Expert: Azure - 7/21/2006

Question
My husband and I have been married for about 7 months now. We have known each other for almost two years. When we were just dating, he seemed to be the perfect guy. He was nice and sweet. After we got married he started being violent towards me. He was violent with himself before. Now, he yells, calls me name, and hit me. Not once did he say sorry for these things because he kept saying that I started it. I know I have said some things to him that he didnt agree with or hurt him but I dont think I deserve to be hit like I have no life. I have thought about leaving him many times but everytime I mention it to him, things get worse and I get hurt more. I just want to leave and take my daughter with me but he tells me that I will never see my daughter if I ever leave. The respect I have for him is getting less and less to the point that I want revenge. I already know that it's a big mistake actually moving to a different country to be with him just so he could treat me the way he does. I cried many times since I started living him. I am full of regrets. I'll never regret my daughter but being with him, I do. How do I get out of this abusive relationship when he tells me that he'll take my daughter away and to never see her. We're both in the Military and I can't seek help with the military authorities because they will do more than what I ask. Everybody will know about my business. And I also do not want him to get in trouble.

Answer
you find a good attorney, make plans to leave and go far away, taking the daughter with you; i don't see how or why HE would get her; this is pretty important; whatever the authorites do, or who finds out, pales in comparison to the consequences of you and her staying with this maniac any longer...