Expert: Azure - 7/30/2007

Question
My daughter is 23 and live at home. Her boyfriend is a very jealous guy. He has 2 children from a previous relationship. He doesn't see these children. His exgirlfriend supposely cheated on him. Now he has to be alway touching my daugher, if we go somewhere he must always have his arm around her, kissing her. He comes in after work and waits in her room until she gets home. At night they go in her bedroom. Our rules say he must leave before 11 on weeknights. Well he seems to make his own rules and leave at 3:45AM to go home and get ready for work. When we go to parties he gets jealous and pissed off because he saids she spends more attention to other guys and girls that are at the party then to him. This has happened two weekends in a row at picnics of our friends. My Daughter knew these people since she was like 5. At their work christmas party he got jealous and mad because she was dancing with a family friend who is married and also got her the job. When he gets jealous she must kiss up to him and then can not leave his side the rest of the night. He goes everywhere with her. She can not even go get her haircut or nails done without him.
One of the first weeks he was dating her. she said something to me like we are going shopping tommorow and he said you better take advantage of it now because it dont going to last long. That was back in Sept since then we only went shopping without hiim when he was at class like once or twice. He always has to go with us. He just walks in my house, washs up and sometimes takes a shower without even asking. He has also got jealous one time when we were talking about the flower she had for her prom 5 years ago. My questions is it me or do you think he is controlling?

Answer
is the pope catholic?...the man is essentially a sociopath, in need of inpatient therapy; do whatever you can to get her to see this, strongly suggest counseling, otherwise he will ruin her life, and yours; ps you CAN better control what goes on in your house; figure out what the REQUIREMENTS are for both him AND her, and INFORM them--if not adhered to, they BOTH should leave....don't let him control what goes on in YOUR house...