| Subject | Date Asked |
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| Will things get worse? | 10/12/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend now for 6 months and everything was good for the first couple of ...
A: Although it is always difficult to predict the future, statistically the answer to your question is ...
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| Bad situation? | 10/9/2009 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for 3 years and together for 10. we have 2 young kids under 5. I ...
A: I can certainly see that this is a controlled and manipulated environment, which is common with ...
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| Wife's abuse | 10/7/2009 |
Q: My wife completely denies that she has been abusive in any way but I feel certain she has been to ...
A: There is definitely something wrong with any type of behavior that includes physical and verbal ...
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| is this abuse | 10/6/2009 |
Q: I have been married for 5 years. This is my second marriage. I have a child from my first marriage ...
A: Yes, this is mental and emotional abuse. It is also manipulation and control. This kind of abuse ...
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| what's best for my kids? | 9/27/2009 |
Q: I have 2 kids, 6 and 2 yrs old. I'm not married, but I've been in this relationship for about 7 ...
A: Finances are definitely a consideration, but I think you know the answer to your question. If the ...
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| I feel so stupid AGAIN | 9/27/2009 |
Q: Just even writing out my "situation" basically answers what I SHOULD do AGAIN....I've been on this ...
A: I think you have pretty well figured out what you want to do, now it is just executing the plan. If ...
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| Abussive or me? | 9/22/2009 |
Q: I have been married to my husband for over 3 years, but we have been together over 5. We have his ...
A: From your description, the abuse seems to be coming at you, rather than vice versa. Blaming the ...
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| My Brother May Be Depressed and Threatening an Ex | 9/21/2009 |
Q: I have never submitted a question to an online site or ever had to talk with someone else about an ...
A: I can understand how concerned you are and thank you for trusting me to help you with this ...
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| Advise Needed | 9/18/2009 |
Q: I met my daughter's dad about 6 years ago. The first 3 years we were on and off. He was a very ...
A: I am so very sorry to hear about your situation. It is never easy to make decisions about these ...
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| I need some advice. | 9/18/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. We have known each other a lot longer & ...
A: I am so very sorry to hear about your situation. It is never easy to make decisions about these ...
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| abuse | 9/12/2009 |
Q: My husband and i have been fighting a lot lately. He has lost his job and has bee super stressed but ...
A: Before I say anything else, I want to assure you that you are not an abusive woman and you did not ...
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| please read verbal abuse! | 9/9/2009 |
Q: my sister has been with her husband for 11 +yrs her husband drinks everyday she tells him to stop ...
A: It is so tough to be an outsider in a situation like this because you really have few options. Your ...
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| Moving on.. | 9/9/2009 |
Q: I have been the victim of emotional/mental abuse for the majority of my life. From the name-calling ...
A: I am so glad that you are with a person who is treating you well...that is half the battle. The ...
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| unsure of the path to take | 9/6/2009 |
Q: I have been abused my entire life by my whole family--namecalling, putdowns, hitting, made to feel ...
A: I'm glad to know that this is a long distance relationship, but no matter whether it is in person or ...
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| How should I handle this? | 9/5/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months. We have been friends for about 6 months prior. We ...
A: I really want to commend you for taking the action that you did. Many women would not have done ...
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| Need Some Insight | 9/4/2009 |
Q: My husband and I have been married just over 1 yr but have been together for nearly 10. We started ...
A: The first thing I want you to know is that this is not your fault and you are not crazy. Abusive ...
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| Fear of Emotional Abuse and Controlling Relationship | 9/4/2009 |
Q: I have been with my current boyfriend off and on for the past year (we have broken up twice), and ...
A: I appreciate your candor. If you are in an unhealthy relationship and your boyfriend is unwilling ...
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| It's getting worse..advice? | 9/3/2009 |
Q: My husband goes through these cycles. He'll get mad over something silly (what i think is silly ...
A: Please forgive me for not getting back to you in a timely manner. I've been off the site for quite ...
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| life after the abuse! | 8/15/2009 |
Q: How do I pick up my life after 10 years of abuse? I have two small kids, 3yrs and 4mths and no ...
A: I found your question in the question pool and wanted to answer it. This is such a valid question ...
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| Abusive boyfriend | 6/9/2009 |
Q: I have been with my partner for nearly 18 months. He is very ambitious and driven and after ...
A: This is a very scary situation and my heart goes out to you as I have read your story. I can say ...
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| My boyfriend | 6/6/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend and i have been dating for about 2 1/2 years. The first year and a half of our ...
A: These are good questions and you also have some good insights even though you may not think so. One ...
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| Can I fix him? | 6/5/2009 |
Q: I'm not even sure I have one question, just want to summarize my relationship to you and get some ...
A: In response to your question, can I fix him, the answer is simply no. This is a verbally abusive ...
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| abusive marriage | 6/4/2009 |
Q: Im 5months pregnant and my husband has been abusing me. Im so scared he is going to make me lose our ...
A: This is really bad Ashley and there is no way that you should stay. I don't know if your husband ...
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| What should I do? | 6/3/2009 |
Q: I hope you are able to help me. I already asked this before but I wasn't able to get a response. ...
A: This sounds like a very humiliating experience for you and I'm so sorry to hear how terribly you ...
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| Do i need to leave now | 6/3/2009 |
Q: When me and my boyfriend started dating, I knew he had been abusive in a past relationship. He has ...
A: If your boyfriend has already progressed to choking you, he doesn't have far to go in order to ...
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| he treats me like a challenged 6yr old | 6/2/2009 |
Q: My situation is complicated and long withstanding. I met my husband when I was 21 and he, 29. I have ...
A: I am so sorry to hear how difficult this is for you. You're right, it is difficult to maintain any ...
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| husband's past relationship | 6/1/2009 |
Q: I AM A 25 YRS OLD MARRIED GIRL, MY PROBLEM IS MY HUSBAND WAS IN DEEP LOVE WITH A GIRL BEFORE ...
A: It can be very difficult to discover something about someone's past that you didn't know, especially ...
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| Is this abuse? | 5/16/2009 |
Q: I have been in a previous domestic violence situation, that included both physical and ...
A: If you will go to my website www.livingwellcc.com and click on "library", under the abuse category ...
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| Confusioin | 5/15/2009 |
Q: To start off I was in an abusive relationship with an guy that was younger than me. I an 32 and he ...
A: I am so sorry to hear how much violence you have been through, but I am very glad to see that you ...
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| confused | 5/12/2009 |
Q: Im a 25 year old female and have been in a serious relationship on and off for a little over 4 ...
A: It sounds as though you are pretty confused about what to do and a little upset with yourself for ...
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| counseling | 5/11/2009 |
Q: A year ago I was verbally attacked horribly by someone. This person screamed at me at the top of ...
A: It sounds as though you experienced some severe trauma with this experience. The most simple way to ...
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| Im lost | 5/10/2009 |
Q: I've been married for 10 years with a nine year old son. My marriage has been rocky from the ...
A: These are very, very difficult questions Ruby and although it sounds as though there are issues on ...
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| Abuse | 5/8/2009 |
Q: I have been married for 28 years to the same abusive man. I was married when I was 17. I come from a ...
A: You ask your question in such an interesting way! If you were my friend and you told me this kind ...
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| Abusive and controlling spouse | 5/7/2009 |
Q: I'm desperate for answers and help! I've been in an abusive marriage for 10 years. There isn't any ...
A: I applaud you for reaching out for information. What you really need is legal information, which I ...
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| abusive relationship | 5/4/2009 |
Q: I was going out with this guy for almost 3 yrs and we were doing good till about the last yr of the ...
A: It seems as though you are willing to look at your part in this as well as his part, which is a good ...
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| Controlling daughter | 5/3/2009 |
Q: My question is a rather painful one. I have a daughter who is single, who has a son. She's 28, a ...
A: This must be very difficult for you and the rest of your family. It is clear that you have strong ...
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| control in marriage | 5/1/2009 |
Q: My husband has exhibited different forms of what I was told is spousal abuse. It's rather subtle ...
A: This is a good question. Yes, these are forms of abuse in that they are some of the pretty classic ...
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| Daughter in abusive relationship | 4/30/2009 |
Q: My 18yo daughter, college freshman is dating a 17yo 11th grader. He will be 18 in 2 weeks. He lives ...
A: This is a really tough situation and I can only imagine how difficult this must be for you. ...
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| dating two girls with same name | 4/27/2009 |
Q: Okay I am going to try to keep this as short as possible…..I met Anthony while out one night we got ...
A: This does not sound like a very good relationship for you to be in on any level. There's too much ...
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| Letting go | 4/25/2009 |
Q: My ex partner, a now recovering alcoholic,ended our seven year relationship by doing a complete ...
A: In regard to red flags and abusive relationships, it is common for women to ignore what would ...
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| Letting go | 4/24/2009 |
Q: My ex partner, a now recovering alcoholic,ended our seven year relationship by doing a complete ...
A: I am so sorry to hear of what has happened to you. Grieving the loss of a dream is as devastating ...
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| I don't know if it's abuse | 4/22/2009 |
Q: I'm 18 and have been going out with my boyfriend for the last 14 months. Since I started University ...
A: This sounds very frustrating and confusing for you. It's always hard to assign motive to someone ...
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| Abusive relationships turned around? | 4/20/2009 |
Q: Can you give me any stories about abusive relationships where the couple turned the relationship ...
A: Although these kinds of stories are uncommon, there are a few. In my experience Gonzalo, those who ...
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| Taking a break in a relationship | 4/13/2009 |
Q: Okay this is going to be a complicated issue. Tony and I have been dating since September 2008. ...
A: My goodness...it sounds as if this is a very chaotic place for you to be and you're right, it isn't ...
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| helping a friend | 4/13/2009 |
Q: I met a lady at church about two years ago, and we started talking occasionally. We are not close ...
A: Watching someone in an abusive relationship is always difficult. You wonder why they stay, why they ...
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| Domestic Violence questions | 4/7/2009 |
Q: my name is La'Tasha i am doing a research paper for my English class and my teacher wants us to get ...
A: I will do my best to answer your questions. 1. I'm not sure what you mean by a lot, but I've dealt ...
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| Should I leave? | 4/2/2009 |
Q: Me and my partner have been together for nearly three years now. At first it was great and he ...
A: It is very difficult to be in these kinds of relationships. Whether he is hitting you or not, this ...
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| My relationship: on the rocks. | 3/31/2009 |
Q: and i'm 18 years old. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and since we started ...
A: I am so sorry to hear of what has happened to you. This is truly a violent situation and the most ...
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| Up | 3/31/2009 |
Q: I recently broke up with my ex of 2yrs off and on.I was very in love with him and still am.we are ...
A: I understand how hard it can be to just turn feelings on and off. You have a really good grasp of ...
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| how do i know if my boyfriend is abusive | 3/29/2009 |
Q: my boyfriend and i have been together for about 2 years. we argue constantly, his fault and mine, ...
A: There are several questions here that I will attempt to answer, but first I wish to express my ...
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| girl friend a herion addict | 3/26/2009 |
Q: I have lived with and had a relationship with a herion addict for 9 months. She wants help. I have ...
A: I can understand why you are confused....dealing with an addict has its own set of complications. ...
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| how to see him for what he is | 3/24/2009 |
Q: i have been with my husband for 15 yrs and married 13 of those years. before i married him he was ...
A: No, you are not the one who is crazy. This is a textbook example of abuse and the cycle it takes. ...
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| Emotionally Abusive??? | 3/20/2009 |
Q: I have a habit of getting into emotionally abusive relationships. In fact, I just recently ended ...
A: I truly hear what you are saying and think that you are being very wise. Although I don't have any ...
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| Possible emotional abuse | 3/18/2009 |
Q: I am in a "relationship" with a man who withholds affection, words, sex, just about anything that ...
A: I truly empathize with you as you find yourself in such a hurtful situation. Relationships are very ...
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| Codependence | 3/12/2009 |
Q: My wife is extremely inconsistent and emotional. After much work, I'm feeling as though my wife may ...
A: I'd be happy to share with you what I know about codependency. In what I'm about to tell you, it is ...
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| Adult Sister Not Willing To Address Problems | 3/7/2009 |
Q: I'd welcome your thoughts on a problem with my adult sister. On the surface it’s a financial ...
A: It sounds as though you care for your sister very much and have the ability to connect present day ...
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| Parent Abuse | 3/4/2009 |
Q: follow up question from the below URL: ...
A: You mentioned that mom was diagnosed with a personality disorder, which is a huge part of this ...
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| Friend being abused | 3/4/2009 |
Q: My story begins with meeting a wonderful, talented and intelligent young woman. We have been friends ...
A: I'm glad to be a place to vent a little bit. You sound like a very caring person and this is quite ...
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| Friend being abused | 3/3/2009 |
Q: My story begins with meeting a wonderful, talented and intelligent young woman. We have been friends ...
A: I certainly understand what you are saying. These kinds of things can be very hurtful, to all ...
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| parent abuse? | 3/2/2009 |
Q: My fiancé is a single father. I have known both him and his daughter for many years. He and I ...
A: This sounds like a very tragic situation, but you have handled it very well. I was glad to see that ...
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| Friend being abused | 3/2/2009 |
Q: My story begins with meeting a wonderful, talented and intelligent young woman. We have been friends ...
A: It is very hard seeing someone you care about going through something like this, isn't it? It is a ...
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| Mental abuse? | 2/27/2009 |
Q: I have a situation I'm not sure how to deal with. My wife and I have been married for 6 years, both ...
A: I found your question in the question pool so will do my best to answer it. I'm so sorry to hear of ...
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| abuse in a marriage | 2/26/2009 |
Q: I have been with my husband for 19 years married for 8, we have 4 children . We are separated, have ...
A: My heart goes out to you. It sounds like such a difficult situation, however to have separated was ...
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| What advice would you give a parent | 2/23/2009 |
Q: I am 62 years old and my son is 27, my wife died 3 years ago from brain cancer. I have no one else ...
A: I can hear the care and concern you have for your son. I think it is every parent's desire to see ...
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| helping a friend cope with an abusive ex | 2/23/2009 |
Q: This is a bit strange, so please bear with me. I dated a woman for 6 weeks or so last fall. She ...
A: I found your question in the question pool so would like to offer some suggestions. Keeping track ...
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| affair | 2/23/2009 |
Q: My husband and I split up two weeks ago in the past on occasion he has been physical with me and ...
A: I realize that abusers can wear you down, but most counselors recommend against telling all the gory ...
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| abusive relationship..can it change? | 2/16/2009 |
Q: This might take a while to explain but bear with me... My husband and I have been married for a ...
A: I am so sorry to hear of the pain that you are going through. Decisions such as you are facing can ...
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| My brother and his girlfriend | 2/14/2009 |
Q: My oldest brother's girlfriend called me this week to tell me about an incident that occurred over ...
A: It depends on your relationship with your brother. If the two of you are close, if he trusts you, ...
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| mentally abusive relationship | 2/13/2009 |
Q: I have been with my now husband for 14 years. I would say for the most part we are a happy couple. ...
A: What you are describing in your question is most certainly abuse. What he is doing fits the pattern ...
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| shocked | 2/9/2009 |
Q: I've recently started dating a man and we've really hit it off. He's handsome, smart, funny, rich ...
A: With everything you put in your email, I'm not sure why you have to ask the question. This guy ...
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| loving an abuser | 2/8/2009 |
Q: i am separated from my husband, he beat me up, he was charged with several crimes. i have a ...
A: This sounds like a really messy situation. Your husband's family sounds like they are enabling him, ...
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| Abusive Relationship? | 2/3/2009 |
Q: Ok, so I'm 16 years old, I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, things we're amazing at ...
A: Being 16, I don't know what the laws are in your area regarding emancipation of a minor, so you ...
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| My Girl | 2/3/2009 |
Q: I'm in a relationship with a women who has recently gotten out of a 5 year abusive relationship. The ...
A: It is truly admirable of you to be a stable influence in her life. Abusive relationships are very ...
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| vicious cycle | 2/2/2009 |
Q: My girlfriend & I been on & off for 13 years Our problem is the same vicious cycle. I take her back ...
A: 13 years is quite a long time to be with a person. I can see why it would be difficult for you as ...
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| affair | 2/1/2009 |
Q: My husband and I split up two weeks ago in the past on occasion he has been physical with me and ...
A: You said that you are tired of being controlled which I can see and understand from what you wrote. ...
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| Trapped in abusive relationship | 1/30/2009 |
Q: I am going out with a guys 2 and a half years now,we were frends for about 5 years before that.But ...
A: If he has BPD, you will need to find a psychologist who understands personality disorders. There is ...
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| im so brain washed!help!! | 1/29/2009 |
Q: im a 17 year old girl and i have been with this guy for about a year now...me and him met last march ...
A: What you are describing is part of the abusive behavior. It is also the sign of a man who is not ...
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| im so brain washed!help!! | 1/29/2009 |
Q: im a 17 year old girl and i have been with this guy for about a year now...me and him met last march ...
A: There is so much pain that you are describing to me. I understand how you feel and know what its ...
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| Trapped in abusive relationship | 1/28/2009 |
Q: I am going out with a guys 2 and a half years now,we were frends for about 5 years before that.But ...
A: I'm sorry to hear that you are in this kind of relationship. It is a hard place to be, and in order ...
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| a dangerous crush - help me! | 1/27/2009 |
Q: I'm not a teen any more:(((( I'm already 24 year old female and still so vulnerable!!! I love going ...
A: I don't think there are any tricks beyond just concentrating on you, your future and the goals you ...
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| Abusive Relationship? | 1/27/2009 |
Q: Ok, so I'm 16 years old, I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, things we're amazing at ...
A: I'm glad to hear that things have smoothed out over time. That is encouraging! In regard to trust, ...
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| a dangerous crush - help me! | 1/27/2009 |
Q: I'm not a teen any more:(((( I'm already 24 year old female and still so vulnerable!!! I love going ...
A: These are confusing feelings and it is helpful to process them with another person. Although ...
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| Brother has abusive wife | 1/26/2009 |
Q: My older brother is currently incarcerated. Recently, I have realized that his relationship with his ...
A: It sounds as if you care very much for your brother and I'm sure he is very lucky to have a sister ...
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| bullying | 1/22/2009 |
Q: I happen to be a really beautiful woman, I used to model. I'm 6 feet tall and very thin. I live in a ...
A: It is always difficult being the target of anger and I'm very sorry to hear that this is happening ...
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| serial abandoners | 1/22/2009 |
Q: I am a 42 year old man who dated a 38 year old women. She said she wanted to marry me but once she ...
A: Often the best way to deal with these kinds of issues is to find a counselor, a pastor or a good ...
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| question | 1/21/2009 |
Q: There was this guy I was interested in and he likes me back, I know he likes me because he told all ...
A: Relationships are always a little confusing so I can understand the motivation for your question. ...
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| Abusive Relationship? | 1/19/2009 |
Q: Ok, so I'm 16 years old, I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, things we're amazing at ...
A: I'm sorry to hear this is happening, but it sounds as though both of you are taking some wise steps. ...
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| I dont know what to do....Please help. | 1/19/2009 |
Q: I have been dating the same guy for the last four years. WE are both really young, I am 19 and he is ...
A: My heart just broke as I read your question, not so much for the situation, but for the fact that ...
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| Break Up with boy friend- But he troubles back? | 1/18/2009 |
Q: My friend was in love with a guy for last 4 years. Recently there is a gap in their relationship and ...
A: Your friend is probably pursuing the best course of action by filing a complaint with the police. ...
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| Abusive relationships | 1/16/2009 |
Q: I am a 23 year old stay at home mother of one. When I met my boyfriend three years ago he seemed ...
A: My heart goes out to you and I can hear the pain and hopelessness in your words as you describe your ...
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| controlling relationships? | 1/15/2009 |
Q: My Boyfriend and i have now been together a year iam also pregnant!I cant have a telephone cause he ...
A: It does sound as though there is control going on in this relationship and that is not a sign of a ...
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| serial abandoners | 1/14/2009 |
Q: I am a 42 year old man who dated a 38 year old women. She said she wanted to marry me but once she ...
A: This sounds like a very hurtful relationship to have been in and I can understand your confusion. ...
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| How my friend's boyfriend has ruined our relationship.... | 1/14/2009 |
Q: I have a very close friend of 4 years who use to be the epitamy of indepence and confidence. My ...
A: I am sorry to hear that your friend is in such a hurtful place. It is always very difficult to ...
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| Leaving my fiance' | 1/14/2009 |
Q: It will be 5 years together this April. We got together when i was 20, he was 21. Now I'm 25 and we ...
A: I am truly saddened to hear of the circumstances that you find yourself in. You absolutely deserve ...
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| Abuse | 1/12/2009 |
Q: I have always felt that I was an intelligent, independant woman. Life has not been so kind to me in ...
A: I am glad that I was able to help and to clarify for you. Sometimes that is half the battle, isn't ...
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| I cant let go! | 1/9/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for about two years, he is a good man when he wants to be but most of ...
A: This is truly a difficult situation and I can understand the pain you are feeling. When someone we ...
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| Abuse | 1/9/2009 |
Q: I have always felt that I was an intelligent, independant woman. Life has not been so kind to me in ...
A: I am so sorry to hear of the circumstances that you find yourself in. This kind of relationship is ...
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| My husband is seriously addicted to online gaming. | 1/6/2009 |
Q: When I met my husband, I was 19 and in the military. He was 23 and worked at a bar. A mutual friend ...
A: As I read your question and started to understand the circumstances you find yourself in, I hear ...
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| boyfriend is addicted to drugs | 1/3/2009 |
Q: What do you do when your boyfriend is pulling away from because he has an addiction to crack ...
A: Your question came to me today and I hope that in the time since you wrote, things have become more ...
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| emotional abuse | 1/2/2009 |
Q: I have been in a relationship with a woman with two children; I myself have 2 children. in the two ...
A: One of the things that can be difficult for people to understand if they have never been the victim ...
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| emotional abuse | 12/30/2008 |
Q: I have been in a relationship with a woman with two children; I myself have 2 children. in the two ...
A: This is certainly a confusing situation and I can see how you might be upset by the mixed signals ...
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| Dont know what to do! | 12/29/2008 |
Q: Iv been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years now. I have been through ALOT with him (specifically ...
A: I appreciate how well you have described your situation. You seem to have a handle on what is going ...
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| I'm lost. Plz help! | 12/12/2008 |
Q: my bf & I have been together for two years now. Our relationship started online & we live in ...
A: This must be very difficult for you and I understand how confusing situations like this can be. ...
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| marriage relationship | 12/7/2008 |
Q: My husband goes from giving me silent treatment and withholding sex from two week, two to four ...
A: I am so glad that you wrote. It takes a lot of courage to begin the process of gathering ...
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| Am I straight or not? | 12/7/2008 |
Q: Well from your opinion and from what you read,do you think that I am a lesbian?I just need to ...
A: They are telling you the truth. These questions are too serious to be answered by what another ...
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| Am I straight or not? | 12/7/2008 |
Q: Well from your opinion and from what you read,do you think that I am a lesbian?I just need to ...
A: If you are receiving this information from more than one source, perhaps it is because it is true. ...
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| Am I straight or not? | 12/7/2008 |
Q: Well from your opinion and from what you read,do you think that I am a lesbian?I just need to ...
A: As I have said before, I am unable to answer that question without seeing you face to face. What I ...
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| Am I now a lesbian? | 12/7/2008 |
Q: I added some to this question so read all of the way down.- I'm 13.I'm a girl.I feel that I'm ...
A: This question is a very serious question. One that is too important to be answered in a format such ...
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| Am I now a lesbian? | 12/6/2008 |
Q: I added some to this question so read all of the way down.- I'm 13.I'm a girl.I feel that I'm ...
A: I'm glad that you took the time to write. These are very serious questions for someone your age and ...
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