next step and possibly file a ... | |
| being stalked | 6/27/2009 |
| Q: I really dont know what to do.About 3 years ago I noticed my partner kept popping up in places he ... A: The only way this will stop is to file a complaint with the police because you can get a restraining ... | |
| 7 months pregnant and in an abusive relationship | 5/26/2009 |
| Q: I am in love with the guy my age and we have been together for 4 years.I am now 7 months pregnant ... A: It's unfortunate that you're in this situation, but right now the best thing is to do what is best ... | |
| iam i being verbal abused | 5/25/2009 |
| Q: my husband called me a moucher and has also told me he would kill me he has grab my hand and told me ... A: Yes this is abuse if your husband has initiated physical contact and has threatened harm he's ... | |
| Controlling Girlfriend or Not ? | 5/23/2009 |
| Q: My ex girlfriend and I dated for 4 months. She ended things, and now I am wondering if she was a ... A: Yeah this does sound like a controlling type of situation and the thing is that you have to really ... | |
| Revenge | 5/20/2009 |
| Q: This is such a long, complex story, but I'll try to boil it down: I'm sort of an immature person, ... A: There's that saying that revenge is a dish best served cold, but if you're losing friends and ... | |
| counseling | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: A year ago I was verbally attacked horribly by someone. This person screamed at me at the top of ... A: I would seek counseling if this has still bothered you after a year and if people were standing ... | |
| abusive relationship | 5/4/2009 |
| Q: I was going out with this guy for almost 3 yrs and we were doing good till about the last yr of the ... A: Since this escalated to physical violence it's time to move on and I would also suggest seeking some ... | |
| I don't know how seriously I should take this. | 4/30/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I live together in my family's house, and have been dating almost a year (soon, I ... A: Because your boyfriend has no job and sees that you're doing better this could be a contributing ... | |
| dating two girls with same name | 4/27/2009 |
| Q: Okay I am going to try to keep this as short as possible…..I met Anthony while out one night we got ... A: I would kick this fool to the curb because he must think you and this other girl have SUCKER stamped ... | |
| my life is a mess | 4/20/2009 |
| Q: I have been marriued now for almost 10 years and my husband is a recovering alcoholic. He has ... A: This is a sad situation to be in and your husband has no reason to tell your kids that you had an ... | |
| Guilt | 4/14/2009 |
| Q: I would really appreciate your advice. I will try to be as unbiased as I can. I have been going out ... A: Ok what bothers me about this guy is that he could have been a lot more along in his life by the ... | |
| Is this abusive? | 4/10/2009 |
| Q: I am 17 years old and i have been in two relationships so far: one was for 4 years from grade 7-11, ... A: Your boyfriend has some abusive tendencies, but he's got to be willing to get into some counseling ... | |
| abusive relationship . | 4/5/2009 |
| Q: Ok where do i start? Im only 16 and i have a bestfriend who is 16 as well but she's turning 17 in a ... A: This is serious because if this guy is threating your friend's life she needs to get out ... | |
| Friend is emotionally abused... | 3/31/2009 |
| Q: I've know this girl for about a year and a half now. We hit it off very fast and became very close. ... A: This is something your friend needs to talk to her parent(s) about because it's clear that her ... | |
| unsure | 3/13/2009 |
| Q: just started a relationship with a guy. i adore cus he is so loving towards me. only trouble is when ... A: Having been in a abusive relationship myself yes this is an abusive relationship waiting to happen. ... | |
| verbal abuse and where it comes from | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: I am 62 years old and my son is 27, my wife died 3 years ago from brain cancer. I have no one else ... A: It's hard when you lose a spouse and it affects not only yourself, but others around you. It's sad ... | |
| shocked | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: I've recently started dating a man and we've really hit it off. He's handsome, smart, funny, rich ... A: Since you are in the early stages of dating I wouldnt waste time trying to rationalize this crap ... | |
| my husband chokes me | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for only 4 months. Two months into the marriage my husband and I had an ... A: I would rather be an embarassment than a statistic. More women are killed by abusive spouses and ... | |
| I dont know what to do? | 1/27/2009 |
| Q: We only been together 10 months so far and I'm already scared of breaking up with him.He tells me ... A: You're welcome and remember that love is never supposed to hurt and you are worth a nice guy who ... | |
| bullying | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: I happen to be a really beautiful woman, I used to model. I'm 6 feet tall and very thin. I live in a ... A: Yes if they're harassing you and this goes on daily yes it's time to inform the dean of students of ... | |
| I need advice | 1/24/2009 |
| Q: I've been having a problem with my current boyfriend for about a year now! Name calling and putting ... A: What disturbs me about your situation is that there is a child involved and you have no reason to ... | |
| bullying | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: I happen to be a really beautiful woman, I used to model. I'm 6 feet tall and very thin. I live in a ... A: This sounds like some BS drama off the Bad Girls Club except it's all a bunch of silly English girls ... | |
| what do i do? | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: good evening nafeesah, i clocked 22 years of age last september. i am a university graduate. i ... A: Do you have friends you can move in with or ones that need roommates that's an option for you. I ... | |
| I dont know what to do? | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: We only been together 10 months so far and I'm already scared of breaking up with him.He tells me ... A: Listen very carefully to what I am about to tell you GET OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP. This guy is ... | |
| what do i do? | 1/21/2009 |
| Q: good evening nafeesah, i clocked 22 years of age last september. i am a university graduate. i ... A: I would start by moving out of this guy's house and back home with your parents. Getting out of the ... | |
| question | 1/21/2009 |
| Q: There was this guy I was interested in and he likes me back, I know he likes me because he told all ... A: If "they" as in this guy's friends are saying he's not the marrying type or one to settle down ... | |
| Abusive relationship | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my partner for 4 years, at first it seemed fantastic, he wanted to get engaged ... A: I am sorry that you're in a relationship with someone who's served you no purpose, but it's time for ... | |
| emotional rollercoaster | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with a woman with two children; I myself have 2 children. in the two ... A: You shouldnt give up your life and happiness, but if this man has been abusive since narcs are ... | |
| need help | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: is there a book I can get to help someone deer to me in an abusive relationship to see the patern ... A: Go on Google and type in signs that someone's in an abusive relationship or what to look for if you ... | |
| emotional abuse | 1/1/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for almost ten years and share five children with my husband. We are all being ... A: Don't be unsure....be sure and leave because if you stay things will not get any better and can even ... | |
| emotional rollercoaster | 12/30/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with a woman with two children; I myself have 2 children. in the two ... A: She just complicated things by involving someone she was once with back in her life. The deal with ... | |
| can't get over it. | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: i was in an abusive relationship for 7-8months before getting out of it, i cant seem to get over ... A: You're dealing with the after affects of an abusive relationship. Your friends should have not told ... | |
| sucking a boy's dick | 12/28/2008 |
| Q: .. i'm a girl and i'm 12 years old and i'm in grade 7. i was molested a year ago but i didn't know ... A: Jessica, Please listen to what I am going to tell you having oral sex with this guy is dangerous ... | |
| Emotional abusive ex wants me back and is putting pressure on me | 12/22/2008 |
| Q: My ex husband and I split after 8 years together where he controlled every desicion, undermined and ... A: Stick to your guns because what you're seeing is a classic case of manipulation since abusive people ... | |
| Im abusive | 12/3/2008 |
| Q: I am a 17 year old gay man. And i have issues BIG ISSUES....I AM NOT CURRENTLY ABUSIVE. but i was ... A: Yes it's possible to stop what you're doing, but it could take a few rounds of therapy and time in ... | |
| beginning of abuse? | 11/25/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend I have been together 3 years in December. Everything was perfect until I cheated on ... A: He's angry because you cheated on him, but he should express his feelings differently other than to ... | |
| so tired! | 11/17/2008 |
| Q: i love my husband so much, i left everything i had, my career, my country, my friends family. i ... A: You would rather be single than mistreated by someone and you would rather be single than to see ... | |
| so tired! | 11/16/2008 |
| Q: i love my husband so much, i left everything i had, my career, my country, my friends family. i ... A: You always have a way out don't tell yourself that. You can make new friends and make a new life for ... | |
| so tired! | 11/15/2008 |
| Q: i love my husband so much, i left everything i had, my career, my country, my friends family. i ... A: This sounds like you're being abused if your husband's resorted to taking your phone and controlling ... | |
| *** What should we do??? *** | 11/13/2008 |
| Q: I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 21. We've been together for over 2 years and are both in college. She's ... A: Sounds like some trust issues is present along with the fact that she should have gone about things ... | |
| Abusive realtionships | 11/2/2008 |
| Q: I actually have many questions. I am going through a divorce after ten years of marriage. My wife ... A: Here's my take and please don't take this the wrong way, but she made a choice to go back to ... | |
| rio de janerio woman | 10/31/2008 |
| Q: I have a problem...I have been seeing this woman from brazil for 3 yrs and 5 months, when i first ... A: Why would you be with someone who doesnt like children? You are wasting your time with her and ... | |
| Abusive realtionships | 10/30/2008 |
| Q: I actually have many questions. I am going through a divorce after ten years of marriage. My wife ... A: Women are emotional creatures and when you're dealing with abuse you're looking at years of damage ... | |
| Abusive relationship | 10/26/2008 |
| Q: I'm 17 years old and have been in 2 abusive relationships. Well to my knowledge I never realized ... A: You have to learn to recognize the signs of abuse which usually starts with verbal and mental abuse. ... | |
| breaking up | 10/19/2008 |
| Q: My boyfriend, 27 and i,19, have been dating for eight months, and living together for five of them. ... A: The minute a man puts his hands on you it's time to let him go and moving in with him was a mistake ... | |
| Please Help... | 10/18/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 2 months now. Mine was a arranged marrraige.I stayed in india while my hubby ... A: Here's my question to you were you prepared for this marriage? What details did you learn about this ... | |
| Please Help... | 10/18/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 2 months now. Mine was a arranged marrraige.I stayed in india while my hubby ... A: The problem with arranged marriages is that there's that possibility of the husband becoming ... | |
| Emotionally Abused | 10/16/2008 |
| Q: I was a single mother till quite recently my baby's daddy entered the picture. We met on a telephone ... A: Your boyfriend is a product of his upbringing if he grew up acting rude mean and inconsiderate then ... | |
| Emotionally Abused | 10/14/2008 |
| Q: I was a single mother till quite recently my baby's daddy entered the picture. We met on a telephone ... A: Please pay attention to that one sentence in your question "I deserve better than him"....this guy ... | |
| abuse | 10/14/2008 |
| Q: I am in an abusive relationship,both mentally and physical. He threatens to harm me if I leave. He ... A: You need to seek legal help and the best place to start is a social service agency they have ... | |
| what does a mother do when she finds out her daughter has been pushed by boyfriend | 10/7/2008 |
| Q: my daughter is telling me to mind my own business, I can't, I was in an abusive relationship with ... A: I needed some time to think about your follow up and the best way to go about this is to do what is ... | |
| confusion | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: i have a bf frm 4 yrs..he had abusive personality..coz he controls me ,isolate me and hits ..abuse ... A: You can't stop someone from abusing themselves and if you're the one being abused you're validating ... | |
| What to do? | 10/6/2008 |
| Q: I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 years now, we've had our ups and downs, more downs than ... A: When your boyfriend gets to the point of verbally abusing you it's time to leave this relationship. ... | |
| confusion | 10/5/2008 |
| Q: i have a bf frm 4 yrs..he had abusive personality..coz he controls me ,isolate me and hits ..abuse ... A: I would not count on curing your boyfriend of this because once he's began the cycle of abuse rarely ... | |
| help !!! | 10/3/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with a man for seven years. I met him when I was 15, dated him for 3 ... A: If he's still pushing you that's still abuse, if he's pinching you and is disrespecting your space ... | |
| what does a mother do when she finds out her daughter has been pushed by boyfriend | 9/27/2008 |
| Q: my daughter is telling me to mind my own business, I can't, I was in an abusive relationship with ... A: You can let your daughter know that if she doesnt get herself together in terms of this relationship ... | |
| I don't know if this qualifies as emotional abuse | 9/22/2008 |
| Q: I've been dating this guy for a year and a half. In the beginning, he fell hard for me and told me ... A: Yeah this is emotional abuse because I had this same nonsense with an ex until he found himself ... | |
| Not sure if the relationship is abusive | 9/21/2008 |
| Q: I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years, but I keep doubting that I did the right ... A: Anytime someone who constantly analyzes you and says you need to be on medication is abusive and the ... | |
| i have no idea what to do. | 9/17/2008 |
| Q: so i got to school today and i saw my boyfriend... he looked totally bummed as soon as he saw me but ... A: The minute a man raises his hand at you leave him IMMEDIATELY this will not get any better. As ... | |
| Confused | 9/16/2008 |
| Q: my name is Jacqui and I've been in a relationship for three years this January. I am fully aware ... A: This is what abuse will do to you long term it can make you dependent on that person and over time ... | |
| physical abuse | 9/15/2008 |
| Q: I have read numerous letters regarding physical abuse. I am currently continuing my education to ... A: I would really look at the field you're going into because if you're going to be counseling people ... | |
| PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE... | 9/13/2008 |
| Q: I AM A MOTHER OF 2 CHILDREN BOTH ARE 3 YEARS OLD AN 7 YEARS OLD.I WAS ENGAGED TO THE FATHER OF MY ... A: I can feel your situation and what is hard for women to understand is that abuse in any shape or ... | |
| reeling, not healing... | 9/12/2008 |
| Q: I have recently ended an emotionally abusive relationship. I say recently, but it was over three ... A: Don't laminate on times that were unhappy. Thank god you were allowed to leave and not be taken out ... | |
| Confused | 9/12/2008 |
| Q: my name is Jacqui and I've been in a relationship for three years this January. I am fully aware ... A: That's the whole mystery of abusive people's mentalities they don't care about who they hurt and how ... | |
| Current Girlfriend | 9/9/2008 |
| Q: I live in Canada and a few months ago started a long distance relationship with a woman from the UK. ... A: Seems to be narcissistic? Unless your counselor got their credentials from a Cracker Jack box your ... | |
| What is behind the emotional abuse? | 9/6/2008 |
| Q: Over the past year I dated a woman who I describe as 90% wonderful and 10% nasty. She pursued me ... A: Sounds to me like she's needy and when you combine emotional abuse that's a prescription for ... | |
| help please | 9/4/2008 |
| Q: A man at work put up my privacy fence. I paid him. He took 2 months to do it, leading me on and ... A: He sounds like he's not stable mentally if he's acting really weird around you. I would avoid him ... | |
| divorce due to I think was a unsafe marriage | 8/19/2008 |
| Q: I have just filed for a divorce and been married for less than a year. Since I been married my ... A: I would take the advice of the courts and the police because women who are abused make the mistake ... | |
| can aman who abuse all women he been with change | 8/18/2008 |
| Q: i was with a man on and off four 7 years i left him he wouldnt stop abusing ,i found out he was ... A: If you learned that he was married after being with him off and on for 7 years I hate to be honest ... | |
| How can I leave my abusive boyfriend? | 8/14/2008 |
| Q: Help! I have three kids, none are his, yet he acts as though they are. He calls me horrible names in ... A: This is the time to leave and I mean LEAVE because the longer you stay the worse the abuse gets. ... | |
| my friends abusive relationship. | 8/4/2008 |
| Q: A very dear friend of mine has been in an emotionally abusive relationship for over three years. The ... A: Here's what people should really see when abuse is evident. Your friend has been conditioned by the ... | |
| son-in-law manipulative | 7/25/2008 |
| Q: My daughter recently got married. We found out just before the wedding that her then-fiancee had ... A: When you're dealing with abuse this is what you get is manipulation and knowing that your daughter ... | |
| successful working women and husband's jealousy | 7/10/2008 |
| Q: Many women are well educated and career oriented in Saudi Arabia and Arab countries. They use their ... A: Coming from someone who's been raised as muslim I can tell you that a lot of what muslim men feel ... | |
| abuse | 7/8/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 19 years and I cant take it anymore.My husband is so verbally abusive I cant ... A: Coming from experience being abused by someone who claims to love you is the most disgraceful ... | |
| Mental Abuse | 7/7/2008 |
| Q: I have been dating a guy for almost 3 years, he says he loves me, but he blames everything on me and ... A: This is where you need to make your break because abuse always starts at the mental and emotional ... | |
| Abusive Relationship | 7/5/2008 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years. Our relationship has never been good. Our ... A: Coming from experience from having been in an abusive relationship I will say that it won't get any ... | |
| what do abusers think? | 7/4/2008 |
| Q: i was in a verbal abusive relationship for 3 yrs, hard to leave but a month ago she had a graduation ... A: Manipulation is the abuser's biggest tool they utilize it to no end and from what your ex is doing ... | |
| what do abusers think? | 7/4/2008 |
| Q: i was in a verbal abusive relationship for 3 yrs, hard to leave but a month ago she had a graduation ... A: Actually your ex should keep telling herself that the men she treats like crap will come back when ... | |
| what do abusers think? | 7/2/2008 |
| Q: i was in a verbal abusive relationship for 3 yrs, hard to leave but a month ago she had a graduation ... A: Abusive relationships are hard to leave because of the psychological and emotional scars they leave. ... | |
| abusive ex | 6/30/2008 |
| Q: I dated my ex for about a year. We lived together for the last 4 months of our relationship. He ... A: I wouldnt move an inch if I were you. What women don't know about mental, emotional, and physical ... | |
| withholding affection | 6/23/2008 |
| Q: I left my boyfriend a few months ago because of his anger. He would rage, throw things, and break ... A: This is where you look at the pattern of abuse in families when mom makes excuses for her son's ... | |
| Stuck in a relationship | 6/20/2008 |
| Q: Hey , i'm a 17 year old high school girl from Algeria and i have a serious problem , i'm from a very ... A: Anytime a guy starts using manipulation especially threatening you it's time to consider legal ... | |
| withholding affection | 6/20/2008 |
| Q: I left my boyfriend a few months ago because of his anger. He would rage, throw things, and break ... A: If your boyfriend's mother told you she feared her son would hurt you that's a red flag to leave ... | |
| husband is extremely selfish | 6/13/2008 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for nearly 13 years. We had no children until nearly 3 years ago. ... A: Sounds to me like he was content when the kids werent around and now that you got 3 of them it's ... | |
| why is it so hard to leave | 6/11/2008 |
| Q: I am a 28 year old female in a relationship with a 27 year old female. She has many male ... A: Anyway you look at it gay or straight you're being abused because if you're isolating yourself from ... | |
| Why? | 6/5/2008 |
| Q: I don't know what I am doing half the time. I've been with my boyfriend for a couple months. In the ... A: The thing is you have not done anything wrong and this is what abuse does to you is make you feel ... | |
| niece in a bad relationship | 6/4/2008 |
| Q: I'm really scared about my niece being with this guy, she only knew for 3 months, in the three ... A: It's good you recognize that she's got signs of mental illness, but when you're dealing with mental ... | |
| Daughter | 5/27/2008 |
| Q: My daughter was in a 5 year abusive relationship with a guy. She has been out of that relationship ... A: Coming from experience I was dealing with the aftermath of my own abusive relationship with someone ... | |
| is my boyfriend abusive? | 5/26/2008 |
| Q: I am in relationship for 2 years.I am single mother.4 month ago i lost my job.Had to move to ... A: I am going to be honest about this and say yes because this is what emotional and psychological ... | |
Abusive Relationships
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Nafeesah
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Expertise
I can answer just about anything on abusive relationships, but I can't give legal advice on how to get out of one that's something you need to speak with an attorney or a counselor trained and certified to deal with domestic violence issues to get resources in pursuing any/all legal recourse(s).
Experience
I have been in abusive relationships and I have shared my experience in helping others to get out of these types of relationships. I was in two abusive relationships one lasting nearly 2 years and the other for 5 years.
Education/Credentials
Associates degree, bachelors degree, and I am a certified nursing assistant
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