Expert: james52144@earthlink.net - 7/14/2006

Question
My boyfriend and I just had a really horrible breakup. we were together for 9 months and we have a child on the way. we both got in minor trouble during our huge fight but his being a little bit more serious trouble than mine. I know your not offering any legal advice and i'm not looking for any but i was just wondering do u think there is a chance for him and me to get over our problems and be together again? a little background info on us: we were best friends before we became a couple, after that we moved in with each other and were around each other constantly. we have our fights and sometimes i used to lash out on him and i think i turned him into something he was not because after a while he would respond to me how i initially responded to him, any kind of way. i feel really bad about it because i brought baggage from my past abusive relationship where i was the victim and the same things i vowed to never let happen to me again i realize i did to my new boyfriend. i'm still in love with him and miss him so much and wonder how can i go about repairing out relationship?i'm really lonely and confused right now without him and need some advice. thanks a lot  

Answer
Dera Jala

It is really good that you are seeing that old behaviors are causing problems. If you can name it, you can heal it. I would recommend counseling, there are many counselors that offer free services, such as pastoral counselors, etc.

Good luck.