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| Subject | Date Asked |
| love | 12/12/2011 |
| Q: my friend aishwarya is in different kind of love. actually a year before aishwarya liked a boy but a ... A: The first thing to realize is that this entire relationship is an illusion. Your friend is in love ... | |
| confused? | 9/21/2011 |
| Q: Ok, I have a serious question that I have been battling. I've been in a relationship for 6 1/2 yrs. ... A: This is how it will be for the time being. Possibly the rest of your life. You have to decide ... | |
| How to Move On | 8/8/2011 |
| Q: I was wondering why it is so difficult for me to make a commitment. I feel like there is something ... A: You need to engage in activity where the focus is helping other people. You are stuck in what is ... | |
| concerns about cheating and drugs | 6/5/2011 |
| Q: I am writing in hopes of finding some answers for my mother. I appreciate any advice you may have ... A: It seems like you all have set this marriage up to fail. Rather than supporting this man you are ... | |
| Past abuse interfering in current relationship? | 5/8/2011 |
| Q: Alright, well, I'm 24, and I've been with my fiance Brendon (He's 25) for about 3 years, now, and ... A: There is nothing wrong with you and what you are doing. You experienced some pretty horrendous ... | |
| Marriage | 4/6/2011 |
| Q: This might be a bit long, but I wanted a man's perspective on my marriage. I have been dating / ... A: I am not a psychologist but it sounds like both you and your husband need some counseling on how to ... | |
| bipolar | 3/23/2011 |
| Q: ..my man, age 64, retired CFO, and I for three years, are totally compatible in our religion, sex, ... A: Unfortunately there is no cure for bipolar disorder, only medication can sometimes lessen the mood ... | |
| abuse | 2/3/2011 |
| Q: i am wondering if because i have personality disorder if i attract abuse into my life by men i am ... A: I am not allowed to diagnose anyone, but attracting abusive people into your life is usually a ... | |
| Cant leave alcoholic boyfriend | 1/15/2011 |
| Q: I posted a similar question in the addiction category and the expert was very helpful but I thought ... A: Leave him. It is an irrational thought that he would sober up and make someone else happy. If you ... | |
| Abuse | 12/28/2010 |
| Q: When I was in high school I was involved in an abusive relationship. On five occasions my boyfriend ... A: Most of the time people accept abusive behavior because they have been taught that is love, usually ... | |
| Can a marriage come back from domestic voliance | 12/24/2010 |
| Q: I have been abused for the last 7 years. It did not happen every day but I was attacked emotionally ... A: There is always hope. Drinking will pretty much kill hope, so if either one of you drinks, you can ... | |
| are our relationship problems my fault? | 8/1/2010 |
| Q: I have been married to an emotionally abusive husband for 4 years. He is currently working to change ... A: It sounds like both of you need counseling. I would not say that you are entirely at fault, his ... | |
| my boyfriend. | 5/18/2010 |
| Q: i am 21 year old i am with my boyfriend for 5 years, he love me very much and i too but his anger ... A: If it is unbearable, you should not bear it. Explain to him that you can't live with this and if he ... | |
| Narcissistic Personality Disorder | 4/24/2010 |
| Q: Do you know if Narcissistic Personality Disorder can be "cured?" can any personality disorder be ... A: Personality disorders are treated with therapy and/or drugs. If someone doesn't want treatment, ... | |
| Mind games | 3/25/2010 |
| Q: I am a 40 year old man, I recently started a long distance relationship with woman whom I have ... A: Obviously some aspect of your behavior directly or indirectly reminds her of some event in her past ... | |
| Hi | 3/17/2010 |
| Q: My name is Nichole and Im 20 . I have been together when my fiance for 4 years and we have a 2 yr ... A: It sounds like he is immature and frustrated because he sees your mother having more control over ... | |
| Confusion | 2/28/2010 |
| Q: Hey there. I am in my first year at university, and I've tried to steer clear of relationships for ... A: I doubt that he is acting intentionally. It sounds more like a personality disorder or deep seated ... | |
| Please help me advise my daughter! | 2/11/2010 |
| Q: My daughter has been married for 10 years now,and has a son of 9. About 4 weeks ago, we found out ... A: The next time he hits anyone, you could call child services and get the police involved. As far as ... | |
| etiquette | 1/31/2010 |
| Q: Not a dating question, but I need advice from someone a little more experienced about etiquette. I ... A: I think you over analyze everything. You probably did the right thing by not responding to these ... | |
| Could he be abusive? | 1/24/2010 |
| Q: I'm in a long distance relationship. The last time I saw my boyfriend, we were joking around and I ... A: If you made it clear to him that you do not allow that sort of behavior, and he did it again, it ... | |
| Child abuse | 12/10/2009 |
| Q: I am a student working on a project about child abuse, I was wondering what has been done to solve ... A: There are many resources for stopping child abuse, including court agencies, specialized training ... | |
| Iraq war PTSD, Alcoholism & family | 11/14/2009 |
| Q: My bf returned home from iraq early september, he and I dated a 2 years ago and split up because he ... A: Unfortunately you can't get help for him until he wants it. You need to keep you and your child safe ... | |
| Relationship | 9/29/2009 |
| Q: i am so confused dont know what to do, it would be off great help, if you all provide me with your ... A: What you are looking for can only be found within yourself. Only you can love you. Only you can love ... | |
| grabbed me and wouldnt let me go | 8/31/2009 |
| Q: im with a guy im crazy about for over a year now. he has a bad past in relation to women and ... A: I would not allow any violence in any of my relationships. That is absolutely prohibited in my book. ... | |
| mentally abusive relationship | 8/29/2009 |
| Q: I have two questions I am hoping you could give me some insight on. I have recently seperated from ... A: You will have to petition the courts where the child lives for joint custody. I would highly ... | |
| Different Mindset | 8/17/2009 |
| Q: I became involved with someone who experienced childhood and adult relationships where unconditional ... A: Well, there is the trick, isn't it? You say you want to love this person if they behave like you ... | |
| complaint | 8/4/2009 |
| Q: I'm a PHD student and I was verbally harassed by another student, who was screaming obscenities at ... A: Well, obviously this student has jealousy issues that you stir up. I think you have done all you can ... | |
| people who mess with other peoples min | 7/27/2009 |
| Q: what do you call someone who purposely messes with your mind with the intention of making you ... A: In my opinion, 18, 21 at the latest. Anything after that becomes that person's ... | |
| what to disclose about my past | 7/17/2009 |
| Q: I'm a 44 yr. old single female, no kids, divorced twice, the last being ten years ago. I have been ... A: I have been married twice, and engaged twice more, and had extensive counseling, all similar to your ... | |
| somethings wrong with me | 7/5/2009 |
| Q: I manipulate a guy and find his soft spots, i find out what in their past life really affected them ... A: First, replace the word "can't" with "won't" in your sentences. Obviously you have a lot of ... | |
| A persons past hunts them? | 7/4/2009 |
| Q: My question basically is this, I've been married for about 9 years, but I've been with my wife for ... A: You have to imagine what growing up and learning about love must have been like for her. She ... | |
| Controlling Girlfriend or Not? | 5/24/2009 |
| Q: My ex girlfriend and I dated for 4 months. She ended things, and now I am wondering if she was a ... A: I think you were wise in ending the dating relationship. It sounds like she has parental issues and ... | |
| counseling | 5/11/2009 |
| Q: A year ago I was verbally attacked horribly by someone. This person screamed at me at the top of ... A: You have to forgive them...not in the sense that what they did was acceptable, but in the sense that ... | |
| emotional rollercoaster | 12/30/2008 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with a woman with two children; I myself have 2 children. in the two ... A: I think the woman has some serious personal issues that if you value your happiness you will cut and ... | |
| sucking a boy's dick | 12/28/2008 |
| Q: .. i'm a girl and i'm 12 years old and i'm in grade 7. i was molested a year ago but i didn't know ... A: I realize that you don't want to get the babysitter or his boyfriend in trouble, but you have to ... | |
| Relationship | 12/1/2008 |
| Q: I have newly married just about 10 months. I am happy he is a good guy, his only flaw which now seem ... A: You help him grow up. You explain to him that he is acting like a six year old child and tell him to ... | |
| Husband Hurt Me | 11/22/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 15 years. My husband and I have four kids. We had an arguement a week ago ... A: If you want to have independence, you will need to support yourself. That is a good thing. I would ... | |
| what is wrong with me? | 11/17/2008 |
| Q: I have been married for 25 yrs. I have been unhappy for along time. My husband used to drink, go out ... A: why does there have to be something wrong with you? It sounds to me like you don't love him anymore, ... | |
| *** What should we do??? *** | 11/13/2008 |
| Q: I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 21. We've been together for over 2 years and are both in college. She's ... A: I think you are being a bit immature. It is obvious you don't trust her, and quite frankly you are ... | |
| relationship with a drug addict | 4/14/2008 |
| Q: I have been friends with and have been living a heroin and crack addict for almost a year now. He ... A: The rule of thumb is to wait for one year of sobriety before you should expect an addict to be able ... | |
| James Please Help! THANK U!!! | 4/1/2008 |
| Q: First of all thank you so much for taking in my question. I am under a lot of duress, and issues. My ... A: I think he is highly immature and insecure. He doesn't have enough emotional maturity to recognize ... | |
| Alcoholic Fiance Wants an Enabler | 3/24/2008 |
| Q: I currently live with my 33-year-old fiance. He's a professional man with a MBA and a good job. He ... A: I think you are avoiding the bigger question of why do you want to marry someone that will ... | |
| Abusive boyfriend.. | 2/20/2008 |
| Q: Friday Febuary 15, 2008. My boyfriend and I only been together for 2 mos. and we were drinking ... A: You did nothing wrong. Sometimes we fall in love with people who have deep emotional problems. We go ... | |
| hello | 2/19/2008 |
| Q: just wondering if you can help me i am separated from my husband of 30years and i just cant seem to ... A: It is okay to love him, and to protect yourself first. If he is abusing you, it may be painful to ... | |
| controlling relationships | 1/6/2008 |
| Q: my name is Amy and I'm 28 years old. I have been with my fiance for 4 years now and most of it has ... A: I would have a chat with your fiance about his behavior. If it isn't working for you, you should ... | |
| Battered woman | 1/5/2008 |
| Q: I've been involved with a woman, for 8 months now, that had been abused for 20 years, by her ex. I ... A: Yes, it is entirely possible that she would abuse you. I would remember the source of your ... | |
| touching me in my sleep | 1/1/2008 |
| Q: James, I a just out of an 8 year relationship with a guy who was a lovely person in many ways, very ... A: It is up to you to decide how and when someone touches you. Many women find it erotic to wake up to ... | |
| when a person mistreats you ( revised) | 11/19/2007 |
| Q: I have known this guy over a year,its was an LDR, we have corresponded via phone, email,vidoe etc,in ... A: The real question is why are you so torn up about a person you have never met? It is obvious that he ... | |
| frustrated by the situation I have here: sexless/passionless marriage | 11/3/2007 |
| Q: I have got frustrated by the situation I have here: I am 26 years old, Iranian, I met V, a nice ... A: It sounds like you are in denial of the fact that you are living with a emotionally challenged ... | |
| realationship | 10/28/2007 |
| Q: i've been seeing a 34year old man for about 3 months. He told me some of the abuse he and his twin ... A: If he is not responding to you, that is a message all by itself. It is not whether you are ... | |
| I'm losing my mind!!! | 10/20/2007 |
| Q: I have been with my ex over a year and I left him about 6 months ago. I fell in love with him and ... A: How many times will he have to hit you before you realize that he is dangerous and cannot be ... | |
| Verbally abusive relationship | 9/16/2007 |
| Q: I have been in a typical abusive relationship for 6 years. (verbally/mentally)... I am done feeling ... A: Well, it looks like you need some help enforcing your boundaries. You can tell him that you want him ... | |
| Abusive Relationship | 8/2/2007 |
| Q: I just got out of a really abusive relationship I don't know how to deal with it now how do I ... A: Of course you will get over it. Time heals all wounds. If it was really traumatic you should ... | |
| Abusive Relationships | 7/31/2007 |
| Q: My friendis involved with a guy and to me he seems to be verbally abusive. One minute he is ... A: It sounds to me more like he is more insecure than abusive. Almost like he is daring her to leave. ... | |
| friend's relationship | 7/26/2007 |
| Q: my fiancee's friend is 26 years old.."bob"..he hasn't ever really had a girlfriend until about 8 ... A: All you can do is tell him the truth in a loving way. If he continues on this path of destruction, ... | |
| dual abuse | 7/26/2007 |
| Q: my gf began abusing me verbally from almost the beginning of our relationship. after 3 year I found ... A: It depends on how you expressed your anger at her. Many times people who abuse another feel like ... | |
| Is it Incest? | 7/23/2007 |
| Q: I am 16 years old (a Female) I would like to Know if it is incest to sleep with a STEP brother? If ... A: I believe that there are several factors at play here. First, at some level, even though it may be ... | |
| My fiance thinks I was a slut | 7/19/2007 |
| Q: I Googled “female promiscuity” because I have an issue and I hope one of your readers can give me ... A: It is worse to marry someone that doesn't love you than to sleep with someone that doesn't love you. ... | |
| I think I was In an Abusive Relationship | 7/11/2007 |
| Q: My girlfriend of the past year just broke-up with me about two months ago...I am devastated over the ... A: If drugs weren't involved, I would simply chalk this one up to "that is why long distance ... | |
| Verbally abusive mother-in-law | 6/29/2007 |
| Q: I knew before I married my fantastic husband that his mother was a problem. She verbally and ... A: You should treat her like any other human being who treated you this way. How would you respond to a ... | |
| Friend of mine | 6/26/2007 |
| Q: My friend has a domineering and controlling husband. He even follows her to the bathroom. That is ... A: This appears to be your friend's passive agressive way of dealing with her husband. I assume she is ... | |
| Controlling possesive relationship | 6/21/2007 |
| Q: I am 22 I have been with my fiancee for 5 and a half years now. We have a 3 year old daughter ... A: I think now is the time to say "enough". You need to set boundaries with him, he is treating you ... | |
| help me | 6/5/2007 |
| Q: I have to make this short and as complete as i can for fear i will be caught writing this. i think i ... A: To be blunt, you are in a terribly abusive relationship and you need to leave. To leave, you simply ... | |
| Is this emotional abuse? | 5/13/2007 |
| Q: I'm basically going to crop this down and only explain the main ideas, but just so you know that ... A: It might be borderline abuse, but what the heck, you committed the unpardonable sin of adultery and ... | |
| Can I inform the next victim of a perpretator? | 5/8/2007 |
| Q: I have left my 'husband' a few months ago and have avoided all contact with him. Since his has been ... A: I would not put anything in writing. I would simply call her up and ask to meet her and then tell ... | |
| Verbal abuse | 4/27/2007 |
| Q: My husband drinks excessively and when he does, he becomes very verbally abusive. I had printed an ... A: Alcoholics do things all the time when they are drunk that they don't remember. Alternatively, they ... | |
| mental abuse | 4/25/2007 |
| Q: i have been in a somewhat relationship with a guy for about 2 years now. i don't understand what his ... A: Why don't you tell him to get lost? Sounds like a great idea to me. I would have to guess that this ... | |
| addiction vs. relationship | 4/22/2007 |
| Q: I met my now ex-boyfriend in May of 2006. It was absolutely love at first sight. We got along so ... A: I have seen sobriety work miracles, but as long as someone continues to use, the drug will always ... | |
| Pregnant Daughter in Abusive Relationship | 4/10/2007 |
| Q: I don't really even know where to begin. My daughter is 20 and due in May. She has been in a ... A: Sometimes you have to let your children find out the lessons and consequences of their decisions. ... | |
| attn; why do i explode | 3/29/2007 |
| Q: man i feel betrayed! is it my expections of her? is it my childhood that takes my abilities to love? ... A: Most anger problems arise from unresolved traumas or abuse suffered during childhood. Anger is ... | |
| video game addictions | 3/6/2007 |
| Q: One moreHow does issues with the mother affect a sexual relationship the way you suggest with ours? ... A: There is lots of information about the affects of incest on men. Emotional incest is as destructive ... | |
| video game addictions | 3/4/2007 |
| Q: I wasn't sure if this fell into the right category but thought I'd give it a shot. I think that my ... A: This is a time for boundaries. You need to discuss with him reasonable time for playing games, and ... | |
| abusive husband and father | 2/26/2007 |
| Q: i have been married over 20 years to a man that was a very caring and kind man.he injured his back ... A: This is about boundaries, and he is trying to make you into his mother. You need to have a talk with ... | |
| LETTING GO | 2/8/2007 |
| Q: I'VE CHEATED ON 3 TIMES AND YET I STILL STAY WITH HIM HOW DO I LET GO OF AN 4 YEAR RELATIONSHIP. HE ... A: You have to ask yourself whether it is better to stay with him and his cheating or to be free and ... | |
| My Marriage | 1/22/2007 |
| Q: I think you are right about him not given the chance to grow up when he was a child. Now that he is ... A: I can't answer whether divorce will benefit you. That depends on him. If he is going to make your ... | |
| My Marriage | 1/22/2007 |
| Q: We have gone through this before in counseling. Our communication and relationship have improved. ... A: It sounds like he was never allowed to grow up emotionally by his mother. It would be good if you ... | |
| abusive boyfriend | 1/21/2007 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years, and the whole time I have been unsure ... A: You can't fix him. You need to end the relationship ASAP because you are going to end up being hurt. ... | |
| Boyfriends disaooearing act | 1/20/2007 |
| Q: What can I do to get my boyfriend to stop doing the disappearing act? He chooses to drink. he does ... A: Sounds like your boyfriend is more boy than friend. The question is how patient are you to wait ... | |
| Abusive relations | 1/10/2007 |
| Q: My girlfriend is silently abusing me; i think it is about the abortion which occurred 2years ago.. I ... A: You need anger counseling NOW. You are so confused and angry about everything in your life you need ... | |
| My daughter | 1/7/2007 |
| Q: My daughter is in an abusive relationship and denies everything, even though she came over the other ... A: Willis I think that I would show up and keep quiet. She knows what she is getting into and how you ... | |
| Hi! I need help with ur expertise... | 1/6/2007 |
| Q: "First, my gf and I have been with each other for two years now...we just broke up. The reason was ... A: The first thing you need to do is get counseling about your violent and abusive nature. That is ... | |
| Emotional Abuse and Control | 1/4/2007 |
| Q: I have been in an abusive, controlling relationship with a man for nearly 4 years. It's been a ... A: You have to start believing that you deserve better than this and quit falling in love with people ... | |
| anti-social abuser | 1/4/2007 |
| Q: Do you think someone with an anti-social manipulative controlling personality can change with ... A: From your description this guy is a poster child for domestic violence. It is only a matter of time ... | |
| help with the | 12/28/2006 |
| Q: My childhood was fine - I've messed up royally as a result of drinking...and yes, addiction has ... A: What you describe is an addiction to chaos. I know it well, as I finally realized I had the same ... | |
| help with the "after-shock" and retaliation of abuse | 12/24/2006 |
| Q: So, I'll try to keep this short. I was in a verbally abusive relationship- I am an addictive person ... A: I believe that the operative word here is "addictive". The classic definition of addiction is ... | |
| advice me | 12/20/2006 |
| Q: please, am 24 years and been going out with my guy for 4 years. we met when we were at the ... A: This is a difficult situation. Only time will heal this wound. If he loves you, he will eventually ... | |
| help! | 12/19/2006 |
| Q: i have been with my boyfriend for 4 yrs, we bought a house together about a year ago and thats when ... A: It is fairly obvious that he does not love you in a healthy way. When he was violent and hurt you a ... | |
| What Should I do??? | 12/19/2006 |
| Q: I am married for 2 years and i think..i am in an unfulfilling relationship. Simply bekoz my better ... A: Have you been to counseling? That might help you both. It sounds like his drinking may be making him ... | |
| I am so scared and lost | 12/17/2006 |
| Q: I have been with this girl for about 6 months now, the story starts like this. She was previously in ... A: Falling in love with an emotionally damaged woman is a difficult thing to manage. There are two ways ... | |
| very bad case of abuse | 12/16/2006 |
| Q: My friend is miserable as she is in an abusive relationship.Her husband of 3 mons. is nice to her ... A: She needs counseling for battered spouse syndrome, and she needs to decide whether the risk of ... | |
| Past Abusive relationship | 12/9/2006 |
| Q: Me and my Girlfriend have been dating for a year and a half now. The first year of our ... A: It is impossible to tell how long counseling will take. Perhaps months or years. I hope that you ... | |
| expectations | 12/8/2006 |
| Q: Straight to the point...My husband is in Iraq...we have been married since may3 and he left may ... A: You may be right, but you will end up divorced over it. Is that what you want? If you want to stay ... | |
| Questionable Motives... | 12/4/2006 |
| Q: For six months now, I've been dating a guy who makes me feel as if I have to tip toe my way around ... A: It would appear that he is the emotional equivalent of a six year old and is hugely codependant. He ... | |
| getting on after an abusive relationship | 11/18/2006 |
| Q: I was in a very negative relationship that was both mentally and physically abusive. It ended very ... A: It sounds like the first guy was a teacher how not to be. There are two types of teachers, those who ... | |
| Abusive Husband | 11/17/2006 |
| Q: maybe you misunderstood the question. the husband isn't abused the wife is. so why recommend ... A: Perhaps you did not understand my answer. I personally feel that any woman that is being abused ... | |
| abusive?? boyfriend | 11/14/2006 |
| Q: My very first relationship. I'm 16..he is 17. Absolutely sweet, kind, adorable and makes me feel ... A: It is well documented that steroids cause psychosis and violence in abusers. The next thing he hits ... | |
| mental abuse | 10/29/2006 |
| Q: I have been engaged to a man for about a year who is an attorney and who has been so giving to ... A: You need to set some boundaries and tell him if he is going to be critical of you, you do not wish ... | |
| Will this feeling ever change? | 10/17/2006 |
| Q: I have recently come to realize that I am in a verbally abusive relationship. I started counseling ... A: It is possible to find clarity and serenity anywhere, including in an abusive relationship. However, ... | |
| jealous/insecure boyfriend? | 10/9/2006 |
| Q: It is funny you ask that. I AM 35 and he is 43, neither of us ever married. I know all of this is ... A: As I teach emotional maturity courses, I would say that your lines of communication are a bit rusty. ... | |
| Relationships | 10/7/2006 |
| Q: ive been seeing a girl for almost two years and i like her alo but im starting to like her friend ... A: You are faced with a dilemma, because if you make a play for the friend and it fizzles she is sure ... | |
| abuse? | 10/1/2006 |
| Q: I have a simple quesstion. I have been married for about 2 years. My wife is Korean and I moved to ... A: I believe every state now has a "No fault divorce", which means that all you need to show is that ... | |
| Boyfriend's drinking getting worse and worse. | 9/27/2006 |
| Q: I am 23 and my boyfriend is 26. We've been together for about 9 yrs. When my boyfriend was 17 he ... A: You need to start attending meetings of Alanon, which is a support group for people effected by ... | |
| What happened to my relationship? | 9/25/2006 |
| Q: My relationship just ended, i was with that guy for almost a year and a half. During that time, he ... A: You are not responsible for his behavior, he is acting like a six year old. You are responsible for ... | |
| abusive relationships | 9/11/2006 |
| Q: I wanted to know if statistics show that if children grow up in an abusive home that they meaning ... A: I am the victim of an abusive childhood and my experience is that many of my character traits and ... | |
| How can I help the man I love? | 9/5/2006 |
| Q: James, I have been with my fiance' since March 2006. We were living together since the middle of ... A: I expect that he will go get another dose of abuse and then come running back to you. Some people ... | |
| Dealing with Silent Treatment | 8/29/2006 |
| Q: It's much appreciated, but he would never go to therapy. What would you suggest that I do in this ... A: I agree with your friends and you need to let him go. He has deep emotional problems that trigger ... | |
| Dealing with Silent Treatment | 8/29/2006 |
| Q: I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for the last six years. We have a very good ... A: Sounds like he could use some rage therapy. There is something eating him that has nothing to do ... | |
| the silent treatment | 8/18/2006 |
| Q: A bit of history. My husband and I married 9 years happily. Monday he went snooping on my computer ... A: I believe you owe your husband an apology. You may not have physically cheated on him but you ... | |
| Abuse and Addiction | 8/4/2006 |
| Q: What are the chances of my relationship working out with my boyfriend of 5 years. Mind you, we been ... A: Addiction not only kills you, it kills relationships. Until you both change your behavior, your ... | |
| Enough? | 7/25/2006 |
| Q: If I didn't think he was worth it, I wouldn't be asking if it's something that can be fixed. What ... A: If you asked six counselors what they thought you would get six different answers. My belief is that ... | |
| Enough? | 7/24/2006 |
| Q: James- My name is Sara and I have been married for 6 months. A month after we were married he began ... A: Run, don't walk, away from this man. He is dangerous and -will continue to play you like a yo-yo. He ... | |
| what do you think? | 7/14/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend and I just had a really horrible breakup. we were together for 9 months and we have a ... A: Dera Jala It is really good that you are seeing that old behaviors are causing problems. If you can ... | |
| plz help | 6/28/2006 |
| Q: I'm a mess.I need your help.I don't know how to make this short so I'll put in the highlights. Met ... A: This is really very simple. He is a predator, you are the prey. Get as far away from him as ... | |
| Is this Abuse, illegal or Neither | 6/27/2006 |
| Q: My spouse & I are having an Argument in our bedroom. Our two sons ages 7 & 10 are in the living ... A: Closing the door to protect your children from hearing an argument is not abuse. How you respond to ... | |
| Need advise please | 6/25/2006 |
| Q: i'm 6 years married.About 2 years ago my husband found a new hobby (alcohol) and invested all ... A: The hearing should not take long, although you may have to wait for your case to be called to be ... | |
| Mental Abuse | 6/13/2006 |
| Q: Me and my partner are 40 years old. We see each other once/twice a week, but this changes if he ... A: Run, don't walk, away from this man. He is emotionally, physically, mentally abusing you. You have ... | |
| Looking to change my approach | 6/1/2006 |
| Q: My boyfriend is the sweetest person and cares deeply for me. He will rase his voice when I point out ... A: I think both would help. I would suggest that you preface your requests with "I would really love it ... | |
| Long...sorry, need HELP! | 5/15/2006 |
| Q: Hey yall, hope you can help a little.I'm 54, my bf 46.We've been 2gether off and on over 3 years.I ... A: I am more curious as to how much abuse you will suffer before you realize that this is a sick ... | |
| A Tough One | 4/22/2006 |
| Q: Gee, I hope you can help me.I'll make it short. Met a guy on the net over 3 yrs ago, very rocky ... A: I think your last statement pretty much sums it up. You believe you are hopeless so you put up with ... | |
Abusive Relationships
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I can answer any questions (except legal) about abuse, addiction, or relationships.
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I am a legal, emotional and spiritual counselor with 30 years experience.
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North Carolina State Bar, Georgia State Bar
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