Expert: Azure - 4/8/2006

Question
Well first of all I'll tell you about it. My boyfriend and I were dating for about nine months and we have been kinda rocky throught out the last 4 mnths or so. His father killed himself March 23rd of last year and it seems to me that my boyfriend is still dealing with the issue and on top of it his mom is 5 months pregnant with another guys child. Our relationship was so romantic and wonderful then he seemed to start yelling at me at the top of his lungs when he got mad and always ended up leaving and moving home when we argued. Then he asked me to marry him and I saidd yes but it seemed to just be a thing that he would call of everytime we fought. soon he would leave and I would call him crying because I loved him and figured something was bugging him and I would forgive him and tell him to come home. Then he began to push me around when we fought and started to tell me that he was better than me and i didnt deserve him but would later say he was sorry and come home. Now I filed a report on him from the last fight because I was 6 wks pregnant and he threw me against the wall and gave me a huge bruise but I knew he would end up getting kicked out of the military if he got the warrant issued to him. now his family say they dont want anything to do with me or this baby and I havent talked to him since but they say If he gets served then they will file reports against me for what i'm not sure and ruin my life and we would never have a future for the baby. Do i try to drop them and hope after basic he grows up or do i keep going with it? I love him so much and think he just needs anger management or counceling but He wont even tAlk to me about it. His mom hates me and the recruiter wont even tell me where he is.

Answer
if you stay in this, it would be YOU that needs the counseling; the man has ALL KINDS of issues; any guy that would physically abuse a women, and PREGNANT no less, should be jailed for a long time; the only reason you've allowed him to abuse you is due to your total lack of self-esteem, and a complete dependence on the relationship; as to filing a report, that's up to you, but whether you do or don't, you need to tell the jerk you're through, then never deal with him again, as he will only get WORSE..