Expert: james52144@earthlink.net - 5/8/2007

Question
Hello
I have left my 'husband' a few months ago and have avoided all contact with him. Since his has been served with 2 temporary domestic violence orders and he is a perpetrator (consecutive). An ex-workmate put straight away a girl from overseas in his contact. The perpetrator has recently been diagnosed with mentally disorders (no cure, no medication) and his alcoholic. He had 2 marriages in 4 years but inform at the last minute and when married, the mask drops, violence. The girl before: violence.

I know the girl's contact number and I have prepared a letter for her human resources to read but I have not mailed it yet. My concern about not contacting her direct, even though my letter may sound convincing, is that she would not believe me and I may be in trouble with her contacting the monster.
I have been through terrible time, left with nothing at all from being happy and successful. I have PTSD from him. I am sure that he did not tell her anything and that he is still married.

What should I do? and do I have the right to inform her, by what way is the best? I live in Australia, Queensland.

Thank you so much .... for telling me how can I help her avoiding extremely miserable time ahead.

Answer
Dear Lianne

I would not put anything in writing. I would simply call her up and ask to meet her and then tell her what you know. Beyond that, you need to get on with your life and heal the wounds you have incurred. It is not your job to protect everyone that might meet him. That is their karma. I suggest you get some counseling for your pain and suffering. Good luck.