| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
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| Pease hlep!!!! | 4/1/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: So I've been with my boy friend for a year and a half now and we seem to always fight about lots of ...
A: Codie, When I read your letter I googled, "Tolerating an abusive relationship". I was thinking, ...
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| I can't make up my mind. | 4/1/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: Please help me. My boyfriend of 2.5 years completed his graduation from abroad, then came back ...
A: Gemi, This was your first relationship, and you, of course, wanted to make it work. You saw him, ...
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| Bi-Polar Ruined Marriage | 3/31/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: Dr. Springer: I am a 31yof from an abusive childhood and suffering from bipolar disorder.When my ...
A: Sheri, We can live only one moment at a time. Fear would have us anticipate, and feel overwhelmed ...
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| I never received your reply | 3/31/2008 | Dwayne Anderson |
Q: I never received your answer...how do I find it?? Or, could you resend it?
A: alcohol destroys a person's sense of judgement. Often people who get drunk lose control over ...
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| Am I in an abusive relationship? | 3/29/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I have a girlfriend whom I'm with for almost 3 years now. There was a small hint of trouble at the ...
A: James, Sorry for the delay in responding. I have been reflecting on this letter, seeking to ...
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| Help | 3/28/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: the relationship that i am in is not an abusive one but however we have been having alot of ...
A: Summers, My suggestion is that if you truly love this girl like you say you do you should marry ...
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| She Left Me, Is she coming back | 3/26/2008 | Azure |
Q: I am writing this letter seeking for advice from others and as a journal to see if my thoughts ...
A: the reality is this girl has been jerking you around for a LONG time, but your infatuation with her, ...
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| How to handle abusive boyfriend? | 3/26/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: we live together in August of 2007 he started getting mentally abusive I remained calm until ...
A: Kristina, Are you saying that for seven years you and your boyfriend had a good relationship, and ...
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| grown dauther | 3/26/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: Ok here it gos, my stepdauther is 25. about 3 years ago married a guy in jail which she knew during ...
A: your job is to support her until she is willing to hear what you have to say. She would like to ...
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| Abusive & addicted husband | 3/26/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I am 28 years old and in my 2nd marraige. My husband is addicted to crack cocaine and I know I ...
A: Melissa, You have put yourself in your own prison. You CHOOSE to stay and CHOOSE to remain ...
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| Verbal/Emotional Abuse with my c/l spouse who is not working | 3/25/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: How do I deal with my common law of 10 yrs who use to be physically abusive but is no longer (he ...
A: I am sure you touch a soft point for him knowing that he cannot support the family. You can leave, ...
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| a girl i like is in a bad relation ship | 3/24/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: well this girl i like is always smiling and blushing when im near her and i think she likes me back ...
A: Trevor, What are you saying--is it that you need to know how to have this girl recognize that you ...
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| Alcoholic Fiance Wants an Enabler | 3/24/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I currently live with my 33-year-old fiance. He's a professional man with a MBA and a good job. He ...
A: Lynn, Are you being unreasonable by refusing to be an enabler? I think you know the answer to ...
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| Alcoholic Fiance Wants an Enabler | 3/24/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: I currently live with my 33-year-old fiance. He's a professional man with a MBA and a good job. He ...
A: you are right in not enabling him to drink and suggesting that he does not depend on you. ...
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| Fiance Refuses To Grow Up... | 3/24/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I currently live with my 33-year-old fiance. He's a professional man with a MBA and a good job. He ...
A: Lynn, My take on live in relationships are a bit different than some. When two people are living ...
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| Alcoholic Fiance Wants an Enabler | 3/24/2008 | james52144@earthlink.net |
Q: I currently live with my 33-year-old fiance. He's a professional man with a MBA and a good job. He ...
A: I think you are avoiding the bigger question of why do you want to marry someone that will ...
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| is my husband abusive? | 3/24/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: Iam in a confused state of mind and & terribly feeling low and dejected so i kind of need to vent ...
A: it is in your best interest that you leave you are not helping your child nor you. You are teaching ...
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| Trapped in a relationship where I am being psychologically trapped | 3/21/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: I have been in a relationship for a little more than a year now. My partner is a nice girl, but she ...
A: you girl friend is, and did a lot of test with you to see if you can handle her, if you are loyal to ...
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| difficult marraige | 3/20/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: Iam in a confused state of mind and & terribly feeling low and dejected so i kind of need to vent ...
A: Puja, From what you say, you have tried to be a good wife. Many of us learned that it is our duty ...
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| Involved in Abuse, what to do? | 3/17/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: Eugenia. Here it goes; I finally became part of the abuse physically and verbally. This weekend my ...
A: Rather than recommend a book I would suggest that you read up on codependency. Enter "Codependent ...
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| Am I being emotionally abused by my gf? | 3/17/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: (sorry for the long note but it is a complex situation). I am now for 1.5 years with my gf. I am 30 ...
A: you teach people how to treat you with what you accept with them. If you want to stay then stay in ...
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| Am I being emotionally abused by my gf? | 3/16/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: (sorry for the long note but it is a complex situation). I am now for 1.5 years with my gf. I am 30 ...
A: that was a long one, You are not respecting your boundaries and so your girl friend does not ...
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| Abuse/low selfesteem/confused | 3/15/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: I was raised in an abusive household, where my pather physically and emotionally abused my mother. ...
A: congratulation on seeing many of your problems and what you are attracting in your life. You are ...
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| We're not in love with each other, time for divorce? (sorry, this is so long) | 3/15/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: I have a fairly long story I'll attempt to make short. My wife and I were "High School sweethearts". ...
A: yes you have made a lot of mistakes in your relationship and yes it takes two to tango so it is not ...
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| my fiance won't listen to me | 3/14/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: well thats the least of my problems...my fiance and i have been together for over 4 years ...
A: Lisa, Please don't make the mistake of marrying this guy. The problem is you are no longer needed. ...
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| Emotional abusive relationship | 3/12/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: My husband decided to file for divorce and custody of our 2 beautiful children back in October 2007. ...
A: sorry about what you are going through, I know it is not easy for you to think after having two ...
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| I need help... | 3/12/2008 | Azure |
Q: I have been in a rocky marriage for nearly 6 years now. We have a 3 year old daughter. My husband ...
A: the question is, do you really want to spend the rest of your life in "slavery", and for someone who ...
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| mentally abusive | 3/11/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: How do I try to get my husband to understand that the way he talks to the kids and myself and his ...
A: Sandra, Once you agree that you have understood him, you tell him, "thank you, for sharing." If he ...
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| mentally abusive | 3/11/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: How do I try to get my husband to understand that the way he talks to the kids and myself and his ...
A: Sandra, how about changing your response to him. This could be difficult, but instead of reacting ...
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| my cousin | 3/11/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: My cousin is in a abusive relationship with her boyfriend. SHe has a one year old baby girl and she ...
A: You cannot change another until they are ready to do so. What you can do is bring your cousin to ...
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| abuse | 3/11/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: My boyfriend and i have been dating now for almost a year and a 1/2. I'm 19 and he's 21 and we moved ...
A: Alison, I am sorry that you feel so lonely that you felt you had to push yourself on to this young ...
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| so confused | 3/10/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: Hey! I'm 24 years old and have been seeing my boyfriend for 3 years off and on. At first things were ...
A: You are not the important person in his life. He is not choosing you first he is choosing himself ...
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| don't know what to do, I'm worried | 3/10/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: I am sorry as this may be a bit long but I'll try and keep it short.I left my ex husband of 14yrs ...
A: You are in a lot of trouble. You doing things to keep the peace but it is not working this person ...
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| abusive boyfriends | 3/10/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: i am with a man that can be the most wonderful man in the world.but the only problem is his temper ...
A: Your boyfriend will not change until he get some help in therapy. If you want to help him stop ...
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| Am I really to blame? | 3/9/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: I hope to keep this short as it is a long problem. Let me start by saying I am a mother of 5....4 ...
A: Sunshine, There is a difference between love and common sense. I like to fall on the side of common ...
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| mentally abusive | 3/7/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: How do I try to get my husband to understand that the way he talks to the kids and myself and his ...
A: Sandra, One way you can possibly get your husband to understand that the way he talks to the kids ...
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| my marriage | 3/7/2008 | David Simonsen |
Q: He is a very verbally abusive man he don't use the words like bitch or any like that he calls me ...
A: Amanda, Instead of trying to leave just do it. This kind of abuse will kill you. If you have family ...
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| so confused | 3/6/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: I ended an 11 year marriage last summer as I was not in love with the man. It was the most ...
A: you left one relationship and went to another without giving yourself time to heal. You are afraid ...
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| is he controlling me | 3/6/2008 | Francis Hosein |
Q: i'm in a 5yr relationship with my partner we have 2 kids but we seem to be on a downward spiral our ...
A: you were given this name because of the force in your name is powerful it was a woman in the bible ...
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| abusive husband | 3/6/2008 | Eugenia Springer, Ph.D. |
Q: I know I am emotionally and mentally abused- the physical abuse started mild and is escalating- I am ...
A: Lisa, It helps to talk. As you open up your heart to others, and talk about your burden, you ...
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