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Abusive Relationships/Questions Answered by Expert Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP
| Subject | Date Asked |
| Making peace with the past | 2/4/2012 |
| Q: I'm 20, and currently in a relationship with a wonderful guy. I have pretty much everything I ever ... A: My apologies for the delay in getting to you. I didn't get the email notification of your question ... | |
| Tired of the Anger and Unpredictability | 1/31/2012 |
| Q: I struggle daily with feelings of sadness, and confusion, when I am talking to or are around my ... A: When someone withdraws love in a relationship it is very destructive to the other person in the ... | |
| abisve mom | 1/23/2012 |
| Q: let me say first my mom never hits me I want to be clear on that.look me and my bother got into a ... A: Like I said, your mother may have over reacted in what she said to you, but she did nothing illegal ... | |
| abisve mom | 1/22/2012 |
| Q: let me say first my mom never hits me I want to be clear on that.look me and my bother got into a ... A: Although she may have over reacted, there is nothing here that would warrant you calling CPS. The ... | |
| Left husband after charge of assault-spit on me and verbally abusive | 1/20/2012 |
| Q: My hubby and I got married in this past summer after I left him for the on-going issues. WE spoke, ... A: The thing about mental and emotional deficit is that it doesn't make sense. There are no nice boxes ... | |
| Left husband after charge of assault-spit on me and verbally abusive | 1/20/2012 |
| Q: My hubby and I got married in this past summer after I left him for the on-going issues. WE spoke, ... A: What you are describing are games that every abuser plays. They behave badly, apologize, the victim ... | |
| Constant Criticism: Is he right? | 12/17/2011 |
| Q: I appear to be in an unsteady relationship and find myself feeling worse about myself. My boyfriend ... A: Criticism that isn't constructive is usually someone trying to get a message across that they can't ... | |
| New Marriage | 12/12/2011 |
| Q: I'm seeking your advice because my husband has just about had it with me not being able to let go of ... A: It is very difficult for victims of abuse to "just let it go". Most of the time, when victims have ... | |
| Should I Wake | 11/6/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for 2 years and I am extremely unhappy in my marriage. I am thinking about ... A: Any physical abuse is serious and yes, this is physical abuse. Think of it this way....if he did ... | |
| My Boyfriend is abusive and I don't know what to do | 11/4/2011 |
| Q: Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and a half. For months, things have been ... A: Your boyfriend has significant manipulation issues and is controlling you with them. Threats of ... | |
| Bottle vs. gf | 10/18/2011 |
| Q: ) My gf of three months and I have hit a wall (in my opinion) and I'm not sure where to go from ... A: Sorry about the confusion. Unfortunately these are the kinds of situations that you find when ... | |
| Bottle vs. gf | 10/17/2011 |
| Q: ) My gf of three months and I have hit a wall (in my opinion) and I'm not sure where to go from ... A: I don't see this as a way to control you. Anyone who has a problem with alcohol would more than ... | |
| I left an abusive man.. | 10/11/2011 |
| Q: My ex was abusive to me and we split up last year. He would yell in my face, kick door and headbutt ... A: It doesn't sound like an over reaction to me. The very idea that women are showing up on your ... | |
| I left an abusive man.. | 10/11/2011 |
| Q: My ex was abusive to me and we split up last year. He would yell in my face, kick door and headbutt ... A: I am so sorry to hear this, but you have made the right decision. Men who make promises like this ... | |
| understanding and moving past an exboyfriends actions | 10/9/2011 |
| Q: I don't really know where to start, I've only told my story a handful of times. I got into this ... A: You absolutely did the right thing to get away from this person and you are very lucky that he just ... | |
| Girlfriend doesnt respect me | 10/6/2011 |
| Q: I don't think my girlfriend of 10+ months respects me anymore. We have always got along great with ... A: I appreciate your questions and the reflection on our previous communication. Although I understand ... | |
| Girlfriend doesnt respect me | 10/3/2011 |
| Q: I don't think my girlfriend of 10+ months respects me anymore. We have always got along great with ... A: I'm so sorry to hear that you are dealing with this kind of situation. In answer to your question, ... | |
| is my husband abuser? | 9/18/2011 |
| Q: I am very confused now. My husband and I have been married for 4 years now, and we both have pretty ... A: Yes, to some extent you are repeating a pattern...one that you had modeled for you quite well it ... | |
| confused | 9/17/2011 |
| Q: i dont know if you can help me or not, im so confused...ive been with my partner for 5 years, im 38, ... A: I can see how this is confusing for you as there is so much going on. What you are describing would ... | |
| Child Abuse | 9/16/2011 |
| Q: My grandaughters are school sged. They say their stepfather abuses their mother, physically, name ... A: This is a very difficult situation and I am only limited in my ability to answer your question. ... | |
| Abusive relationship | 9/10/2011 |
| Q: I'm 27 and about 3wks ago I ended a 3 yr relationship with the father or my 16 month old daughter ... A: What a courageous and amazing woman you are! I applaud you for all that you have done and for ... | |
| Abusive relationship | 7/22/2011 |
| Q: I wonder if you would be able to assist me. I was in a relationship with a an who I loved dearly. ... A: When you work with women who have been, are in or are close to someone in an abusive relationship, ... | |
| pregnant | 7/14/2011 |
| Q: I got out of a mentally abusive ex who was bi-polar and had a pretty severe anger problem ....... ... A: This is a very personal question and I believe that no matter what you decide, you have to be ... | |
| Re : Bipolar/sociopathic/abusive controlling husband | 7/9/2011 |
| Q: HOw do I get my husband of twenty years to get help for his bipolar/sociopathic/abusive and ... A: You can't convince a person like this to get help. They either desire a better life or they don't ... | |
| Relationship with a past metally abused person. | 7/8/2011 |
| Q: My current person that I am seeing and now not seeing is a victim of a past mentally abusive ... A: Often, when people are sweet and to a great extent don't want to see themselves as "mean", what they ... | |
| abusive relationship - emotional | 7/7/2011 |
| Q: I am inquiring about an emotionally abusive relationship my daughter is suffering from with her ... A: Watching someone we care about who is involved with an abuser is very, very difficult. In answer to ... | |
| Emotionally abusive relationship | 7/1/2011 |
| Q: My girlfriend and I started dating over a year ago. We became very close very fast. We fell in love ... A: Please forgive the delay in answering this...there was something wrong with the website's system and ... | |
| Emotionally Abusive Girlfriend | 6/27/2011 |
| Q: I am not sure what the problem is to be honest. However, I can tell you some details of our ... A: I think that your intentions to raise your daughter in a peaceful environment are noble and good. ... | |
| Am I being abused/ | 6/20/2011 |
| Q: It did not take to long before he began to state: "you need to lose weight" "I dated pretty topless ... A: When a relationship produces more death than life, it is not worth hanging on to. This man is ... | |
| help | 6/14/2011 |
| Q: ive been in the same abusive relationship with another woman for almost 4 years now. its run the ... A: When you work with someone who has been, is in or is close to someone in an abusive relationship, ... | |
| Abusive Boyfriend | 6/13/2011 |
| Q: I dated this same man I am going to talk about, for 6 years before, and he drank too much and was ... A: I am sorry to hear that you are going through such difficulties. However, with all that you said, ... | |
| My Friend Is In Denile | 5/15/2011 |
| Q: my friend Ashley has been going out with this guy gable for like almost a year now. but recently hes ... A: Yes, your friend is in an abusive relationship and she is behaving exactly the way most women in her ... | |
| silent treatment and withholding affection | 5/1/2011 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for one year. He is a wonderful person and our relationship is ... A: Although removing love is a pretty common way for people to respond to conflict, it is not a healthy ... | |
| Am I Emotionally Abused? | 4/24/2011 |
| Q: 7 years ago my husband and I moved our little family 1000 miles from all my friends and family. I ... A: I am so very sorry for the situation that you find yourself in. It seems like a no win situation ... | |
| emotional abuse | 4/22/2011 |
| Q: My ex and i broke up a month ago, he dumped me. I have tried to leave him several times but he is ... A: Your first red flag here is that he does not want to address the issues that are causing the ... | |
| How to get rid of an obsessive ex? | 3/6/2011 |
| Q: I am writing to you because I need advice on how to deal with an emotional abuser. 6 months ago,I ... A: The only way out that I can see is to get the police involved again. Yes, you made a mistake, but ... | |
| getting back | 2/21/2011 |
| Q: im thinking of sending flowers once every other day saying possite things i also did learn that i ... A: Although the way he left was somewhat inappropriate, he did communicate that he considered this ... | |
| fear of planning, or committments | 2/19/2011 |
| Q: now that i'm divorced after 20 yrs of marriage, i'm so happy. the relief is wonderful, & i so enjoy ... A: There are various books you may be able to read if you do some research regarding generalized ... | |
| fear of planning, or committments | 2/18/2011 |
| Q: now that i'm divorced after 20 yrs of marriage, i'm so happy. the relief is wonderful, & i so enjoy ... A: Anxiety comes from several different places. Deep seated fear which is triggered by certain ... | |
| No longer in denial. My husband is abusive. | 2/17/2011 |
| Q: I am 37, my husband is 34. We have been together 13 years and married for 11. We have a 2 year old ... A: I am glad to know that you have made the decision to leave. Your husband has definite control and ... | |
| living alone | 2/17/2011 |
| Q: now that i'm divorced after 20 yrs of marriage, i'm so happy. the relief is wonderful, & i so enjoy ... A: It really depends on what you want. If the dog and the job are stressors for you, there is nothing ... | |
| Have I suffered sexual abuse? | 2/7/2011 |
| Q: I split from my husband 7 months ago and now have a new partner. My new partner is telling me my ... A: I can understand your confusion as sexual abuse within a marriage can be hard to define. However, ... | |
| emotionally prohibited | 1/24/2011 |
| Q: I've been married for four years and I have a son who is two now. Before I had my son, we lead a ... A: I'm so sorry to hear that you are experiencing so much difficulty within your marriage. Probably ... | |
| Emotional Abuse? | 1/9/2011 |
| Q: If a sexless marriage is defined as sex less than 10 times a year, I've been in such a marriage for ... A: I hope that I can give you some perspective in this situation. You have brought up several ... | |
| verbal abuse am i making the right decision | 1/8/2011 |
| Q: My husaband. And my daughter don't get along at all (he is a step father to her) she is a tyhpical ... A: There is really no reason for your husband to treat your or your daughter with such disrespect. In ... | |
| After leaving an abusive relationship | 1/6/2011 |
| Q: I had been speaking to Cathy and yourself before Christmas about leaving my abusive partner. I ... A: Here is the definition of abuse: World English Dictionary abuse — vb 1. to use incorrectly or ... | |
| After leaving an abusive relationship | 1/6/2011 |
| Q: I had been speaking to Cathy and yourself before Christmas about leaving my abusive partner. I ... A: This is exactly what happens in EVERY relationship when the woman decides to leave. Of course it is ... | |
| is this abuse? | 1/5/2011 |
| Q: I have been married for 14 years to a man I loved deeply. It was love at first sight and we are ... A: Living with someone who uses aggression towards you as a means of emotional release eventually ... | |
| Emotional abuse...I'm drained. | 1/3/2011 |
| Q: What is a manipulative individual(s) goal when emotional abuse is involved? In my case, I was ... A: On a very basic level, all human beings are afraid of 4 things....death, dying, rejection and ... | |
| Emotional abuse...I'm drained. | 1/2/2011 |
| Q: What is a manipulative individual(s) goal when emotional abuse is involved? In my case, I was ... A: You ask a very complex question. Emotional abuse can come from a variety of places. Some men are ... | |
| Is it me, or him? | 1/1/2011 |
| Q: I'm not quite sure if it's a good move asking my question here, as I never used that sort of site ... A: I'm very glad that you wrote and hope I can help you some with your confusion. It is always hard to ... | |
| Long time emotional abuse | 12/3/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 20 years. Over the last 10 years, I now realize that my husband slowly but ... A: Not being able to leave an abusive relationship is quite common as well as frustrating. Many times ... | |
| emotionally abusive | 12/2/2010 |
| Q: I am a very concerned big brother. My sister has been in a rocky relationship with her boyfriend for ... A: I certainly understand the pain that you are feeling. It is such a helpless feeling to sit by and ... | |
| please help | 11/23/2010 |
| Q: I think i am being abused, everyone is telling me i am and it is sinking in but i cant truly see it. ... A: The short answer to your question is yes, you are being abused, badly abused. This man is not ... | |
| do i stay with him | 11/11/2010 |
| Q: Ok so i have been going out with my boyfriend on and of for about 4 months now, i am 16 and he is ... A: What you do is leave him for good and if he comes near you again, report him to the police. This ... | |
| Verbally abusive mother in law | 11/9/2010 |
| Q: My mother in law has sworn at me sevral times she has stuck her fingers up at me and told me to F*** ... A: Leaving is always an option, especially if you have no support from the men in the house. ... | |
| How serious is a "joke"? | 11/8/2010 |
| Q: I am writing you this question because your bio seems to focus on personal experience and ... A: You are right in believing that there are some warning signs here. The biggest one is that he has a ... | |
| stay or go? | 11/6/2010 |
| Q: Dana, I have been married just under a year and am starting to see signs that my husband is ... A: When you start to see these kinds of unhealthy signs, it becomes time to do a couple of things. The ... | |
| Silent treatment | 10/19/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for 6 months to a man who was emotionally abused as a child. He never received ... A: As I read your question, the first thing that popped into my head was "why were you attracted to ... | |
| husband is abusive | 10/14/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been together for 8 years. We have been married for almost 5 of those. We ... A: Most abusive men don't display the desire to get help that your husband has displayed, however even ... | |
| controling | 10/2/2010 |
| Q: I have an x-boyfriend that I dated for 2 months. He broke up with me about six months ago. When we ... A: Don't kid yourself, this guy has major problems and if you think he is scary now, he will be more ... | |
| Can we improve our relationship | 9/27/2010 |
| Q: I’m in a relationship which has been getting more difficult, and I’m not sure whether our problems ... A: The main thing abusers do to keep their victims being strung along is to provide some avenue of hope ... | |
| Will he change? | 9/23/2010 |
| Q: Please help. I have been in a relationship with a man who is 15 years my senior for past five years. ... A: This may be a little bit of a long answer Alaina, but I think this is necessary to show you how ... | |
| Will he change? | 9/18/2010 |
| Q: Please help. I have been in a relationship with a man who is 15 years my senior for past five years. ... A: It is common for abusers to promise the world but if they are not willing to take the steps and do ... | |
| Confused about relationship? | 9/3/2010 |
| Q: I have been married for almost 30 years. I was 19 when I got married and so excited about the ... A: I very clearly understand your question. Most of the reason that you don't get clear direction, at ... | |
| So Confused | 9/3/2010 |
| Q: So I just recently got divorced from a very verbally, emotionally, controlling and at then end ... A: The first thing I want to say to you is that there is nothing wrong with your gut instincts and ... | |
| Mental abuse by husband | 9/1/2010 |
| Q: Iv'e been with my hubby for almost 25yrs married for10 of them hes a good guy but he has a way of ... A: I'd like you to take a look at your question again. You start out by telling me your husband is a ... | |
| Closing the door on the past | 8/30/2010 |
| Q: I have been on the Internet for the past 3 months, trying to come to terms with everything regarding ... A: I can truly understand how difficult setting boundaries might be for you considering what you went ... | |
| Stepfather's Temper | 8/30/2010 |
| Q: My stepfather is a verbally abusive person. He will interrupt my mother or myself, and when he ... A: I am so sorry that you and your mother are in such a frightening situation. Verbally abusive men ... | |
| Closing the door on the past | 8/29/2010 |
| Q: I have been on the Internet for the past 3 months, trying to come to terms with everything regarding ... A: I can certainly understand how confusing an abusive relationship can be. Abuse is a complicated ... | |
| Can't remember having sex | 8/27/2010 |
| Q: I have since divorced my ex after 20 years of marriage due to physical,mental,conrol,etc, abuse. At ... A: Having something put in a beverage is a very good explanation. Without testing your blood or the ... | |
| Girl moving out. | 8/17/2010 |
| Q: I have this friend that I love very much but I never told her that, she is with this jerk of a ... A: I understand the position you are in as anyone who cares about someone who is in an abusive ... | |
| Aggressive children | 8/14/2010 |
| Q: My ex was abusive to myself and the children as well. My teenage children are now disrespectful as ... A: With this additional information, I believe you are correct. The only thing I would add would be to ... | |
| Aggressive children | 8/13/2010 |
| Q: My ex was abusive to myself and the children as well. My teenage children are now disrespectful as ... A: It seems as though you are dealing with the fallout of that abusive relationship. Thank you for ... | |
| I would appreciate your wisdom | 8/11/2010 |
| Q: I have been married since 1975. In the past 10 months, I had a stroke and also thyroid cancer. I ... A: I am so sorry to hear about the health struggles that you are having, as well as those in your ... | |
| how to relate to an ex who is abusive | 8/8/2010 |
| Q: My husband and father of 4 kids has left our house, after I told him I could not take the verbal and ... A: You ask about unforgiveness being a reason for your anger and I'm sure there is a certain amount of ... | |
| Abusive husband? | 8/2/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 4 years, together for 8. I can't do anything right. At first ... A: It sounds as though you may be suffering from Stockholm Syndrome (you can find an article about that ... | |
| Abusive husband? | 8/2/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 4 years, together for 8. I can't do anything right. At first ... A: No, your marriage is failing because your husband has mistreated you to the point where your ... | |
| Abusive husband? | 8/1/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for 4 years, together for 8. I can't do anything right. At first ... A: No, you are not overreacting at all. What you are experiencing is the cycle of domestic violence ... | |
| narcissistic personality | 7/31/2010 |
| Q: I really need some advice. Will a narcissistic/emotionally abusive man change? I was with a man who ... A: First I want to apologize for the delay in getting back to you. I had a family emergency last night ... | |
| husband is always angry | 7/29/2010 |
| Q: I am having terrible problems with my husband. He wants to buy land and build a house. I think we ... A: Obviously your husband's reaction is inappropriate for the situation. Whenever anyone treats us ... | |
| Silent Treatment | 7/28/2010 |
| Q: I'll give the Readers Digest version: I've been dating a guy for almost a year and a half. This is ... A: Probably the best answer to all of this is he has issues. It is very hard to find reasonable ... | |
| Silent Treatment | 7/28/2010 |
| Q: I'll give the Readers Digest version: I've been dating a guy for almost a year and a half. This is ... A: The behavior you are describing may have been discovered on his own or he may have had it modeled ... | |
| Helping my best friend | 7/23/2010 |
| Q: I need some advice on what to tell my friend about her relationship with her boyfriend. She's been ... A: Watching someone we care about deal with this kind of thing is very painful and I can see that you ... | |
| torn | 7/23/2010 |
| Q: i have been going out with my boyfriend for over 2 years. and has never verbally abused me... ever. ... A: Abuse escalates over time so if there is no action or intervention happening to stop this aggressive ... | |
| Have I been emotionally abused or am I just oversensitive? | 7/21/2010 |
| Q: First of all, thank you so dearly for your time and guidance. My husband and I have been married ... A: I am so sorry to hear how difficult this has been for you. Before I go on, I do want you to know ... | |
| confused about silent treatment | 7/20/2010 |
| Q: I have been dating this man for 5 years. He started about being what I thought the best thing ever. ... A: I will give you the simple answer to your question first - what do I do? Run away as fast as you ... | |
| torn | 7/19/2010 |
| Q: i have been going out with my boyfriend for over 2 years. and has never verbally abused me... ever. ... A: You ask if you over reacted and I have to tell you in no uncertain terms that you did not. There is ... | |
| just left a long term abusive relationship | 7/19/2010 |
| Q: I don,t understand why I seem to feel sorry for my abuser. He's facing jail time. Is it normal to ... A: On August 23rd, 1973 two machine-gun carrying criminals entered a bank in Stockholm, Sweden. ... | |
| plz help | 7/13/2010 |
| Q: my bf hit me once drunk...because i went out with a "slut" for a party..he was scared i'll turn into ... A: Understanding that these type of questions are difficult to answer without much more information and ... | |
| Is This Emotional Abuse? | 7/9/2010 |
| Q: I was seeing this guy, nothing serious, but we were seeing how it goes. Everything was great, we ... A: It is hard to make sense of something that doesn't make sense. Emotions can be powerful motivators ... | |
| abusive marriage | 6/19/2010 |
| Q: We have a yr old daughter who we both adore. We rushed our marriage due to my unexpected pregnancy. ... A: One of the main answers to your question can be answered by downloading an article on my website. ... | |
| My huband is abusive. | 6/19/2010 |
| Q: First off thank you for you valuable time. I am a college student who has been married for a year ... A: I am so sorry to hear about your situation. It is definitely a dangerous place for you to be and in ... | |
| Breaking an attachment in an emotionally abusive relationship continued | 6/11/2010 |
| Q: First thank you Dr. Mitchell for your earlier response to my question why I can’t let go of an ... A: Please forgive the delay in getting back to you...something happened with the notification and I ... | |
| mental abuse | 6/4/2010 |
| Q: I have been living with my boyfriend on and off for 3 1/2 years. He has broken up with me 4 times ... A: I am so sorry to hear that you are in such a tough situation. Emotional and verbal abuse are very ... | |
| How to let go of an emotionally abusive relationship | 5/29/2010 |
| Q: I am a very confused man. I was married to my second wife in July of 2009 after being on my own for ... A: Honestly, these kinds of situations are very complicated. Emotions run deep and the bonding between ... | |
| Abusive Realationships Questions | 5/25/2010 |
| Q: My name is Sabrina Salerno I am currently a grade 12 student at Father Bressani Catholic High School ... A: I'll do my best to answer some of these questions, but to answer them all would take more time than ... | |
| need to know? | 5/23/2010 |
| Q: I am 41 in a relationship for 12 years , not married,we are musicians,I sing he plays guitar, no not ... A: The part of your question asking about personality disorders is fairly easy to answer. Individuals ... | |
| Verbally Abused | 5/16/2010 |
| Q: I'm nineteen years old. I have a boyfriend, who one day is an excellent person, and then the next ... A: I understand that you believe you are in a situation where you are damned if you do and damned if ... | |
| question | 5/13/2010 |
| Q: i'm not sure how to define my situation. There have been incidents in the past where he shattered my ... A: I'm not really sure what your question is, but I'll do my best to give you some information about ... | |
| I think I'm the abuser | 5/8/2010 |
| Q: I love my boyfriend so much. We've only been together for 10 months but we both can see each other ... A: I want you to know that I have so much respect for you and the way you are reaching out for help in ... | |
| Friend being abused | 5/8/2010 |
| Q: I have recently met this friend online that is using me as a shoulder to cry on. In our ... A: These type of situations are so very difficult to manage and even harder to watch from the outside. ... | |
| normal or abusive... | 5/6/2010 |
| Q: Ive been with my boyfriend for about a year now...he cheated on me after about ten months of us ... A: This kind of situation is always difficult and I can't really say what his motivation is for this ... | |
| NPD abuse and children | 5/6/2010 |
| Q: I am divorcing my husband who has severe Narcissistic Personality Disorder. We have two small ... A: I am so sorry to hear what you are going through and understand that dealing with someone who has ... | |
| should I stay? | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost seven years and we have been together for eleven. He ... A: These situations are different for each person. Let me give you a perspective - Attachment and ... | |
| should I stay? | 2/8/2010 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married for almost seven years and we have been together for eleven. He ... A: One of the things that I tell my own clients is that when you are looking at an abusive situation, ... | |
| My friend's fiance is controlling him | 2/3/2010 |
| Q: My friend's fiance is controlling him and I don't know what to do: I can't stand back and watch it ... A: It is always easier to see this kind of thing from the outside than it is from the inside. Much of ... | |
| etiquette | 2/2/2010 |
| Q: Not a dating question, but I need advice from someone a little more experienced about etiquette. I ... A: It sounds like you did the next best thing then and just didn't engage her. There are just some ... | |
| etiquette | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: Not a dating question, but I need advice from someone a little more experienced about etiquette. I ... A: I think that you handled a very difficult situation as best you could. It is always awkward to ... | |
| Recovering from emotional/mental abuse | 1/25/2010 |
| Q: I have left my mentally abusive husband but need help moving on. We are both 24 years old. I just ... A: I've read your email several times and I'd like you to know that I sympathize with your situation ... | |
| The silent treatment and lack of emotional availability | 1/21/2010 |
| Q: I am in my 50s and have been married for 3 1/2 years. It is the second marriage for both of us. I ... A: I can understand your confusion in the relationship, but I want to reassure you that you are not ... | |
| why can't I walk away | 1/20/2010 |
| Q: I am undoubtedly in a emotional abusive relationship. Owning that fact only makes me more mad at ... A: I have a lot of compassion for women in your situation, simply because it seems so desperate. Yes, ... | |
| life after abuse | 1/14/2010 |
| Q: I married an impulsive angry abuser. He was only abusive during arguments, not on a daily ... A: It is disappointing when people who are abusive do not take responsibility for their actions. No, ... | |
| Issues in a relationship involving past abuses and fears stemming from them | 1/14/2010 |
| Q: Good day to you, Hello, my name is Joshua Watson and I'm in something of a sticky situation. You ... A: As I read your email, I really have to comment on the internet relationship. Above anything else, ... | |
| recovering from verbal abuse in marriage | 1/13/2010 |
| Q: separated after 21 months of marriage. The episodes of silent treatment for up to 9 weeks just about ... A: Recovery from abuse takes awhile, simply because the hurt goes so deep and is so personal. You are ... | |
| Am I the abuser or is he? | 1/8/2010 |
| Q: Where do I begin......23yrs I have been with my husband -we met when I was 16 (my first boyfriend) & ... A: Now you are going into the justification part of the cycle and that is what keeps you confused and ... | |
| Am I the abuser or is he? | 1/7/2010 |
| Q: Where do I begin......23yrs I have been with my husband -we met when I was 16 (my first boyfriend) & ... A: This sounds like such a frustrating situation and I can understand your confusion. Coming from ... | |
| Am I being oversensitive? | 1/5/2010 |
| Q: I've been married for 14 years, have 3 great kids. It has been a very rocky road. Pretty much went ... A: No, you are not being oversensitive, this is controlling and domineering behavior. There is nothing ... | |
| Dealing with someone my friends consider emotionally abusive | 1/4/2010 |
| Q: Mitchell, My ex-boyfriend that I dated from 20-24 is back in my life two years after we broke up. ... A: Emotional abuse is very hard to deal with....mainly because it is hard to prove. You have to prove ... | |
| silent treatment | 1/2/2010 |
| Q: My problem is my live-in in boyfriend loves the silent treatment. He is a wonderful provider working ... A: I agree with you, this type of response is very frustrating and you are correct that we are all ... | |
| Abusive Relationships | 1/2/2010 |
| Q: I have similar problem as the lady states in article (moving on). I feel the same. Mine stems back ... A: You have been through so much and it may be time to enlist some quality assistance to help you along ... | |
| Seeking Advice | 12/29/2009 |
| Q: I have been in my marriage for the last 15 years. My husband has always been a jealous and ... A: , I am sure this has been very difficult for you. Unhealthy relationships take a lot out of the ... | |
| advice on emotional abuse | 12/28/2009 |
| Q: married for 3 of them years. At the begining of our relationship he cheated on me with a work ... A: This does sound like a very difficult situation and I can understand your frustration with it. To ... | |
| suicidal boyfriend | 12/27/2009 |
| Q: My friend really needs help (not just saying its a friend!) She has been with this guy for three ... A: I'm so sorry to hear that your friend is having this kind of trouble. These relationships are very ... | |
| Paranoia Is Killing Us | 12/15/2009 |
| Q: Good afternoon. This is my dillima. I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 years now and we live ... A: I'll give you the short version of the answer to your question. You asked, How can I counteract a ... | |
| help!! | 12/14/2009 |
| Q: what do if im too afraid to tell my mom or authorities i'm being mentally abused? i'm living in ... A: This must be so difficult for you....at your age to be faced with this kind of abuse is a lot to ... | |
| My Depression and My Relationship | 12/9/2009 |
| Q: G'day Kriss, my name is Brenton, and i think its safe to say that i'm in trouble.. i have been ... A: I'm glad that you wrote....I don't get too many emails from the men in these types of relationships. ... | |
| Will things get worse? | 10/12/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend now for 6 months and everything was good for the first couple of ... A: Although it is always difficult to predict the future, statistically the answer to your question is ... | |
| Bad situation? | 10/9/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for 3 years and together for 10. we have 2 young kids under 5. I ... A: I can certainly see that this is a controlled and manipulated environment, which is common with ... | |
| Wife's abuse | 10/7/2009 |
| Q: My wife completely denies that she has been abusive in any way but I feel certain she has been to ... A: There is definitely something wrong with any type of behavior that includes physical and verbal ... | |
| is this abuse | 10/6/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 5 years. This is my second marriage. I have a child from my first marriage ... A: Yes, this is mental and emotional abuse. It is also manipulation and control. This kind of abuse ... | |
| what's best for my kids? | 9/27/2009 |
| Q: I have 2 kids, 6 and 2 yrs old. I'm not married, but I've been in this relationship for about 7 ... A: Finances are definitely a consideration, but I think you know the answer to your question. If the ... | |
| I feel so stupid AGAIN | 9/27/2009 |
| Q: Just even writing out my "situation" basically answers what I SHOULD do AGAIN....I've been on this ... A: I think you have pretty well figured out what you want to do, now it is just executing the plan. If ... | |
| Abussive or me? | 9/22/2009 |
| Q: I have been married to my husband for over 3 years, but we have been together over 5. We have his ... A: From your description, the abuse seems to be coming at you, rather than vice versa. Blaming the ... | |
| My Brother May Be Depressed and Threatening an Ex | 9/21/2009 |
| Q: I have never submitted a question to an online site or ever had to talk with someone else about an ... A: I can understand how concerned you are and thank you for trusting me to help you with this ... | |
| Advise Needed | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: I met my daughter's dad about 6 years ago. The first 3 years we were on and off. He was a very ... A: I am so very sorry to hear about your situation. It is never easy to make decisions about these ... | |
| I need some advice. | 9/18/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. We have known each other a lot longer & ... A: I am so very sorry to hear about your situation. It is never easy to make decisions about these ... | |
| abuse | 9/12/2009 |
| Q: My husband and i have been fighting a lot lately. He has lost his job and has bee super stressed but ... A: Before I say anything else, I want to assure you that you are not an abusive woman and you did not ... | |
| please read verbal abuse! | 9/9/2009 |
| Q: my sister has been with her husband for 11 +yrs her husband drinks everyday she tells him to stop ... A: It is so tough to be an outsider in a situation like this because you really have few options. Your ... | |
| Moving on.. | 9/9/2009 |
| Q: I have been the victim of emotional/mental abuse for the majority of my life. From the name-calling ... A: I am so glad that you are with a person who is treating you well...that is half the battle. The ... | |
| unsure of the path to take | 9/6/2009 |
| Q: I have been abused my entire life by my whole family--namecalling, putdowns, hitting, made to feel ... A: I'm glad to know that this is a long distance relationship, but no matter whether it is in person or ... | |
| How should I handle this? | 9/5/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months. We have been friends for about 6 months prior. We ... A: I really want to commend you for taking the action that you did. Many women would not have done ... | |
| Need Some Insight | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I have been married just over 1 yr but have been together for nearly 10. We started ... A: The first thing I want you to know is that this is not your fault and you are not crazy. Abusive ... | |
| Fear of Emotional Abuse and Controlling Relationship | 9/4/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my current boyfriend off and on for the past year (we have broken up twice), and ... A: I appreciate your candor. If you are in an unhealthy relationship and your boyfriend is unwilling ... | |
| It's getting worse..advice? | 9/3/2009 |
| Q: My husband goes through these cycles. He'll get mad over something silly (what i think is silly ... A: Please forgive me for not getting back to you in a timely manner. I've been off the site for quite ... | |
| life after the abuse! | 8/15/2009 |
| Q: How do I pick up my life after 10 years of abuse? I have two small kids, 3yrs and 4mths and no ... A: I found your question in the question pool and wanted to answer it. This is such a valid question ... | |
| Abusive boyfriend | 6/9/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my partner for nearly 18 months. He is very ambitious and driven and after ... A: This is a very scary situation and my heart goes out to you as I have read your story. I can say ... | |
| My boyfriend | 6/6/2009 |
| Q: My boyfriend and i have been dating for about 2 1/2 years. The first year and a half of our ... A: These are good questions and you also have some good insights even though you may not think so. One ... | |
| Can I fix him? | 6/5/2009 |
| Q: I'm not even sure I have one question, just want to summarize my relationship to you and get some ... A: In response to your question, can I fix him, the answer is simply no. This is a verbally abusive ... | |
| abusive marriage | 6/4/2009 |
| Q: Im 5months pregnant and my husband has been abusing me. Im so scared he is going to make me lose our ... A: This is really bad Ashley and there is no way that you should stay. I don't know if your husband ... | |
| What should I do? | 6/3/2009 |
| Q: I hope you are able to help me. I already asked this before but I wasn't able to get a response. ... A: This sounds like a very humiliating experience for you and I'm so sorry to hear how terribly you ... | |
| Do i need to leave now | 6/3/2009 |
| Q: When me and my boyfriend started dating, I knew he had been abusive in a past relationship. He has ... A: If your boyfriend has already progressed to choking you, he doesn't have far to go in order to ... | |
| he treats me like a challenged 6yr old | 6/2/2009 |
| Q: My situation is complicated and long withstanding. I met my husband when I was 21 and he, 29. I have ... A: I am so sorry to hear how difficult this is for you. You're right, it is difficult to maintain any ... | |
| husband's past relationship | 6/1/2009 |
| Q: I AM A 25 YRS OLD MARRIED GIRL, MY PROBLEM IS MY HUSBAND WAS IN DEEP LOVE WITH A GIRL BEFORE ... A: It can be very difficult to discover something about someone's past that you didn't know, especially ... | |
| Is this abuse? | 5/16/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a previous domestic violence situation, that included both physical and ... A: If you will go to my website www.livingwellcc.com and click on "library", under the abuse category ... | |
| Confusioin | 5/15/2009 |
| Q: To start off I was in an abusive relationship with an guy that was younger than me. I an 32 and he ... A: I am so sorry to hear how much violence you have been through, but I am very glad to see that you ... | |
| confused | 5/12/2009 |
| Q: Im a 25 year old female and have been in a serious relationship on and off for a little over 4 ... A: It sounds as though you are pretty confused about what to do and a little upset with yourself for ... | |
| counseling | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: A year ago I was verbally attacked horribly by someone. This person screamed at me at the top of ... A: It sounds as though you experienced some severe trauma with this experience. The most simple way to ... | |
| Im lost | 5/10/2009 |
| Q: I've been married for 10 years with a nine year old son. My marriage has been rocky from the ... A: These are very, very difficult questions Ruby and although it sounds as though there are issues on ... | |
| Abuse | 5/8/2009 |
| Q: I have been married for 28 years to the same abusive man. I was married when I was 17. I come from a ... A: You ask your question in such an interesting way! If you were my friend and you told me this kind ... | |
| Abusive and controlling spouse | 5/7/2009 |
| Q: I'm desperate for answers and help! I've been in an abusive marriage for 10 years. There isn't any ... A: I applaud you for reaching out for information. What you really need is legal information, which I ... | |
| abusive relationship | 5/4/2009 |
| Q: I was going out with this guy for almost 3 yrs and we were doing good till about the last yr of the ... A: It seems as though you are willing to look at your part in this as well as his part, which is a good ... | |
| Controlling daughter | 5/3/2009 |
| Q: My question is a rather painful one. I have a daughter who is single, who has a son. She's 28, a ... A: This must be very difficult for you and the rest of your family. It is clear that you have strong ... | |
| control in marriage | 5/1/2009 |
| Q: My husband has exhibited different forms of what I was told is spousal abuse. It's rather subtle ... A: This is a good question. Yes, these are forms of abuse in that they are some of the pretty classic ... | |
| Daughter in abusive relationship | 4/30/2009 |
| Q: My 18yo daughter, college freshman is dating a 17yo 11th grader. He will be 18 in 2 weeks. He lives ... A: This is a really tough situation and I can only imagine how difficult this must be for you. ... | |
| dating two girls with same name | 4/27/2009 |
| Q: Okay I am going to try to keep this as short as possible…..I met Anthony while out one night we got ... A: This does not sound like a very good relationship for you to be in on any level. There's too much ... | |
| Letting go | 4/25/2009 |
| Q: My ex partner, a now recovering alcoholic,ended our seven year relationship by doing a complete ... A: In regard to red flags and abusive relationships, it is common for women to ignore what would ... | |
| Letting go | 4/24/2009 |
| Q: My ex partner, a now recovering alcoholic,ended our seven year relationship by doing a complete ... A: I am so sorry to hear of what has happened to you. Grieving the loss of a dream is as devastating ... | |
| I don't know if it's abuse | 4/22/2009 |
| Q: I'm 18 and have been going out with my boyfriend for the last 14 months. Since I started University ... A: This sounds very frustrating and confusing for you. It's always hard to assign motive to someone ... | |
| Abusive relationships turned around? | 4/20/2009 |
| Q: Can you give me any stories about abusive relationships where the couple turned the relationship ... A: Although these kinds of stories are uncommon, there are a few. In my experience Gonzalo, those who ... | |
| Taking a break in a relationship | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: Okay this is going to be a complicated issue. Tony and I have been dating since September 2008. ... A: My goodness...it sounds as if this is a very chaotic place for you to be and you're right, it isn't ... | |
| helping a friend | 4/13/2009 |
| Q: I met a lady at church about two years ago, and we started talking occasionally. We are not close ... A: Watching someone in an abusive relationship is always difficult. You wonder why they stay, why they ... | |
| Domestic Violence questions | 4/7/2009 |
| Q: my name is La'Tasha i am doing a research paper for my English class and my teacher wants us to get ... A: I will do my best to answer your questions. 1. I'm not sure what you mean by a lot, but I've dealt ... | |
| Should I leave? | 4/2/2009 |
| Q: Me and my partner have been together for nearly three years now. At first it was great and he ... A: It is very difficult to be in these kinds of relationships. Whether he is hitting you or not, this ... | |
| My relationship: on the rocks. | 3/31/2009 |
| Q: and i'm 18 years old. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and since we started ... A: I am so sorry to hear of what has happened to you. This is truly a violent situation and the most ... | |
| Up | 3/31/2009 |
| Q: I recently broke up with my ex of 2yrs off and on.I was very in love with him and still am.we are ... A: I understand how hard it can be to just turn feelings on and off. You have a really good grasp of ... | |
| how do i know if my boyfriend is abusive | 3/29/2009 |
| Q: my boyfriend and i have been together for about 2 years. we argue constantly, his fault and mine, ... A: There are several questions here that I will attempt to answer, but first I wish to express my ... | |
| girl friend a herion addict | 3/26/2009 |
| Q: I have lived with and had a relationship with a herion addict for 9 months. She wants help. I have ... A: I can understand why you are confused....dealing with an addict has its own set of complications. ... | |
| how to see him for what he is | 3/24/2009 |
| Q: i have been with my husband for 15 yrs and married 13 of those years. before i married him he was ... A: No, you are not the one who is crazy. This is a textbook example of abuse and the cycle it takes. ... | |
| Emotionally Abusive??? | 3/20/2009 |
| Q: I have a habit of getting into emotionally abusive relationships. In fact, I just recently ended ... A: I truly hear what you are saying and think that you are being very wise. Although I don't have any ... | |
| Possible emotional abuse | 3/18/2009 |
| Q: I am in a "relationship" with a man who withholds affection, words, sex, just about anything that ... A: I truly empathize with you as you find yourself in such a hurtful situation. Relationships are very ... | |
| Codependence | 3/12/2009 |
| Q: My wife is extremely inconsistent and emotional. After much work, I'm feeling as though my wife may ... A: I'd be happy to share with you what I know about codependency. In what I'm about to tell you, it is ... | |
| Adult Sister Not Willing To Address Problems | 3/7/2009 |
| Q: I'd welcome your thoughts on a problem with my adult sister. On the surface it’s a financial ... A: It sounds as though you care for your sister very much and have the ability to connect present day ... | |
| Parent Abuse | 3/4/2009 |
| Q: follow up question from the below URL: ... A: You mentioned that mom was diagnosed with a personality disorder, which is a huge part of this ... | |
| Friend being abused | 3/4/2009 |
| Q: My story begins with meeting a wonderful, talented and intelligent young woman. We have been friends ... A: I'm glad to be a place to vent a little bit. You sound like a very caring person and this is quite ... | |
| Friend being abused | 3/3/2009 |
| Q: My story begins with meeting a wonderful, talented and intelligent young woman. We have been friends ... A: I certainly understand what you are saying. These kinds of things can be very hurtful, to all ... | |
| parent abuse? | 3/2/2009 |
| Q: My fiancé is a single father. I have known both him and his daughter for many years. He and I ... A: This sounds like a very tragic situation, but you have handled it very well. I was glad to see that ... | |
| Friend being abused | 3/2/2009 |
| Q: My story begins with meeting a wonderful, talented and intelligent young woman. We have been friends ... A: It is very hard seeing someone you care about going through something like this, isn't it? It is a ... | |
| Mental abuse? | 2/27/2009 |
| Q: I have a situation I'm not sure how to deal with. My wife and I have been married for 6 years, both ... A: I found your question in the question pool so will do my best to answer it. I'm so sorry to hear of ... | |
| abuse in a marriage | 2/26/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my husband for 19 years married for 8, we have 4 children . We are separated, have ... A: My heart goes out to you. It sounds like such a difficult situation, however to have separated was ... | |
| What advice would you give a parent | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: I am 62 years old and my son is 27, my wife died 3 years ago from brain cancer. I have no one else ... A: I can hear the care and concern you have for your son. I think it is every parent's desire to see ... | |
| helping a friend cope with an abusive ex | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: This is a bit strange, so please bear with me. I dated a woman for 6 weeks or so last fall. She ... A: I found your question in the question pool so would like to offer some suggestions. Keeping track ... | |
| affair | 2/23/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I split up two weeks ago in the past on occasion he has been physical with me and ... A: I realize that abusers can wear you down, but most counselors recommend against telling all the gory ... | |
| abusive relationship..can it change? | 2/16/2009 |
| Q: This might take a while to explain but bear with me... My husband and I have been married for a ... A: I am so sorry to hear of the pain that you are going through. Decisions such as you are facing can ... | |
| My brother and his girlfriend | 2/14/2009 |
| Q: My oldest brother's girlfriend called me this week to tell me about an incident that occurred over ... A: It depends on your relationship with your brother. If the two of you are close, if he trusts you, ... | |
| mentally abusive relationship | 2/13/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my now husband for 14 years. I would say for the most part we are a happy couple. ... A: What you are describing in your question is most certainly abuse. What he is doing fits the pattern ... | |
| shocked | 2/9/2009 |
| Q: I've recently started dating a man and we've really hit it off. He's handsome, smart, funny, rich ... A: With everything you put in your email, I'm not sure why you have to ask the question. This guy ... | |
| loving an abuser | 2/8/2009 |
| Q: i am separated from my husband, he beat me up, he was charged with several crimes. i have a ... A: This sounds like a really messy situation. Your husband's family sounds like they are enabling him, ... | |
| Abusive Relationship? | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: Ok, so I'm 16 years old, I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, things we're amazing at ... A: Being 16, I don't know what the laws are in your area regarding emancipation of a minor, so you ... | |
| My Girl | 2/3/2009 |
| Q: I'm in a relationship with a women who has recently gotten out of a 5 year abusive relationship. The ... A: It is truly admirable of you to be a stable influence in her life. Abusive relationships are very ... | |
| vicious cycle | 2/2/2009 |
| Q: My girlfriend & I been on & off for 13 years Our problem is the same vicious cycle. I take her back ... A: 13 years is quite a long time to be with a person. I can see why it would be difficult for you as ... | |
| affair | 2/1/2009 |
| Q: My husband and I split up two weeks ago in the past on occasion he has been physical with me and ... A: You said that you are tired of being controlled which I can see and understand from what you wrote. ... | |
| Trapped in abusive relationship | 1/30/2009 |
| Q: I am going out with a guys 2 and a half years now,we were frends for about 5 years before that.But ... A: If he has BPD, you will need to find a psychologist who understands personality disorders. There is ... | |
| im so brain washed!help!! | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: im a 17 year old girl and i have been with this guy for about a year now...me and him met last march ... A: What you are describing is part of the abusive behavior. It is also the sign of a man who is not ... | |
| im so brain washed!help!! | 1/29/2009 |
| Q: im a 17 year old girl and i have been with this guy for about a year now...me and him met last march ... A: There is so much pain that you are describing to me. I understand how you feel and know what its ... | |
| Trapped in abusive relationship | 1/28/2009 |
| Q: I am going out with a guys 2 and a half years now,we were frends for about 5 years before that.But ... A: I'm sorry to hear that you are in this kind of relationship. It is a hard place to be, and in order ... | |
| a dangerous crush - help me! | 1/27/2009 |
| Q: I'm not a teen any more:(((( I'm already 24 year old female and still so vulnerable!!! I love going ... A: I don't think there are any tricks beyond just concentrating on you, your future and the goals you ... | |
| Abusive Relationship? | 1/27/2009 |
| Q: Ok, so I'm 16 years old, I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, things we're amazing at ... A: I'm glad to hear that things have smoothed out over time. That is encouraging! In regard to trust, ... | |
| a dangerous crush - help me! | 1/27/2009 |
| Q: I'm not a teen any more:(((( I'm already 24 year old female and still so vulnerable!!! I love going ... A: These are confusing feelings and it is helpful to process them with another person. Although ... | |
| Brother has abusive wife | 1/26/2009 |
| Q: My older brother is currently incarcerated. Recently, I have realized that his relationship with his ... A: It sounds as if you care very much for your brother and I'm sure he is very lucky to have a sister ... | |
| bullying | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: I happen to be a really beautiful woman, I used to model. I'm 6 feet tall and very thin. I live in a ... A: It is always difficult being the target of anger and I'm very sorry to hear that this is happening ... | |
| serial abandoners | 1/22/2009 |
| Q: I am a 42 year old man who dated a 38 year old women. She said she wanted to marry me but once she ... A: Often the best way to deal with these kinds of issues is to find a counselor, a pastor or a good ... | |
| question | 1/21/2009 |
| Q: There was this guy I was interested in and he likes me back, I know he likes me because he told all ... A: Relationships are always a little confusing so I can understand the motivation for your question. ... | |
| Abusive Relationship? | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: Ok, so I'm 16 years old, I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, things we're amazing at ... A: I'm sorry to hear this is happening, but it sounds as though both of you are taking some wise steps. ... | |
| I dont know what to do....Please help. | 1/19/2009 |
| Q: I have been dating the same guy for the last four years. WE are both really young, I am 19 and he is ... A: My heart just broke as I read your question, not so much for the situation, but for the fact that ... | |
| Break Up with boy friend- But he troubles back? | 1/18/2009 |
| Q: My friend was in love with a guy for last 4 years. Recently there is a gap in their relationship and ... A: Your friend is probably pursuing the best course of action by filing a complaint with the police. ... | |
| Abusive relationships | 1/16/2009 |
| Q: I am a 23 year old stay at home mother of one. When I met my boyfriend three years ago he seemed ... A: My heart goes out to you and I can hear the pain and hopelessness in your words as you describe your ... | |
| controlling relationships? | 1/15/2009 |
| Q: My Boyfriend and i have now been together a year iam also pregnant!I cant have a telephone cause he ... A: It does sound as though there is control going on in this relationship and that is not a sign of a ... | |
| serial abandoners | 1/14/2009 |
| Q: I am a 42 year old man who dated a 38 year old women. She said she wanted to marry me but once she ... A: This sounds like a very hurtful relationship to have been in and I can understand your confusion. ... | |
| How my friend's boyfriend has ruined our relationship.... | 1/14/2009 |
| Q: I have a very close friend of 4 years who use to be the epitamy of indepence and confidence. My ... A: I am sorry to hear that your friend is in such a hurtful place. It is always very difficult to ... | |
| Leaving my fiance' | 1/14/2009 |
| Q: It will be 5 years together this April. We got together when i was 20, he was 21. Now I'm 25 and we ... A: I am truly saddened to hear of the circumstances that you find yourself in. You absolutely deserve ... | |
| Abuse | 1/12/2009 |
| Q: I have always felt that I was an intelligent, independant woman. Life has not been so kind to me in ... A: I am glad that I was able to help and to clarify for you. Sometimes that is half the battle, isn't ... | |
| I cant let go! | 1/9/2009 |
| Q: I have been with my boyfriend for about two years, he is a good man when he wants to be but most of ... A: This is truly a difficult situation and I can understand the pain you are feeling. When someone we ... | |
| Abuse | 1/9/2009 |
| Q: I have always felt that I was an intelligent, independant woman. Life has not been so kind to me in ... A: I am so sorry to hear of the circumstances that you find yourself in. This kind of relationship is ... | |
| My husband is seriously addicted to online gaming. | 1/6/2009 |
| Q: When I met my husband, I was 19 and in the military. He was 23 and worked at a bar. A mutual friend ... A: As I read your question and started to understand the circumstances you find yourself in, I hear ... | |
| boyfriend is addicted to drugs | 1/3/2009 |
| Q: What do you do when your boyfriend is pulling away from because he has an addiction to crack ... A: Your question came to me today and I hope that in the time since you wrote, things have become more ... | |
| emotional abuse | 1/2/2009 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with a woman with two children; I myself have 2 children. in the two ... A: One of the things that can be difficult for people to understand if they have never been the victim ... | |
| emotional abuse | 12/30/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with a woman with two children; I myself have 2 children. in the two ... A: This is certainly a confusing situation and I can see how you might be upset by the mixed signals ... | |
| Dont know what to do! | 12/29/2008 |
| Q: Iv been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years now. I have been through ALOT with him (specifically ... A: I appreciate how well you have described your situation. You seem to have a handle on what is going ... | |
| I'm lost. Plz help! | 12/12/2008 |
| Q: my bf & I have been together for two years now. Our relationship started online & we live in ... A: This must be very difficult for you and I understand how confusing situations like this can be. ... | |
| marriage relationship | 12/7/2008 |
| Q: My husband goes from giving me silent treatment and withholding sex from two week, two to four ... A: I am so glad that you wrote. It takes a lot of courage to begin the process of gathering ... | |
| Am I straight or not? | 12/7/2008 |
| Q: Well from your opinion and from what you read,do you think that I am a lesbian?I just need to ... A: They are telling you the truth. These questions are too serious to be answered by what another ... | |
| Am I straight or not? | 12/7/2008 |
| Q: Well from your opinion and from what you read,do you think that I am a lesbian?I just need to ... A: If you are receiving this information from more than one source, perhaps it is because it is true. ... | |
| Am I straight or not? | 12/7/2008 |
| Q: Well from your opinion and from what you read,do you think that I am a lesbian?I just need to ... A: As I have said before, I am unable to answer that question without seeing you face to face. What I ... | |
| Am I now a lesbian? | 12/7/2008 |
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Abusive Relationships
Answers by Expert:
Kriss Mitchell, M.Ed, CRC, CNHP
Top Expert on this page
Expertise
I can answer questions regarding emotional and physical abuse in dating and marriage situations, however I am unable to give legal advice. Having had firsthand experience in an abusive relationship, I understand the feelings, the questions and the doubts we have as we try to make decisions about how to improve our situations. I am also able to address spiritual concerns regarding staying in or leaving these types of situations.
Experience
Having been a victim of emotional abuse for many years and having family members who were in violent abuse situations, I have personal experience on many levels. I have since gone on to become a professional counselor and work with abused women.
Organizations
American Mental Health Counselors Assn.,
American Association of Christian Counselors,
International Association of Prayer Counselors
Publications
I currently maintain a blog at www.livingwellcc.blogspot.com. I also have links and currently written articles on my website at www.livingwellcc.com. You can also follow me on TWITTER @livingwellcc, or on facebook at Living Well Counseling and Consulting. My writings have appeared in The Good News Northwest and the North Idaho Business Journal
Education/Credentials
Licensed Professional Counselor,
Board Certified Professional Christian Counselor,
Certified Rehabilitation Counselor,
Certified Natural Health Professional
Awards and Honors
Board Certified Christian Counselor
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