| Subject | Date Asked |
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| WAKE UP CALL | 11/10/2009 |
Q: i do not really know where to begin. even though i have been repeatedly told i am indeed a victim ...
A: that was a description of one of the most unhealthy relationships anyone has ever written about; ...
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| wake up | 11/8/2009 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. He was super for the first 3 weeks, no red lags, ...
A: so the real question is, when will you be able to overcome your insecurities and not allow this guy ...
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| Drug Addiction | 10/29/2009 |
Q: My relationship with my now ex-boyfriend began last year. I met him at the gym I workout at, he is a ...
A: your mistake was getting involved, getting him dependent on you (like another drug), instead of ...
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| how to get out | 10/21/2009 |
Q: I'm in an abusive relationship. Married for 20 years with 3 school age kids. Husband has control ...
A: make a plan for leaving, utilize friends/family, talk to the social services branch in your city ...
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| WAKE UP CALL | 10/21/2009 |
Q: For the best part of 2 years, I have been seeing my boyfriend most weekends, as he lives 60 miles ...
A: it's not about what's goin on with him--suffice it to say he has too many negative traits to count; ...
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| Lying and Marriage | 10/16/2009 |
Q: I have been married for nearly 11 years to a man that is very hard to figure out. For years I have ...
A: you've pretty much answered your own questions---his lying, most probably cheating, your invading ...
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| I think my husband is cheating after five years of marrage | 10/9/2009 |
Q: Mr Azure I have two children with my husband a nine years old girl and seven year old boy , we got ...
A: unless you think he's suddenly become a loving, respectful, considerate person, which i doubt, there ...
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| I think my husband is cheating after five years of marrage | 10/8/2009 |
Q: Mr Azure I have two children with my husband a nine years old girl and seven year old boy , we got ...
A: so why are you still with this jerk?..and please, don't tell me it's cause u love him...totally ...
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| wake up call | 9/18/2009 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. We have known each other a lot longer & ...
A: listen to your friends--your insecurities are responsible for your hanging on to this dysfunctional ...
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| Please help meeee | 8/30/2009 |
Q: You might not be able to help me, but I don't know who to ask!!! I let my ex move in with me in ...
A: the suicide threat is most probably bogus, designed to manipulate your sympathies...u have to decide ...
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| wake up call | 8/11/2009 |
Q: Another poster had a similar sitation where she spoke of being in a "calm" phase with her husband. I ...
A: you're wasting precious time in an unhealthy abusive arrangement with a control freak in dire need ...
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| Abusive Relationship | 8/7/2009 |
Q: My ex-boyfriend is trying to restart a relationship with me. I walked away from him a couple of ...
A: you don't need much advice as your insights/decisions have put you on the right track; start the ...
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| help break the cycle... | 7/18/2009 |
Q: My best friend of almost 15 years is in a relationship that I think may be abusive. They have been ...
A: i don't know the nature/details of the friendship to comment on that consequence, but i doubt some ...
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| help break the cycle... | 7/17/2009 |
Q: My best friend of almost 15 years is in a relationship that I think may be abusive. They have been ...
A: difficult---without proof of actual abuse, there are no legal remedies--all other options don't ...
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| long term marriage in crisis | 4/25/2009 |
Q: I've been married for 41 years. For the last 20 years my husband has had an "emotional" affair with ...
A: it will begin to subside when you get this guy out of your life; certainly, positive change ...
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| My mother is runing my relationship, life | 4/14/2009 |
Q: Follow up to my earlier question--my mother who has battled depression, abandonment issues, etc. for ...
A: 3 things need to happen--a) the counseling, b) the gf needs to know she's out of line to expect a ...
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| helping sister | 4/7/2009 |
Q: I have a sister that her husband mentally and verbally abuses her. He controls everything she does. ...
A: leaving before, and knowing how he is, doesn't mean that she actually wants help NOW--that's why i ...
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| How Can I Do? | 11/28/2008 |
Q: im 18 years old and i have been with my boyfriend for three years. i had his child when i was a ...
A: why are you still with him, and don't tell me it's "love", because then the question is, what is the ...
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| relationship | 11/4/2008 |
Q: You are right I need to leave. I worked too hard to get where I am and I have a lot going for me. ...
A: you explain in detail how your efforts at affecting positive change here haven't helped, and never ...
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| relationship | 11/3/2008 |
Q: I really need advice. My boyfriend is a huge drug addict. His parents use with him and all his ...
A: only HE is responsible for his behavior---if i tell you you need to leave, and you say you can't, ...
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| unhappy relationship | 10/14/2008 |
Q: I met my fiance 2yrs ago and we just recenty got engaged. We were very happy a few months ago ...
A: it's only beside the point if he leaves--you may feel he has to leave, but he hasn't; it's not clear ...
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| Current Girlfriend | 9/9/2008 |
Q: I live in Canada and a few months ago started a long distance relationship with a woman from the UK. ...
A: 2.5 months of intermittently seeing each other, and with squabbling, strongly indicates this may not ...
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| How can I leave my abusive boyfriend? | 8/14/2008 |
Q: Help! I have three kids, none are his, yet he acts as though they are. He calls me horrible names in ...
A: i essentially agree with the family--you need to work on an exit plan, that covers all concerns; ...
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| verbal abuse? | 7/2/2008 |
Q: I've been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now. Of course, there weren't any obvious signs of an ...
A: as indicated, it appears to be an obvious anger management issue; attempts to deal with it have ...
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| Ugly argument. | 7/2/2008 |
Q: Im 5 months pregnant, on sunday i had an argument with my boyfriend about various issues in our ...
A: alot of issues here, beginning with the health of the relationship, the fact that your brother, a ...
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| Fiancee deceiving me! I think? | 5/22/2008 |
Q: I have known my Fiancee for 4 years now and been together for over a year. We decided to get married ...
A: time for a reality check; if he treats you so badly, why are you still with him?..and please, don't ...
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| Why can't I leave? | 5/15/2008 |
Q: I've never done this before but I don't really know where to go, so here I go. I'm 26 and been ...
A: sounds like a real winner--"love" has nothing to do with it; when people speak of love when there is ...
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| need advice for myself and my sons. please help | 5/6/2008 |
Q: I have been in a relationship with boyfriend for three and half years. Living with him for one year. ...
A: you're a smart lady--we both know you should have left LONG AGO, but your low self-esteem, addictive ...
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| Am i virgin enough | 5/2/2008 |
Q: i was 15 and innocent about sex when my then boyfriend of 19 years started talking and doing sexual ...
A: lesson #1--each person is responsible for their OWN feelings; you can CHANGE how you react; as i ...
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| Am i virgin enough | 5/2/2008 |
Q: i was 15 and innocent about sex when my then boyfriend of 19 years started talking and doing sexual ...
A: you have to change your perception; a) you did nothing wrong..b) many women have early sexual ...
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| relationship confusion | 5/1/2008 |
Q: I am seeking some guidance on what to make of my current relationship. It is causing me great ...
A: consider this your life saving wake up call--you are in an abusive, addictive, unhealthy ...
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| Should I go back? | 4/22/2008 |
Q: I recently ended a three year verbally abusive relationship. My ex had a very physically abusive ...
A: it's over--goin back won't really help him, and will be the end of you; it will only service his ...
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| daughter in abusive relstionship | 4/3/2008 |
Q: About a month ago we found out that our 19 yr. old daughter is in an abusive relationship with her ...
A: no easy answers; you can try to perhaps ask the counselor and the daughter if you can be included in ...
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| She Left Me, Is she coming back | 3/26/2008 |
Q: I am writing this letter seeking for advice from others and as a journal to see if my thoughts ...
A: the reality is this girl has been jerking you around for a LONG time, but your infatuation with her, ...
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| I need help... | 3/12/2008 |
Q: I have been in a rocky marriage for nearly 6 years now. We have a 3 year old daughter. My husband ...
A: the question is, do you really want to spend the rest of your life in "slavery", and for someone who ...
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| Help | 3/5/2008 |
Q: I have been with my fiance for about a year and a half now. He has always had an anger problem ...
A: the choices; staying in the name of love and risking further physical, verbal, emotional abuse, or ...
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| My Friend | 3/1/2008 |
Q: OK, my friend has been with this guy for maybe a year and a half now. She met him online and the ...
A: not alot of options--you can continue to try and convince her as to getting out--you can even bring ...
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| Verbal Abuse | 2/27/2008 |
Q: I have been with my husband for 13 years, we started dating when I was 14 and have been married ...
A: time to see the realities--we both know this unhealthy arrangement, for you AND the kids, should ...
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| mental abuse | 2/26/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been together for almost 15 years, We started dating when we were in high ...
A: at this point, there's only 2 possible ways it will have a chance of improving; either couples ...
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| Was i a bad boyfriend? | 2/16/2008 |
Q: Alright, all afternoon i have been reading up on people who have been abused in the relationships. ...
A: it's bigger than that--she's a kid, acting like a kid that needs, wants, and should have, the ...
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| verbal abuse | 2/12/2008 |
Q: Hey, my name is Chrissy and i'm 17 years old. I had been with my boyfriend for 2 years when we broke ...
A: i'd highly recommend counseling--the guy did you a HUGE FAVOR by disappearing--these abusive, ...
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| abusive relationship | 12/10/2007 |
Q: I have been seeing this man for seven years. We have lived together for five. We are a mixed family ...
A: you need to make a plan for leaving...consider family/friends who can help, maybe who you can stay ...
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| leave me husband? | 12/9/2007 |
Q: my husband and i have been married for almost a year, he went to boot camp(for the marines) right ...
A: first, stop talking about love unless you're a lover of pain/suffering; this is unhealthy addiction, ...
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| will the fighting ever end? | 11/29/2007 |
Q: Josh and I started dating about 4 years ago. We have known each other since we were teenagers ...
A: i don't believe in staying in bad relationships for the child's sake (probably a MORE detrimental ...
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| will the fighting ever end? | 11/29/2007 |
Q: Josh and I started dating about 4 years ago. We have known each other since we were teenagers ...
A: have you considered the possibility that it's really all over here but for the shouting?..during a ...
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| problems with my boyfriend | 11/29/2007 |
Q: my name is susie. i currently turned 20. i have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years and 5 ...
A: any guy who physically abuses you, or threatens to, even just once, should be arrested, and ...
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| abuse | 11/4/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for a year. he has hurt me before, but it has been several ...
A: the "way" is to leave the jerk, and consider filing assault charges; this is abuse on many ...
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| How to end an abusive relationship | 11/4/2007 |
Q: My ex-wife who is still my close friend is now involved in an abusive relationship. Her new partner ...
A: "being there" is different than continued efforts to try and convince someone to make a change; i'm ...
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| How to end an abusive relationship | 11/3/2007 |
Q: My ex-wife who is still my close friend is now involved in an abusive relationship. Her new partner ...
A: you seem to be heading her in the right direction; ultimately, only SHE can elect to in essence save ...
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| Controlling behavior | 11/1/2007 |
Q: I have been researching controlling behavior in relationships- and am finding that my boyfriend has ...
A: 4 months and already all of this unhealthy drama--what happens when insecurities/neediness lead ...
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| How do I help my daughter leave her controlling boyfriend? | 10/30/2007 |
Q: I have a 20 year old daughter who has been in a relationship with a young man who is a year younger ...
A: this has gone on FAR TOO LONG; you can't continue to "enable" her if she continues to see him, and ...
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| Codependent | 10/26/2007 |
Q: I hear that term a lot, codependency, when it comes to relationships, but I honestly really don't ...
A: well, alot of stuff there; good to see you've matured, learned some good life lessons; as for ...
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| Codependent | 10/24/2007 |
Q: I hear that term a lot, codependency, when it comes to relationships, but I honestly really don't ...
A: it's essentially when each person is emotionally dependent on the other for the bulk of their ...
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| gal I love who is trapped in abusive relationship | 10/23/2007 |
Q: Ok, I love this gal I met and we hit it off sexually a number of times over this year. She still ...
A: there's no point in analyzing what she does or doesn't do--the bottom line is the same..you can ...
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| gal I love who is trapped in abusive relationship | 10/23/2007 |
Q: Ok, I love this gal I met and we hit it off sexually a number of times over this year. She still ...
A: your love for her has little to do with it, except make the reality harder for you; the fact is ...
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| My bf doesn't seem to care | 10/22/2007 |
Q: I'm at the end of my rope with my bf. In the early days of our relationship things were amazing ...
A: "beyond this.."??...that's like saying your car's brakes, wipers, radio, steering, only work some of ...
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| my controlling boyfrined | 10/2/2007 |
Q: I'm only 17 years old and my boyfriend is 18 we just recently moved in with his mom about 6 months ...
A: please listen--this jerk should be in prison for assault; he is both physically/emotionally abusive; ...
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| abusive relationships | 9/17/2007 |
Q: My daughter's boyfriend just sent her to the emergency room in need of stitches because he threw a ...
A: maybe it's my imagination, but you seem more concerned about the welfare of this sociopath than your ...
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| Verbally abusive relationship | 9/16/2007 |
Q: I have been in a typical abusive relationship for 6 years. (verbally/mentally)... I am done feeling ...
A: "no friends" is the least of your problems--you need to get out, and the only way is to sever all ...
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| abusive relationship | 9/12/2007 |
Q: I have been with my boyfriende for two years and we have a 10 month old daughter together. In the ...
A: time to face the facts- it's essentially over; you're with an abusive sociopath, and yes, it will ...
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| Daughter wants to leave troubled relationship | 9/3/2007 |
Q: My daughter, 24, has been living with her boyfriend, also 24, for three years. When they met, they ...
A: other than staying away from him, there's not any real protection until he breaks some law; the ...
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| daughter in a mentally abusive relationship | 8/30/2007 |
Q: My daughter, 19(almost 20), is in a relationship with a boy 18,off and on for about 2 and a half ...
A: a sad state of affairs--unfortunately, there appears to be nothing more you can do--people have to ...
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| Am I abusive? | 8/30/2007 |
Q: My girlfriend of two and a half years left me five weeks ago. She says I was abusive and has told ...
A: let's try to get beyond whether the behavior technically qualifies as abusive; the important thing ...
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| Being shoved | 8/28/2007 |
Q: Ive been with my now ex-boyfriend for only four months. I first moved out of his house after only 5 ...
A: wasn't one abusive arrangement enough?..tigers don't lose their stripes; anyone that lays a hand on ...
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| A responsible but workaholic husband. Works 13/27, does not share household chores | 8/27/2007 |
Q: We've been married for 15 years. During the last 12 years, he is always working out in field. He is ...
A: my answer remains the same; he's become complacent, too comfortable, too inconsiderate, and you're ...
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| A responsible but workaholic husband. Works 13/27, does not share household chores | 8/25/2007 |
Q: We've been married for 15 years. During the last 12 years, he is always working out in field. He is ...
A: he's getting away with this because you're allowing him to; stop waiting on him, informing him that ...
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| bf abuse | 8/17/2007 |
Q: im 16 and i've been going out with my bf for about a year and a half now. at 1st he was really nice ...
A: THESE ARE CRIMINAL ACTS OF SERIOUS ASSAULT; THE MAN NEEDS TO BE LOCKED UP FOR MANY YEARS; TELL THE ...
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| calling out past abuse | 8/13/2007 |
Q: I had been really good friends with a guy at my college for about four months, when he left to ...
A: 1. abuse can take on many disguises..he didn't care enough to control you in those ways; instead, he ...
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| Jealous/Insecure Boyfriend | 8/12/2007 |
Q: I've been dating this guy for over nine months now, and I am very much in love with him. We're only ...
A: why do you "appreciate" disrespect, anger, controlling behavior??..this will only get worse; unless ...
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| Re: Don't know what to do! | 8/5/2007 |
Q: Azure, I got married in 2005. We got pregnant soon after (2 months after). During my pregnancy, I ...
A: time to face reality--this marriage was a horrible mistake; the guy is a complete jerk, is ...
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| worried my daughter is in a controlling relationship | 7/30/2007 |
Q: My daughter is 23 and live at home. Her boyfriend is a very jealous guy. He has 2 children from a ...
A: is the pope catholic?...the man is essentially a sociopath, in need of inpatient therapy; do ...
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| did i do the wrong thing? | 7/25/2007 |
Q: I was dating this guy Chris and everything seemed to be going great. We had so much in common, we ...
A: great question, and good that you were able to step back and objectively look at it from 2 angles; ...
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| Help | 7/24/2007 |
Q: I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months. At first he was great we would have so much fun together. ...
A: why are you staying with this jerk??..he's not only physically/emotionally abusive, but he should be ...
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| not sure what to do | 7/16/2007 |
Q: I have been married for 28 years and have 3 children. In the past year, my spouse has been ...
A: it's hard to believe your self-esteem is so low that you've allowed this to continue..is this how ...
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| Why take it out one me? | 7/11/2007 |
Q: My husband and I have been happily married for 28 years. The past few months his boss has been ...
A: 3 options--a) completely ignore him/his behavior..without the "fuel" of your reaction, it should ...
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| bad union | 7/9/2007 |
Q: Azure, Hi, I am looking for an unbiased opinion, I have searched my heart and my head and I cannot ...
A: the real question is, where is the self-esteem that would have led to your kicking this bum out LONG ...
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| Im Soo Hurt & COnfused Inside... | 7/4/2007 |
Q: So heres the situation... Let me state facts about him and myself first Him- Age 35 2 kids from a ...
A: the follow-up is more of the same...but until you realize that what you call "love" is really an ...
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| Im Soo Hurt & COnfused Inside... | 7/4/2007 |
Q: So heres the situation... Let me state facts about him and myself first Him- Age 35 2 kids from a ...
A: a sad, depressing, all too common situation; first, try not to call this "love"..it is really an ...
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| will they ever change? | 6/30/2007 |
Q: I'll admit it's very hard for me to open up about my situation to a stranger, but I'm desperate for ...
A: a well-written, totally depressing, sad story; as bad as he was/is in need of help, for you to ...
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| abuse survivor now a mom | 6/29/2007 |
Q: I am 36 years old and I am married with two lovely little girls, aged 4 and 9. My first memories of ...
A: actually in the big picture it would apply to both, but in helping answer your question, it would ...
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| abuse survivor now a mom | 6/29/2007 |
Q: I am 36 years old and I am married with two lovely little girls, aged 4 and 9. My first memories of ...
A: =i don't really see your behavior, or an apology, (done without foregoing your justification as to ...
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| in fear | 6/28/2007 |
Q: I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago, and now he will not leave me alone. He has been ...
A: since you've already told the police, there's not alot you can do, unless you know a couple of big ...
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| Lonely | 6/19/2007 |
Q: I'm 17 and I am currently involved in a pretty rocky relationship. Things started out wonderful, and ...
A: i'd strongly suggest counseling, as your insecurities, dependence, neediness, are all allowing him ...
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| partner's emotional abuse | 6/6/2007 |
Q: My 49 yr old partner sold his house and moved into mine 1 yr ago.We had a reasonable gentle loving ...
A: what's goin on is you're bein taken for a ride by a self-absorbed jerk, and your insecurities (aka ...
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| help me | 6/5/2007 |
Q: I have to make this short and as complete as i can for fear i will be caught writing this. i think i ...
A: it's a terribly abusive arrangement--why are you wasting your life living this way? you can choose ...
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| Friend in abusive marriage | 5/18/2007 |
Q: I have a close friendship with a woman I have known now for about 6 years. In that time (and even ...
A: you can certainly be more vocal about it with her as to your feelings, your suggestions, and ...
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| ended unhealthy relationship | 3/3/2007 |
Q: This is my very long story. Sorry it is so much. I don't have anyone to talk to about it and needed ...
A: every woman's dream guy; the only real question here is why your self-esteem is so low, and ...
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| controlling relationships | 2/7/2007 |
Q: Do you think this is an abusive/controlling relationship? I think it is and that's why she came to ...
A: sounds pretty possessive/controlling to me; as i said, unless she seeks you out, forget about ...
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| controlling relationships | 2/6/2007 |
Q: I have this new best friend who I love and care about dearly. When I first met her she came to me ...
A: you can't help someone who doesn't want your help; you saw what happened when you spoke your mind; ...
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| abusive boyfriend | 1/21/2007 |
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years, and the whole time I have been unsure ...
A: the only questions here have to do with YOU; why has your self-esteem been so low, and insecurity so ...
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| worried about 22 year old daughter and her ability to have healthy relationships | 12/26/2006 |
Q: i raise a daughter who in retrospect ruled the roost, wanted and got things her way and now-- i have ...
A: it gets a little tricky when attmpting to tell a strong-willed daughter how to live her life; under ...
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| My husband | 12/22/2006 |
Q: I am a recent newlywed, we've been married two months. I am 27 and my husband 22, so perhaps that ...
A: in my opinion, with that type of assault, (not to mention his previous abusive patterns), there's no ...
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| Mental/Verbal Abuse | 12/19/2006 |
Q: I'm 19 and I go to college in Mass. I've dealt with an abusive father my whole life. I'm not so ...
A: tough question; guess it depends on how "heavy" you want to get; i don't know specifically how ...
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| Abusive husband? | 12/11/2006 |
Q: I've have been married to my husband for the last 13 years. Before we married, my husband was the ...
A: the real question is, why is your self-esteem so low that you chose to live like this for so ...
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| to stay or not to stay | 12/9/2006 |
Q: I don't really know how to start this. I have been in a relationship with this man for about eight ...
A: let's see--possessive, controlling, abusive, mean, insulting, disrespectful, no commitment--sounds ...
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| Married 5 Months to an Emotionally Abusive Man | 11/22/2006 |
Q: I have been married for 5 months and am unhappy about 75% of the time. I know they say the first ...
A: aside from living a life of quiet desperation, you only option is to INFORM him that the current ...
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| I feel trapped! | 11/15/2006 |
Q: I have been married for almost 8 years, however we've been together for about 9 years now. When we ...
A: it's hard to imagine why you haven't left this jerk for good LONG AGO; i think at this point, no ...
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| Is he okay? Or am I crazy? | 11/14/2006 |
Q: I am 16 and my very first boyfriend is 17. We have been going out for 2 months. At first, he was ...
A: stop using the steroids (which he shouldn't even be taking), to justify his behavior; his ...
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| Abusive Boyfriend | 10/30/2006 |
Q: I am 19 and my bf is 22. We have been together for over a year and living together for five months ...
A: it's because it's not real love, more dependence/addiction; if you stepped out of this and viewed it ...
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| This guy is scaring me... | 10/24/2006 |
Q: "I am about to complete my MBA degree and had the unfortunate pleasure of meeting this guy in the ...
A: you need to be firmer in setting limits and initiating consequences if they're broken; tell him it's ...
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| am I the one who is wrong?? | 9/26/2006 |
Q: I have been with my bf for 3 years now. We have a child together. He has an anger problem, and he ...
A: let's see--a possessive, jealous, controlling boyfriend with an "anger problem", who doesn't ...
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| fear of change | 9/20/2006 |
Q: i have been married for 13 years and seperated for 1 year, i cannot seem to find the courage to ...
A: it's one reason why people go to counselors; using that route, the hope is by increasing your ...
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| Leaving a abusive relationship | 7/31/2006 |
Q: I have been living with my fiance for 10 years he has kids from a former relationship that he has ...
A: your leaving is not only strongly advised, it's WAY overdue; actually, he should have been arrested ...
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| Is she too far gone? | 7/27/2006 |
Q: I am going out on a limb here and hoping this is the correct category. I am in my 30s and feel that ...
A: i wouldn't be overly concerned; just judge her on her behavior towards YOU; if you notice ...
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| More therapy? | 7/25/2006 |
Q: I grew up in a household with an abusive alcoholic father and a mother who regretted having me and ...
A: knowing you're making them happy in at least some fashion, which provides you with at least a ...
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| I want to leave | 7/21/2006 |
Q: My husband and I have been married for about 7 months now. We have known each other for almost two ...
A: you find a good attorney, make plans to leave and go far away, taking the daughter with you; i don't ...
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| Messy breakup, why is she keeping me around? | 7/9/2006 |
Q: I was just in a 8 Year relationship, I was her first real boyfriend(and lover) and saw her through ...
A: as the animal trainer learns, it's never about the animal; it's your helplessly hoping, not the nice ...
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| Abusive | 7/8/2006 |
Q: I met my boyfriend 5 months ago online. It was going great for a while. Till the next thursday I ...
A: get out AS SOON AS POSSIBLE; tell those closest to you what's been going on; call the police and ...
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| Plz help | 6/28/2006 |
Q: I'm a mess.I need your help.I don't know how to make this short so I'll put in the highlights. Met ...
A: take him back??..the real question is, why is your self-esteem so low, and neediness so high, that ...
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| Should I try again? | 6/16/2006 |
Q: I am in dire need of help. I am a very strong person but lately I am so down. I have only been in ...
A: your decision, but his saying "thought you'd be done with this music crap" isn't a positive sign; i ...
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| Is he the one for me? | 6/15/2006 |
Q: I have been seeing my boyfriend for over a year now. I have known him for a total of 6 years. We ...
A: every woman's dream guy....the real question is, why is your self-esteem so low, and insecurity so ...
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| what is the deal here? | 6/15/2006 |
Q: ok so this is the story i am in love with this girl that i had been seeing for 10 months and it ...
A: 1. depends if your expectations were reasonable or not; if you wanted it every day or almost every ...
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| abusive boyfriend wants to change??? | 6/13/2006 |
Q: i have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months. we broke up in april for 4 days. i took him back ...
A: can't "make" him change; he has to not only WANT to, but has to actually DO it; if necessary, he ...
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| i abused... | 6/5/2006 |
Q: i am 27 she is 42, and she left me without warning last weekened, police came her family, and moved ...
A: in order for them to basically take her out of there, i'd guess a PATTERN of abusiveness, ...
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| lack of trust | 5/29/2006 |
Q: I am 17 and my boyfriend is 20. We have known each other since I was 14, it has been quite a ...
A: he's just being a jerk, trying to give you some guilt trip so you'll "confess"; these possessive, ...
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| I would like to know how to help someone in an abusive relationship | 5/27/2006 |
Q: I have a friend in what I think is an abusive relationship. She is not allowed to do very many ...
A: there's always hope, but nothing will change until she recognizes the obstacles stopping her from ...
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| Am I in an abusive relationship? (I should know, right?) | 5/10/2006 |
Q: Please help me to clear my head,Azure. I have been with my partner for a few years and we now live ...
A: call it whatever you want; the bottom line is you're addicted to a totally unhealthy, dangerous, ...
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| abusive behaviour in a relationship | 4/26/2006 |
Q: I know this is probably odd that I am posting this question under the marriage subtitle, but my ...
A: "abusive" can mean different things to different people; whether how he treated you fits into the ...
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| Do I try to fix it or leave it in such a mess? | 4/8/2006 |
Q: Well first of all I'll tell you about it. My boyfriend and I were dating for about nine months and ...
A: if you stay in this, it would be YOU that needs the counseling; the man has ALL KINDS of issues; any ...
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| My Girlfriend is a Liar | 3/20/2006 |
Q: The first one (also the only one in which I confronted her): She told me she was going to hang out ...
A: no need to resend; the key is to attempt to understand WHY she's lieing; as an example re the "ex", ...
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| JEALOUSY | 3/17/2006 |
Q: We have alot of fun together. But there are somethings in this relationship that I am not 100% sure ...
A: it's got nothing to do with age; let's see, "jealousy, drinking, threats.." sounds like every ...
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| help me ive made a terrible mistake | 3/10/2006 |
Q: this one may seem really strange because im sure that you dont get questions from the abuser too ...
A: if you're truly concerned about HER happiness, you'll let her go peacefully; even if you HAVE ...
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| Obsession or Addiction? | 3/7/2006 |
Q: I have been in a relationship for almost two years. Things were wonderful at first. Well, our sex ...
A: addiction, obsession, or whatever you want to call it, he's essentially ruined the relationship, ...
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| love or friendship :) | 2/27/2006 |
Q: ) my question is: What is love ? And what is friendship? I mean if you could write it in words, how ...
A: friendship is mainly love without sexual attraction, based upon care, trust, loyalty, ...
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| How do I leave an emotional/verbal abuser? | 2/13/2006 |
Q: I have been in a committed relationship with a man since I was 17 - I'll soon be turning 32. We have ...
A: i agree with the friend; leave him a letter explaining your decision, including the hope that if he ...
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| Tell me how to fix my relationship! Please! | 2/8/2006 |
Q: I've been dating my current boyfriend for about a year and a half now. We've had ups, and we've had ...
A: the only thing to figure out is how to get out of this mess, and away from him; there must be ...
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| Does he really love me? | 2/6/2006 |
Q: I started dating a 39 year old man whose never been married, single, successful professional man. ...
A: are you serious??...let's see, you're detailing a guy that's neurotic, argumentative, insensitive, ...
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| "You just don't understand." | 11/14/2005 |
Q: I've been dating an awesomely cute girl for nearly 2 months and we've gotten to a point in our ...
A: no need to continue on this line of past history, seeing it's already out there; try to get her to ...
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| what do i do.... | 11/11/2005 |
Q: ive been in a relationship for 3 years now(im 21) with a girl i met online. we fell head over heals ...
A: you can't "make" her do anything; the best thing you can do is temporarily step aside, give her the ...
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| help | 10/31/2005 |
Q: I have been involved with a man I met on the net almost 3 years ago. During our 'relationship' he ...
A: the person that needs the counseling is YOU; that would be to deal with the deep insecurity, low ...
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| I really need advice | 10/28/2005 |
Q: I am a 22 year old women asking about a 29 year old guy. during the summer I got to know the man ...
A: i think he either has a wife/girlfriend, or is only interested in you for convenient, casual sex, or ...
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| help | 10/20/2005 |
Q: Ok..here goes.Been with this guy almost 3 years~he's cheated on me, lied to me.The woman that he ...
A: in these situations, love doesn't help at all; even calling it that is questionable, as under the ...
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| my relationship | 10/5/2005 |
Q: me and my boyfriend have been together for 3yrs ,he is controlling,jealous,and many say out of ...
A: too late for website help; this is a case of extreme abuse, involving essentially assault and ...
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| OPINION | 5/12/2005 |
Q: I HAVE SPENT 5 YEARS WITH MY BOYFRIEND WHO I STILL ADORE BUT I LEFT HIM 1 YEAR AGO BECAUSE OF MOM ...
A: i don't know him to specifically analyze his motives, but his possessive/controlling ways probably ...
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| sexual addiction and lack of sex | 5/10/2005 |
Q: How can I tell if someone (my husband) is addicted to sex? Also how can one who wants sex as often ...
A: it's like any addiction; if it appears to be an overpowering need that is adversely affecting other ...
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| Man-child | 5/5/2005 |
Q: I've been living with a 45 year old 'man' for 2 years off and on. He's been kicked out a few times ...
A: stop worrying about what's wrong with HIM, and get YOUR life together so you stop making bad ...
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| Marriage And Abuse | 5/1/2005 |
Q: Some of my story. I am a 53 year old women and have been with my husband since we were 13. He has ...
A: it's a tough situation...it's really not a marriage anymore--you are in a dependent arrangement with ...
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| I feel so lost | 3/24/2005 |
Q: I don't even know where to begin. This feels like I have been living through 5 years of hell. My ...
A: i know it's easy for me to say from this distance, but since you're asking for an objective opinion, ...
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| Is it really love? | 3/17/2005 |
Q: I'm 19 years old and my name is Samantha. I am currently engaged to a man my age who I have been ...
A: nineteen, already living together, controlling, possessive guy, can't go with friends...not good; ...
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| saying mean things to my girlfriend | 2/18/2005 |
Q: My girlfriend are high school sweethearts and I am now 23 and she is 24 years old. For several years ...
A: she asked for time/space--give it to her, accepting the things you can't change; my feeling is ...
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